Do we approve of kindness in Iranian .com?

Tahirih

Mona is indeed a kind hearted lady. I don't think that I've ever seen anything she has written or commented on that was mean-spirited in anyway.  That stands in sharp contrast to the slash and burn commentary made by some which is intended only to hurt and humiliate others.  I hope that she returns soon, but if she doesn't, she will not have been the first to go and she won't be the last either.  Please share with her this blog that I wrote recently.  I think it expresses exactly how I feel about those who abuse others on this wonderful site. Here's the link.

//iranian.com/main/blog/sadchicagodad/noses-and-fights-should-be-picked-care

I don't agree with Nezanin

Mona is far too sensitive and her heart is far too open to be able to withstand attacks the way most of us can, and all she ever says over and over again is God bless you, thank you, and people should have the goddam sense to shut up and leave her alone if they don't like that.  And if they're so dense that they need to be told, then someone should do it.  Thanks Tahirih.

Anyway, I'm sure Mona would get little satisfaction from posting anonymous barbed comments.  Nothing is sacred except what is sacred and what is saccred is what is DECENT.

"If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen."  Why?  Maybe the kitchen needs a renovation.

For Mona Jan ...

If this  advice can help from my dear ol' Buddy Jimmy Stewart:

//www.youtube.com/watch?v=iRegHln7_FQ&feature=related

In this World Mona you must be Oh so Smart or Oh So Pleasant ...

For Years I was Smart ... I recommend Pleasant ! -Jimmy Stewart actor

Well, she will return if

Well, she will return if she misses this place. I went through that phase too. I hope she comes back. A wise man told me once "GET OVER IT".

- Being frank is not unkind. Nor is it dark, bitter etc

I wrote a comment a couple of days ago regarding a foot that appeared to be too fat for a certain type of shoe. I was ordered to delete my comment (ok more like threatened). At first, I edited the comment and then decided to delete it all together. Sure it's not nice to call someone fat but if there is a picture of a foot in a shoe with no body, I can interpret what I see. On the subject of kindness, the command to edit my comment inculded this phrase:

"Honesty is good--but only when it's clear that what you're commenting about is indeed true"

This is absurd. How can anyone ever be sure of what is true or not? We live based on our perceptions. Furthermore, when all the facts are missing, truth becomes a flexible game. The foot appeared too fat for the shoe! Besides, who is to judge what is good or bad?

I was told I was not "tasteful" which is the same as unkind in my book. Em...so what? Why must we be well mannered all the time? I didn't insult anyone because the person is anonymous. If they weren't anonymous, either they're fat (in which case my honesty is TRUE) or they're not (which means I wasn't unkind and the photographer took a random picture and I made a random comment). You see what I'm getting at? It's a bore, a useless game.

- Also, this is an anonymous world. Mona jan could have another ID under which she is very mean. I mean it's possible. Not probable. But let's just get over this. Say what you must and moderators will judge if something is inappropriate. Other than that, if one chooses to become public here, one has to face HARSH words. That's why it's good that she is anonymous! The APU supports her and is willing to give her a union lawyer free of charge.

Ghorbunetun

Even if honesty is sometimes not well mannered it doesn't mean it's unkind. We are used to tarof and subdued criticism. That's not good. There are PLENTY of kind material and comments on this site.

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What intellectuals?

First of all, Tahirih, do not be deceived by the dry, analytical tone of some writers here.  They are not intellectuals.  This site does not attract primarily intellectuals, it is targeted to what is called a "mddle-brow" audience.  Many of the true Iranian intellectuals are busy, for example, working with Yashater.

Second of all, the true intellectuals who ARE here, and there are quite a few, would NEVER insult Mona.  Jamshid is an intellectual and I have seen him praise her.

A true intellectual would never attack Mona either because they know she frees them from the rigid boundaries that intellect imposes and they are grateful, or because they understand that Mona's writings are not supposed to be intellectual, and therefore lie outside the arena of critique. Or both.

Think about it.  Do not be deceived by these "intellectuals".

Come back Mona jan!!!

Mona is one of the sweetest, kindest, most considerate iranian.com'er.

I totally enjoy reading her blogs and her comments in all other blogs. She sounds peaceful, cheerful and very kind.

Sweetness, kindness and humanity are not a sign of weakness, actually they are an indication of a strong personality. Mona is a wonderful lady and I hope she does not leave...

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