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My dream or my parents
Time for me to decide what I want to be in my life

By Fatemeh Parsa
January 8, 2003
The Iranian

In our lifetime we have to make a lot of decisions, some are very easy and some are very hard but we still have to make them.

Well, once in our whole life we come to the point that we have to choose between our dreams and desires and our logic. What would you choose if you get to this point? That's a very hard question and you will never know the answer until you are in that situation. Even if you are in that situation, it's still hard to choose.

Everyone has a different opinion about whether it's better to choose dreams and desires or logic and there are also people who don't have the slightest idea about it (mostly young people cause they don't have a lot of experience and that's ok.)

To tell you the truth I'm one of those people having difficulties with making this particular decision.

Even though I'm a little bit behind the usual schedule which other young Iranians are doing,, now is the time for me to decide what I want to be in my life; to find the biggest goal of mine that I desperately want to achieve.

Well, I think I know what I want to be but that's not enough. Me as an Iranian girl cannot become what I want to be just because I want to. There are a lot of things that corrupts and influences my decision.

For example we all want to make our parents proud of us and we already know that they want the best for us. But they also expect a lot from us. They all wants us to become doctors and engineers and lawyers cause then we can make a lot of money and have a lot of respect in the society, which is not a bad thing.

On the contrary, this might be what we all are seeking: To have an easy life with a lot of respect. But is this our dream? Is this the only thing we what to achieve? Is this our biggest goal? I don't know about you but this is definitely not what I've always dreamed of.

Do you think that this is all our parents think? Well, you are wrong! They also think that if my children get to this point (become doctors and lawyers) I can show the whole family and all my friends that this is my son or my daughter and I brought them up like this, so the rest of the family can use you as a model for their younger children.

But what if the way you are choosing is not exactly what they have chosen for you (what they have dreamed about)? Then you are in big trouble. If you choose their way, you will not be happy for the rest of your life -- but you will make them proud of you. And if you choose your way and your dream, they won't accept your choice and won't be proud of you for a very long time.

Now you have to ask yourself, am I going to give up my dream for my parent's dream or...?!

And that is exactly what I'm doing right now. I've asked this question a hundred times but I still have no answer for it.

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