One of the most challenging tasks facing the couples is coping with anger. Anger is by far, the most common emotional reaction to the difficulties that couples encounter on a daily basis. The result of an informal survery of Iranian couples, whom I have worked with during the past twenty years, indicate that the issues that are most frequently argued about are: difficulties with in-laws (80% to 90%), financial problems (60%), disagreement on how to raise children (65%), sexual issues (55%), and unfair division of household chores (45%). Nearly all couples fight about the issues of control, jealousy , criticism, and emotional withdrawl of the spouse.
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Questions:
1) How does your significant other (spouse, girlfriend, fiance) make you angry ? An example could be “I have told my spouse not to argue with me in front of his/her family, a hundred times, but he/she continues to do that.”
2) Why do you respond with anger? What do you think he/she is telling you ? A response might be “because this shows that he/she has no respect for me.” Another response might be “because he/she is trying to hurt me.”.
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