Your own immaturity
In response to Mitra Riaz's "Guys
By Kourosh Saghafi
March 29, 2004
First of all let me say that unlike what you claimed
at the start of your letter, you have an absolute command of
language, far beyond what you can
possibly begin to imagine. One can not help but be impressed by your unbelievably
appropriate use and incredible, award-worthy choice of foul words. Only if there
was an Emmy
or something along that line for such illustrations.
But in analyzing your claim, bashing Iranian men
in general, just like most girls in your own age group have graciously
done over time, I take it that
this is probably your first shot at love in a foreign country (Australia?).
Of course I have no idea on how extensive of a background you had back in Iran,
but for the sake of argument I am assuming you have not been "actively
engaged" in anything too serious back in your pre-teen years.
This is a much too common mistake. You are in a
party or a gathering and meet this nice looking fellow, and there
you are talking and chit chatting away
and before you know it it hits you. This is it! this is The One. But it turnes
out he's a jackass (to adhere to your style of writing) and here
you are unleashing your anger on most, if not all, Iranian man,
the internet publicly.
Please don't get me wrong: there might be a few bad
apples out there, but that is not limited to just the Iranian gang and
honestly I think
the seed had been sown by those same Aussies, Americans and even Indians,
in some cases.
Now, I would like to assume that you come from a
decent family or background and naturally believe and adhere and
and religiously the basic
rules of dating and/or starting a relationship. And I seriously
hope I am not mistaken, because when someone comes down so hard on men
such as what you did in your complaint,
then she'd better be error-free, with an impeccably clean image and incredibly
At the risk of sounding too cocky or arrogant, I
can say that I have come cross many like you and interestingly
same age range
overwhelemed by emotions, unrealistic expectations, and driven by
an immature desire to jump into a relationship without even contemplating
their moves and
the consequences .
Simply put, I don't think you did your homework,
and you were this man's "girl" for
4 weeks! which is all too surprising, given that you probably had known
certain things about this guy from the beginning based on his behavior
At any rate, you demonstrated an immaturity of your
own by resorting to such foul and nasty language about this guy
and even worse, expanding
on to other Iranian males.
With regards to Indian men, I agree with
you 100%: they are sharp, with a tidy and clean image, hardworking...
but don't get
your hopes too high and don't let that sqeaky clean demeanor fool
Good luck in
your future hunt for Mr. Right.
goodbye to spam!