Faramarz

 Dear Nazy: I have a

 Dear Nazy: I have a question for you. What if this woman was you own daugher? Would you still feel the same? Remember OJ Simpson? He was a hero before and did a lot of charity work before he killed his wife.

A state of war only serves as an excuse for domestic tyranny.--Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn.

I am appalled by commenters

I am appalled by commenters like KN and Aynak. Could they be more transparent about their medieval sexist attitudes? People like these two are a threat to society as a whole.

Battering any live creature on this earth is barbaric and criminal. 

 A state of war only serves as an excuse for domestic tyranny.--Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn.

Faramarz

Middle-aged Iranian men who hoot for naked women on this site, and spend hours discussing the contour and breast sizes of women young enough to be their daughters or grand-daughters, are not quite qualified to judge other men's conduct and behavior.

While nobody knows what will happen to Ross Mirkarii's political career, I am glad he has to go to counseling. That is a very good start.

Dear Nazy

A agree with your comment wholeheartedly.

“Ross Mirkarimi is more Iranian that some who only claim to be Iranians.”.

I agree. He has done good stuff and he has done a criminal act. Everything has its own place.

“While some have a festive time in this blog ….”

I do condemn the following trivial and clownish comments  ("having festive time") about Ross Mirkarimi.

1) by Cost-Of-Progress:
“This is about a guy who likes to "mingle" with women...hispanic ones, it seems”,

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2)by Esfand:
Mirkarimi in thongs!
I thought we didn't have gays in Iran!

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3) Yara:
NOW, that's a good Erooni reality show :)
shad zee

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4)By Faramarz
Iranians Have Arrived!  .....

We are the Shahs of Sunset and now our famous men are caught collecting panties as trophies!
Yeah, Baby! Free at Last!

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5) by Faramarz
A Technical Question
Do women wear panties these days?
I don't remember seeing one of those things for quite a while.

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6) By Raoul 1955
Faramarz:
Physically fit and facially attractive women with an active sex life prefer sexy thongs!

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Faramarz:

Thank You Raoul

This whole panty thing totally confused me!

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Grow up, men (and one woman, Yara). Domestic Violence is a criminal act and should be taken seriously. Those who make clownish comments are in fact ridiculing someone who has committed a crime because of his chauvinistic upbringing and who needs help (classes for non-violent verbal communication). This situation shoulld not be an occasion for having a festive time.This situation is, in fact, tragic!

Azadeh

Dear Nazy Kaviani, Nobody is jubilant about Sheriff Mirkarimi's

Nobody is jubilant about Sheriff Mirkarimi's predicament. We have all been entangled with the law in some form or shape. I once kicked my 3rd husband in the testicles to the point that he had to be hospitalized for three months and I ended up divorcing him. So, we have all been there and done that. For better or for worse, once in the spot light in America you can be scrutinized to hell and all your good deeds and good intentions and good wills are out the window. That's the name of the game. That's why politicians and Mr. Mirkarimi is no exception usually lie, hide, and distort the truth to survive. I am sure Mr. Mirkarimi will survive and come back to the public life in some other time and some other town.

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Thank you, Nazy, for your very kind post!

It is indeed a sad saga! I remember how happy I was when Shervin Lalezary, an Iranian American deputy, captured the arsonist in LA!

//www.bing.com/images/search?q=shwrvin+lalezary&view=detail&id=919487B20350C1B923C40AEE56281D46958F7E66&first=0&FORM=IDFRIR

Now the Iranian American sheriff had to go thru this mess!

Aynak's profound ignorance

Dear Monda and Siamak,

Thank you for your intelligence, insight and progressive views.

Ignorant people like aynak who are incapable of theoretical thinking, are also incapable of capturing the spirit of my comments.

That Rostam's mother is Jewish-American is as bad as if he had an Iranian mother: Many Jewish mothers are famous for being domineering, controlling and spoiling their sons, very much like traditional Iranian mothers. An ignorant person like aynak does not know what patriarchy is and does not care about that. He is into who is Iranian and who is not. Who puts down Iranians and who doesn't. He seems to have a superficial and childish mind!

For many years, iranian.com celebrated Ross Mirkarimi as an Iranian who has achieved something (carrying g a gun and having a say in how to punish the "criminals. ") He was presented as a pure Iranian.

Now that he himself is a criminal, he is no more Iranian, because he was born in the US and has a Jewish mother. Ridiculous and hypocritical!

Among Iranians, a person with one Iranian parent is considered Iranian. It is obvious that Ross has had a sexist upbringing by his father and mother who obviously never questioned controlling and bulling others as negative traits in their son.

What I am questioning is the ideology of male dominance, more precisely Hegemonic Masculinity. This type of masculinity, encouraged by male chauvinistic parents creates jerks who become "somebody" by stepping on other people. I am sure that Mirkarimi has also bullied other men, as these types of men do not limit themselves with bulling women. They bully men who are kind and non-domineering, they bully gays and poor blacks and other disadvantaged minorities.

I believe that everyone, even individuals like aynak, should be given a chance to read ideas that would help them understand what's going on in their society. That's my reason for spending my precious time on this lumpenist website. People can change and improve themselves

Cheers,

Azadeh

May I Ask

May I ask Azadeh, Monda, Anahid, Shirin, Fanoos, Vildemose, Yolanda, Bambi, Sheila K, and many other women on this site to reply to Nazy Kaviani?

Thank You. I am really interested in the replies.

I remember that and i remember more...

I remember Ross Mir Karimi's helping the largest rally outside Iran in support of the protesters in Iran. I remember his showing up to every single event in our community to support Iranians and Iranian causes. I remember his hosting Iranian artists and activists in the San Francisco City Hall. I remember his bringing Nowruz to the City of San Francisco, celebrating our community in style and with respect. Ross Mirkarimi is more Iranian that some who only claim to be Iranians.

Nobody should try to conceal the sad thing that has unfolded before our eyes over the past few weeks, as we are all concerned and dismayed with domestic violence. And nobody should underestimate the ugly pressure a public figure and his family would receive under circumstances that would even harm and destroy ordinary people.

While some have a festive time in this blog, I am sad as a San Francisco Bay Area resident, and as someone who has met Ross on numerous occasions. He is a politician that has thought and acted ahead of his time and his many successful initiatives have been implemented by other cities in the world.  The pressure he and his family have endured over the past few weeks has been unbearable. I wish him, his wife, and their son peace and serenity so that they can move forward and restore their family, now that they can be reunited.

Have you watched Mad Men? The most watched show ever!

America has fallen in love with this show because it brings back the nostalgic era of the 60's when men were the king and women were in their bras!

Look at the amount of power, sex, drinking, smoking, and control going on in this show. 

America wants to go back to that era and nothing can stop it.

//www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2012/03/13/ma...

Siamak, I Posted the Sheriff

Here is Bob Marley's take on this!

//www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXmhyc_QynE

I posted the sheriff, but I did not post about his family. oh no!

I posted the sheriff, but I did not post about his family. ooh ooh ooh, yeah!

All around in my home town
They're trying to track me down.
They say they want to bring me in guilty
For the posting of the sheriff,
For the scandal of the sheriff.
But I say: oh na na na, oh!

I posted the sheriff, but I swear it was about "Nothing Sacred". oh no, ooh ooh ooh!

I posted the sheriff, oh Lord, and they say it is a capital offense.

Sheriff MirKarimi always loved Iran;
For what I don't know

Every time that he had a date
He said, he was going to take a panty
He said, he was going to take a panty
I say:

I posted the sheriff, but I did not post about his family. oh no!
I posted the sheriff, but I did not post about his family. ooh ooh ooh, yeah!

Kaveh Nouraee

You seem to be unaware that Wife Battering is NOT dependent on personal choice of some men, but part of the violence inherent to patriarchal system we all live in. Most men, if they don't beat their wives, would inflict other kinds of harms to women and/or to other men in order to assert their hegemonic masculinity.

Calling women instigators of violence against them is the type of reasoning Mullahs use. It is deeply sexist and a confirmation of your ignorance about the role of dominating/hegemonic  masculinity among a group of men who actively perpetrate patriarchy. Other men collaborate with this type of men either by being silent or by writing indefensible comments like yours.

Do you assess the crimes that are committed against women in Iran in the context of the Iranian Islamic and hyper-masculinist ideology, or do you simply take the issue out of its social and political context and speak of female provocation?

Please study male-female relationships. It's very complex, but follows certains rules that are invisible to uneducated eyes.

I'll be publishing an article about the relation between hegemonic masculinity (normative masculinity), Manly States, and violence against women. Please read it and become informed.

Azadeh

How come no one questioned his ethnicity, when he was helping

to organize that huge rally in support of Iranian people, after 2009 crack down?

But now all of a sudden everyone is coming out of wood works to judge the extent of his "Iranian-ness." It's amazing but true and sad that none of us remembers his better days, his contributions to the community, but  we lose no time to poke fun at him, in worse days of his life with photo shop pictures, and teenager jokes about panties and such.

What wrong with this picture? Is this what they call backstabbing, or frontstabbing?

P.S. And the part about "Recovering Male Chuavinists"; obviuolsy some 'men' (it's more like eternal boy-child, in a grown man's body) never even enter that phase.

Happy Chahahr'shanbeh Sory to all,

And solidarity forever! 

P.S.S. Don't forget that "casting the first stone" either!!!

Thank You Raoul

This whole panty thing totally confused me!

Faramarz:

Physically fit and facially attractive women with an active sex life prefer sexy thongs! 

A Technical Question

Do women wear panties these days?

I don't remember seeing one of those things for quite a while.

I also have a suggestion.......

.......that we stop making generalizations about men. Such generalizations are ignorant and serve no positive purpose. If we are to make these generalizations about men, then what is to stop society from believing things such as ALL Iranians are like the ones you see on "Shahs of Sunset"?

Start realizing that women are at times the instigators, and they often get away with it. Especially in California, after the O.J. Simpson arrest and trial in 1994-95.

Remember, there are always TWO people involved here. And while we don't know all the facts here (other than he collects Latinas and panties) I'm pretty sure that Mrs. Sheriff is not completely blameless.

An Iranian?

Has he ever referred to himself as such?
//en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ross_Mirkarimi The entry indicates that he has NEVER been an Iranian!  Not even an 'ex-Iranian.'

 SA: Bravo! thank you for

 SA: Bravo! thank you for being so fortright and honest even though you are a male.

A state of war only serves as an excuse for domestic tyranny.--Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn.

Another ignorant comment, against Iranian, why the hate?

Azadeh writes:

"if 
there were ONE single conscientious Iranian man in SF who had
established a class against Domestic Violence and for Non-Violent
Communication Skills, we wouldn't have had this embarrassing criminal
case. 

Or maybe those ignorant Iranian mothers, who made the huge mistake of
telling their sons that they were the centre of the world and entitled
to everything they wished, can now compensate for their stupid mistakes
and open classes for their failed sons! Failed Iranian sons!"

What an ignorant and stupid remark Azadeh.  This is sterotyping at its worst, may be you should hang out with a different circle of people?

FYI:  Right on the wiki, at least do your home work before issuing Fatvas:

[Ross Mirkarimi (pronounced Meehr-kah-REE-mee) was born in Chicago in 1961 to Nancy Kolman and Hamid Mirkarimi. His father was an Iranian Muslim and his mother was Jewish (of Russian origin).[5][6][7] He grew up in Jamestown, Rhode Island, where he graduated from the Catholic, all-male Bishop Hendricken High School in 1979. "I totally credit my childhood in Jamestown for my green views," Mirkarimi said. ]

It is pretty sad, that every bad thing has to be associated with Iranians (now I suppose it is ignorant Iranian moms fault), as this is now the latest  fashion?

Men as "Recovering Male Chauvinists," at best.

Back in school days, we had this (constitutional law) professor, who used to describe himself as a "recovering Male chauvinist." As young students our initial response, always was  along the lines that: he's being "too sensitive," or "he must have been p...y whipped at home,"...But as years go by, with an awareness of just how much patriarchy distorts, deforms and conditionds all our sensitivites , behaviour and values (for men and women), more and more you realize that overwhelming majority of men are at best only Recovering Male Chauvinists. 

anglophile..

... you are free to use any name you want and sense whatever you feel... real cases demonstrate the "reality" regardless of my "feelings."

cheshme hameh ham roushan!! Happy Nowruz.

This is about a guy

who likes to "mingle" with women...hispanic ones, it seems.

Those who bring (Iranian) men in the picture and play the blame game, have a personal ax to grind.

I think both sexes are to blame.

Over and out!

"Women were no saints."??

Dr Ala do I sense a typical Iranian (closeted) misogynist in you? 

cheshmo delam roushan!  

Irresonsible statement....

"Mirkarimi is just a typical Iranian male"

  One who  never sees his female life partener as an equal and has never learnt to use intelligent communication to solve domestic issues. Such an individual resorts to violence of any form to settle the conflicts mainly through intimidation , manipulation and control. 

   Having  someone like that in any position of power and authority is a disaster for the society. It is also a source of shame   for all of us , Iranian men!

His British counter part had a go at Al Baghdadi!

Ex-Iranians

As many accomplishments of Ex-Iranians are not given credit to Iran, wrong doings of Ex-Iranians or Iranian-Americans must not be attributed to Iran or Iranians.

Generalizing men from one person’s act also will not help solve the abuse problem.  Abuse of both women and men are universal and deep rooted in families and societies where these people have been brought up.  Although each case is different, court records would reveal how men have been abused by women to reach their goals (especially in case of rich or famous men).

Iranians Have Arrived!

Yep, we are it! Free at Last.

We have won the academy awards. Our women are running around naked. We are the Shahs of Sunset and now our famous men are caught collecting panties as trophies!

Yeah, Baby! Free at Last!

Thanks for all the comments and happy 4-Shanbeh Soori.

Good to see you back Monda.

Mirkarimi in thongs!

I thought we didn't have gays in Iran!  Or is he a bi?! or is he just a underwear fetoosh?!  Jeff Gordon and Oscar De La Hoya has under wear gates too!  The more macho the man, the more underwear fetish?!

Oh well.  He can now audition for a new member for the cast of Shahs of Sunset! 

Everything is sacred