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Is it true?
Do you eat with your hands?
August 21, 2002
The Iranian
Although the Iranian Diaspora seems to be one of the most successful migrant community
in the world in adpating to host culture, it has not been smart enough to learn one
of the most fundamental Western traits. Namely, that of setting one's differences
aside and rallying around issues of common importance.
I was assigned to the Iranian Embassy in Norway as a Minister-Consular from 1968
to 1973, when the debate for or against holding the 2,500-year celebrations att Persepolis
was in full swing.
One night our best diplomat friend, Senior Lasidess, the Ambassador of Colombia in
Oslo, invited my wife and I to attend a "sitting" dinner party at their
Embassy.
Senior Lasidess did not speak Norwegian or English. He only spoke his native Spanish.
However since I spoke Italian we could understand each other and had become very
good friends. His wife was a beautiful Japanese, whom he had met during an earlier
assignment in Tokyo. Prior to taking his post as Ambassador to Oslo, he was Minister
of Education.
Ambassadorial seated dinners are semi-official functions, usually attended with elegant
evening dresses for the ladies and black smoking attires for men. At the dinner table
of twelve, I was placed to the right of the hostess.
A well-known Norwegian journalist was seated right opposite me at the majestic mahogany
dinning table. Suddenly out of the blue this correspondent from the other side of
the dinner table burst out: "Mr. Hakimi, is it true that in Iran you
eat with your hands?"
"Perhaps sir, it may be true," I replied, "but your question is
a manifestation of the depth of your ignorance and affrontery."
Suddenly there was complete silence in the dinning room.
Then I added: "Sir, by this inquiry you imply that
the inventors of knives, spoons, forks, bowls, plates, chairs, dinning tables or
any other dinning utensils are Europeans. But if you go to Persepolis, a place difficult
to avoid nowadays given all the publicity about the site, then you will find the
specimen of all these utensils in the archeological museum. You should also have
a good look at the stone carvings for the same utensils engraved on the walls and
staircases of that colossal palace. And if you remember that the Persians erected
Persepolis 2,500 years ago, then you should also realize that at that time you were
just cavemen! True, we do eat with our hands too, the same way that you eat your
Pizzas, sandwiches, fish and chips in a piece of paper and with your fingers. That
makes life so enjoyable and colorful, doesn't it, sir? If you examine the history
of your Royal families up until a 100 years ago, they ate with their hands and threw
the bones back over their heads?"
Needless to say, what remained of the dinner party passed in absolute silence. Nobody
uttered a word. Following the dinner the guests just vanished. I apologized to Senior
Lasidess and his wife for ruining their party.
Senior Lasidess, with a very friendly gesture patted me on the shoulder and replied:
"Dear man, do not worry. These arrogant snobs, especially their journalists
who think they know it all and have nothing to learn from anyone, had it coming."
He added, "I am fed up with their arrogance and prejudice towards us."
I forgot to mention that Senior Lasidess was a fantastic
cook. He attended to his guests with a long white chef's hat. His dinner parties
were the talk of town.
Yet some of us Iranians believe that the 2,500-year celebrations were a shameful
blunder, both inside as well as out side of our country! I for one have no comments.
But one point remains and that is, regardless of our inherent dissension on whether
these celebrations were necessary or not, we should always try to set out our differences
aside when it involves dealing with outsiders on matters involving the prominence
of our country and our national interests.
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