What is it with entitled Persian men who think they are God’s gift to the world?! You know the type — he shows interest in you but sends mixed signals as to what he really wants. After months of hanging out, going on dates, he begrudgingly concedes that you guys are ‘dating’, but ultimately refuses to take the next step in the relationship (commitment) because in his mind – wait for it – that would be too much of a compromise. As far as he’s concerned he’s a helluva’ catch, a trophy of sorts and you’re made to feel lucky that he’s even giving you the time of day.
Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of great Persian guys out there, but there are too many that grow up to be self-absorbed, narcissistic jerks.
Persian mothers who indirectly or directly overly-nurture their precious sons; so much so that they grow up to be insecure, entitled, narcissistic men.
Here’s how it starts…
1. They unintentionally create a master/servant relationship
They cook and clean for them, acquiescing to their every request…even into their adult years. This servant-like behavior often means that Persian guys expect the same treatment from their girlfriend/wife.
2. They make excuses for them
He got in a fight at school? Ey Vay! It must be the other kids’ fault. He shoplifted? Na baba, eenFake news-eh. He verbally berated his sister? Eybi nadare, mohem nist.
As Persian mothers continue to make excuses for their sons bad behavior, they grow up never having to take responsibility for their actions. I know you love him and want to protect him, but accountability is needed from time to time.
3. They can’t let go. Ever.
Sorry, but at some point mom needs to stop babying her 20-something year old son and kick him out of the house. I know that Persian guys love living in the basement of their parents house, but come on already, you’re a grown man!
By depriving him of much-needed life experiences, his growth is hindered and he becomes all too dependent on mom. And as a result…
4. Persian guys seek their mom’s approval
After a lifetime of being babied, many Persian guys long for their mother’s approval into their 20s, 30s, heck, even 40s+ . Rather than encourage their sons to be more independent and make their own decision(s), Persian mothers are all too happy to butt-in and influence outcomes—usually to the tune of, “she’s not good enough for you”.
The result? A bache naneh who is scared to make his own decisions.