Wednesday
December 27, 2000
Thank god for women's freedom
In response to Bahram ["Terrorize
women..."] and Mr. Yamini ["Iran
has seen worse..."]:
Bahram, let me get this straight. You are publicly advocating "terrorism"
against Iranian women if they choose to date or love men outside their
nationality and race. For the sake of debate, and also for me to understand
your reasoning, I'd like you or anybody else who agrees with you, to answer
the following questions:
What purpose and who's purpose do you think it would serve to force
an Iranian woman to be with an Iranian man whom she doesn't love or prevent
her from being with a man she loves?
Do you suggest we should terrorize Iranian men who fall in love with
non-Iranian women and choose to be with them?
How exactly should we terrorize Iranian women? Should we use the tactics
in Iran? In Arabia? In Africa? Do those tactics work? Are they right?
Do you think terrorizing Iranian women will make them love Iranian men
more? Can you force love or desire?
Do you think that oppressing female sexuality works in favor of men
or against men?
How far would you go in oppressing a female's sexual and emotional desires?
Forced marriages? Physical isolation? Cultural ostracism ? Female circumcision?
In my opinion, there are reasons why young Indian women in the U.S.
refuse to date and marry Indian men. Or why Asian women find American men
more affectionate and desirable than their own Asian men.
Nothing but goodness and love can bring love. Women are just as deserving
of love and fulfillment as men are, and everyone on earth should thank
god that more and more women have the freedom every day to find love and
fulfillment. The more women can love, the more love there is on earth.
I am all for Iranians marrying Iranians, but I resent your defense of
these oppressive and chauvinistic cultures in the name of perserving Iranian
culture and nation. Your ideas are a disgrace to all Iranian men, to Iranian
culture, and to humanity. I'm just waiting anxiously to hear the responses
of Iranian men who read The Iranian.
I think Iranian men like you must reform themselves to learn that they
must earn the love and affection of Iranian women or they will lose them.
It's very simple. You do not inherently have a right to an Iranian woman's
heart simply because you are Iranian. You must offer her true love and
respect and earn her affection. Iranian women have the courage and heart
to marry outside their race or culture for love.
Maryam
and many like her have done so. I applaud them. If a woman does marry outside
her nationality, then she probably wasn't fulfilled somehow by an Iranian
man. Maybe emotionally, sexually, intellectually. Who knows? Maybe by all
three. Is that the problem maybe? Do Iranian men feel inferior???? Was
the entire manhood of the Iranian nation taken away by one fabulous Iranian
woman marrying a non-Iranian? Awww....
How pathetic.
As for Mr. Yamini ["Iran
has seen worse..."]. Sir, your pseudo-intellectual explanation
of racism does not hide the fact that you are a bigot. Neither does your
claim to being part of a "silent majority." If this is true,
and you are their spokesperson, thank you for speaking up for those Iranian
bigot cowards.
For the record, this is a free forum, everyone has the opportunity to
write. There is not one group of frightened racists and another group of
intellectual rebels. Mr. Yamini, if you see few people writing about your
views, maybe it's because they don't agree with you, or maybe it's because
your racism and bigotry are indefensible; your ignorance is exposed at
first glance. I am not insulting you. I am stating fact.
I don't care that you are a racist. Be a racist and admit that your
mind is small, but don't you dare commit the Iranian nation to your ignorant
views, don't you dare make a connection between our rich culture of love
and tolerance and your pea-sized brain. And if you do, you better believe
that I, as an Iranian woman, will be vocal and will fight your characterization
of my culture. I'll be damned before I sit here and not condemn your hate
in the name of Iranian culture.
The color of skin and skeletal features do not endure time, Mr. Yamini;
there is nothing valuable about them. They change with the evolution of
nature. Love is what endures and last for eternity, and that alone will
decide the evolution of nature. Love, goodness, and kindness are the fundamentals
of our rich and ancient culture not the ignorance, fear, and hate which
you promulgate. Remember, Pendaar-e nik, Kerdaar-e nik, Goftaar-e nik;
those are the fundamentals which are Iranian.
I am not for or against interracial marriages. Humans should support
human bonds based on love. It should be no surprise that interracial children
are the most beautiful on this planet. They, more than any other, were
made from bonds of love.
History should teach us all a lesson. An Iranian woman will adapt and
survive, despite the obstacles put before her, but force will not buy her
love, her passion, or her obedience. And there's no doubt that an Iranian
woman's heart is her ultimate ruler.
Dokhi Fassihian
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