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Most men prefer younger girls. But in the civilized world most men know that won't work. So why can't Iranian men figure that out?

By Sheila K.
September 19, 2003
The Iranian

When my friend was visiting from Iran, I suggested putting up her profile on an Iranian matchmaking site. Now I deeply regret doing that. I should have known better.

My friend, who will remain anonymous, is a very attractive looking lady in her early 40s. More importantly, she is a warm hearted, honest, and a genuine friend. She is divorced with a 13-year-old son. She sacrificed most of her younger years living in Iran to raise her child -- mostly due to her bad marital experience here, and her family's support back home.

Now, that her son is growing up, she realizes that it's time for her to move on with her life and find herself a partner. Of course I don't know of anyone in the area. But I suggested looking up personals on the Internet.

Not knowing much about Internet matchmaking ordeal, she reluctantly agreed to put her profile on the To my happy-surprise (being that I am an Americanized, stupid, honest, girl) there were many men that fit her category. So I thought!

Days passed after her profile was posted, but there were no replies. As I recalled, there were plenty of men in their 40s and 50s, divorced, kids, and so on. But none responded to her profile. To test the water, I created another profile with similar characteristics but dazzled it up a bit. Again, there were no responses.

To make the story short, I finally created a phony profile of a young woman in her mid 20s seeking a man between 30 to 40 years of age-no older than 40. To my astonishment, there were ton of emails on my mail box from men in their 40s, even so called "early 50s". Hmm! I wonder why that happened?

I understand most men in the world, older ones in particular, prefer younger girls. But in the civilized world most men - not all - know that won't work. So why can't Iranian men figure that out? Especially Iranian-Americans?

I noticed that in Iranian personals so many Iranian men disguised their age, their past marital status, to win the heart of twentysomething girls -- preferably virgins.

What's even funnier, is the profile of young girls from Iran who are seeking basically any man from abroad (preferably the US) regardless of his age or marital status. Now that by itself is another sad topic. So I learned my lesson of looking up Iranian personals. Maybe I should look up the American sites. After all she's fluent in English. So language shouldn't be an issue. I am now very curious to see how the Americans will respond to her profile!?
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