Jahanshah Javid

The 2 year marriage contract

The 2 year marriage contract sounds similar to Temporary sigheh marriage contract.

A possibility for someone to get hurt

What if one of them truly loves the other one and doesn't want to end the marriage? How about their child or children? I think the whole idea is some how selfish and copout. Life is not meant to be easy.

Seven years?

Marjan Etemadi, thanks for finding the news story. If the proposal is to have marriages expire after seven years, it's too long in my opinion. But still better than traditional marriage/divorce in its present form.

Living together

hamsade ghadimi, you have good points. You say why not live together for 1 or 2 years and then get married? That's a very good way of seeing if you are compatible or not. Very true.

But unmarried couples do not have legal obligations. Married couples do. Living together is not an obligation for life. Marriage, in its present form, is. Even if you have lived together for a couple of years and then get married, there's no guarantee that it will last.

Psychologically it's very different to be married: you are making a commitment (emotional and legal) to stay together forever. But those who live together, unmarried, only make a commitment for as long as they are happy.

The renewal of marriage vows after two years ensures that both sides are absolutely on the same page. Who wants to live with someone forever if he or she is no longer willing and happy?

Qualifications

Would you please tell us what the qualifications are for a good husband?
I would like to know what you did in your marriage that was terrible. Tell us what you said to your ex-girlfrind. It seems intersting to admit your mistake or weakness in the relationship. Men hardly do that.

I don't know about Germany

or any other country's laws but at least in CA if you were married less than 5 years and have no children or major shared assets, you can get a divorce without much of a fuss.

I think the only people who would argue against an easy divorce would be the divorce attorneys and religious fundamentalists.

IRANdokht

It was 7 years, JJ. Do you still agree?

Here's the original news on AFP

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German politician proposes seven-year limit on marriages
Sep 19, 2007

MUNICH, Germany (AFP) — A conservative German politician on Wednesday proposed making marriage contracts expire after seven years, with the option to renew for those not feeling the proverbial itch.

"I propose that marriages lapse after seven years," Gabriele Pauli told reporters in Munich, the capital of the largely Catholic southern state of Bavaria.

"This would mean that one will only commit for a fixed period and will actively have to renew your vows if you still want to continue."

Pauli, 50, has been divorced twice.

The proposal is part of her manifesto as she prepares to contest the leadership of Bavaria's governing party, the ultra-conservative Christian Social Union (CSU), next week.

The CSU is the sister party of Chancellor Angela Merkel's Christian Democrats and the leadership is being vacated by a strategic ally of the chancellor, Edmund Stoiber, who has also been premier of Bavaria for more than a decade.

Stoiber in January agreed to step down at the end of September after a party rebellion led by Pauli.

Shortly afterward he announced his decision, Pauli caused a stir by posing for magazine pictures as a dominatrix wearing long latex gloves.

She is facing stiff competition for the CSU leadership from Agriculture Minister Horst Seehofer and regional Economy and Transportation Minister Erwin Huber.

It's already being practiced in US!

People in US mostly live together for 1-2 may more and then decide to marry.  It is already much better in US.  Why should we marry for two years and then decide? 

you say pot-ah-to, i say pot-ay-to

the idea of marriage has evolved through the ages (e.g. monogamy, polygamy, civil union, same-sex).  the german idea is just another form.  sure, why not? however, i think the net result of traditional divorce and not renewing your marriage is the same.  you go through the same emotional dilemma.  it is not unusual for people in the west to live together for many years before they tie the knot which in my opinion reduces the probability of entering into, for a lack of better phrase, a bad marriage.  neither marriage nor divorce is a bad thing.  those who divorce have re-evaluated their circumstances whether after 1 month, 2 years, or 10 years.  and, why not just live together in a committed relationship without a formal declaration?

not a bad idea at all..

...in fact I need to Google that area in Germany in case my kid ever expresses confusion about the concept. But wait, I wonder where they got the 2 yr from, Gottman research says 3 for trials.

Two-year test

Iranyvaliazad, you're right, marriage is not as trivial as a magazine subscription. But you also noted that it involves human beings. As humans we change. And our feelings change.

If the husband and wife are truly in love they have nothing to fear. But if their love fades, they should accept reality: instead of being imprisoned in a loveless and hollow "institution" they should separate.

As for finances, they can be settled much easier after two years rather than 10 or 20 years.

And children: it's unwise to have children too quickly anyway. Most people wait two or more years before having children.

Those who have passed the two-year test and have proven to be compatible are more likely to be happy.

Marriage is not magazine subscription

The two year proposal is very cold and inhumane approach to a institution that involves human beings and their emotions.  Beside finances that one reader eluded to, the proposal doesn't take into account of offsprings and their emotional attachments to their parents.

Thumbs Up!

I wonder if the Germans took the idea from seghe :-) 

fantastic and practical law

a very good first step to the future abolition of courts and church and mosque and societal rules....for human bonding. Future more advanced human shouldn't need any of this garbage.

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Dear JJ

Please in your opinion What is the qualification of a husband?

And even after 2 years still the Ancillary relief could take years if you could not settle down the financial with your wife.

I have heared that even if you live with some one for a couple of years both sides can claim Ancilary relief,

So what do you think now?

I have a feeling...

...far more men, are in support of this (refreshing) idea, than women are.