December 21 2000
Nothing to condemn or condone
I personally can not think of any reason why Maryam
and Darryl's picture would be posted on this site.
By the way, congratulations to the newly weds. May they pave the path
of prosperity with their love. If they did not give consent to having
their picture posted on the Iranian, then that's a whole other foul issue
on its own.
Termeh asserts that there need not be any personal attacks toward Maryam
the line"]. Well, if the picture was not to be published in
the first place, then I would have to completely agree with her. It is
unfortunate that folks choose to express their enmity through hostile words
and direct attacks.
However, if this picture was posted with their permission and the Iranian.com's
purpose to raise a controversial issue by gloating over an interracial
marriage, then I would have to say, take it. It's controversy you were
seeking in the first place, and now that you have it, you complain? Arguments
are what life is all about. In order to attain viable solutions to our
issues, first we must learn how to argue without allowing our frissons
of resentment take control of our judgment of how we express ourselves
to one another.
Of course, there should be no holding back. Those of you who disagree,
let it all out in an affable manner so that you won't piss off the other
folks. And some of you gung-ho liberals seem as if you're abetting interracial
relationships. I mean give it a rest for god's sake. Calling all Iranians
bigots and racists and what not. Incidentally that is tantamount to referring
to all black people as dope-pushers and pimps.
So as I said, put a lid on your hypocrisy and then proceed with the
discussion. Yes, we all know how cultivated you have become in the land
of freedom and how you're vehemently pushing yourself toward cultural expansion
and chiseling away at some of the more abysmal and outmoded components
of our own culture. However, until you can actually show something new
to some of us forlorn members of the global Iranian community-instead of
just breeding more dissention by flaunting your hate-contaminated erudition-you
should put your pedantry back in your pockets and take a debate course.
And of course the same goes for all of you folks who are against cross-cultural
relationships. If genuine admiration exists between a man and a woman,
then their marriage will prosper as it will perish if there existed reasons
other than the aforementioned. Either way, this matter is nothing to condone
or condemn. It is an arcane force between a male and a female and only
time will tell if it were to prove effete or immortal.
So why not wish them the best and continue or conclude our discussions
in peace so that we don't make the same mistakes as our forefathers and
dispel ourselves farther from one another tarnishing what little is left
of our unity and gashing new scars in our culture.