Iranians in Psychotherapy : Story of a Bottle of Water

Yesterday I submitted an article outlining the factors that prevent us from benefiting from psychotherapy: “Becoming sane without going carzy“.  I appreciate your comments.

Today I would like to elaborate on the “Blame” factor.  As I mentioned we have a tendency to balme others and circumstances for our sufferings. But I believe that we have the power to change our life by changing ourselves.

Perhaps the best way to clarify this point is to tell you the story of a couple who came to me for marriage counseling.  Mrs X bitterely complained about her husband’s temper.  

“When he gets angry he explodes.  He screams, slams the doors, breaks things and calls me horrible names. I can not go on like this anymore.” She said crying.  

Mr X calmly turned to me and said “Mina Khanoom I am not a violent man. I work very hard all day long.  When I come home I need some peace and quiet.  But my wife does not leave me alone.  She constantly criticizes me. She nags, complains and makes life a living hell. You see I am like a bottle of gasoline. As long as I am left alone nothing happens. But if someone puts a lit match to me, then of course I explode.” 

I thought for a second and said “Mr X,I have a very important question for you that I would like you to think about.  How do you think things would have been different if you were a bottle of water ?”

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