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You are not even his real

You are not even his real mother, leave them alone and give him a chance to be happy. Don't forget guys, she is so manipulatively clever. She purposefully brought this politics subject up because I guess she wanted the bride's family to get offended and become against the marriage. The bride's father was a gentleman, I would have smacked her head though and I am full-blooded Iranian. Heather, don't let the bitch ruin your marriage, stay away from her as humanely possible. We love you, you are so beautiful and we as Iranians are all proud and honored that you are embracing the persian culture and married an Iranian. We love you sister.

What a cranky mother in law!!

She is so rude and cranky.
By the way how much longer we Iranians are going to blame everything on what U.S. did to us 50 years ago?! enough already, it has been our own short comings and nothing els. we alow CIA and KGB.....and mullas to screw us time and again.wake up Iranians!! We need to add self responcibility to our culture.

who's needs was met?

It would have been nicer if this mother was warm and welcoming , just like most Iranian mothers, instead of being combative and her first question being about the political view of the in laws!!! She is most certainly welcome to her opinion, but not the first meeting, and first sentence!

Who's needs she was meeting? her or her son's?

She should have asked what are you hoping this marriage to bring for our dear children? how could we all support them ?

If she was warm and welcoming, she would have had more chances to show off! her political zeal!! but the way she acted , is anyone going to hear her?

This girl is going to be the mother of her grandchildren, she should have been nicer.

I admire the bride for her efforts to learn the culture and language of her future husband. Well maturity has nothing to do with age, and this video is the prime example of it.

I wish the best for the lovely couple.

Tahirih

Humanity

Flowers that grow in Desert are pro WAR, don't decorate your Head with them.....

I LOVE YOU PAMELA ANDERSON NOT

I WOULD MARRY JAPANESE. WHITE AND MIDDLEEASTERN JUST DONT MIX. HAS ANYONE SEEN MY GIRLFRIEND

Such a rude mother-in-law

I found the couple lovely and truly in love. I hope that they're going to overcome the difficult road ahead of them!
I thought the mother-in-law looked and acted very rudely toward her guests, especially in the context of a marriage (especially a first meeting between parents) and at least for the sake of her son's happiness, she should have stayed away from any political discussions...If she had showed another image of Iranians like talking about our music or our poetry, I'm sure she'd showed her love and her support for this union in a much more effective way.

Still, I wish lots of happiness for both of you!
Azarin

what a cute couple

Wish you guys the best.

party girl

is it just me or PT is ON. thank U thank U

Arusi - then Tallagh

In reality Parvin, the groom’s mother, doesn’t like this marriage, as you can read in her facial expressions.

As much as I agree with her points, the mother -in-law is impolite and inappropriate as a host. This marriage will not succeed in the long term and they should not get married; I am willing to bet on that. I was there once in a very similar situation.

good luck to you guys!

only thing to remember is to be true to yourselves.  no one else.

stay as far away from the mother-in-law as possible...lol.  no wonder they haven't met in 8 years.  she's just looking for fight.  their first meeting and she wants to discuss politics?  not only discuss politics but blame the US for everything... AGAIN.

HER dad was rude?  excuse me.  the MIL went on the attack first thing out.  you expect him to just sit back and take her crap.  i don't think so.  i would respect that i was in her house but that would be the LAST time.  problem solved.

i respect heather for going to iran.  she is making an effort to share his culture.  that took guts.  leave them alone and they'll be fine.  getting in-laws involved hardly ever works out.

You do not hide to be humane

Its not being ungrateful if you speak the truth, do not like murder and rape. What happened in Persian Gulf or backing a mass murderer who is using WMD is what makes you human. You should stand for it.

What? RE: snow

Can't you as an intelligent (hopefully) individual recognize criticism vs hate for a place??
What did she said that was so wrong? The fact that Bush has ruined the possibilities of a calm and normal life for millions of people around the neighborhood? Or that the US has changed the elected government of Iran?
Be ashamed of yourself, living in a "democracy" and wanting to be like a sheep following what they tell you. Perhaps YOU and like you should live in Iran. She, as a free woman perhaps gets in trouble in Iran because she speaks her mind, yet you are a follower, the wind party, and you would be very fine in Iran.
Get your logic straight.

put me to sleep

Another dull movie for liberal idiots in U.S to watch and pretend they are sophisticated and have some underestanding of mid east culture...

The rednecks

My son, had/maybe still has, a gf whose father is in an American Navy (and been to Iraq). The moment he started to talk redneckism, I told him because he is a guest and he has come to NY from where the hell he came, I will not throw him, but I will not stay and listen to that shit. He was quiet the rest of the night. It was like meeting the devil, and I did it only for my son.

Lovely couple ,but long journey ahead!

I can not believe that this mother "Parvin" is living in the states, calling her son Alex, a non Iranian name, and arguing with the father of the bride???about how awful states is?
He was right if she does not approve of the states policy she should go back to Iran.
Instead of bridging gaps, and talking about the kids future and how they could support this young couple , she is trying to be an emty revolutionary?
and actually people are praising her!!! she is a good arguer, but not a considerate mother in law. Poor the bride I feel bad for her, and I am sure she will love her mother in law!!!!!

Parvin was good!

I think that Parvin discussion about the politics was great. She seemed to be the only one who knew what was going on and the U.S foreign policy. She was the only man in the group. The American guy was a typical American male Republican: stupid. I see that some of the people who visit this site seem to be annoyed by Parvin political discussion. I guess that these people are used to lick the Americans' behind only to be accepted. Some people lose their identity quickly.

What a lovely film

Oh my how it brought back memories for me. I so related to Heathers feelings when she was getting ready for her wedding in Iran.

A beautiful couple and may they be blessed with much happiness and beautiful children. Alex and Heather seem wonderfully in love and a perfect match. Bless them both.

As for thier parents ... the first meeting was difficult. Hopefully as they get used to each other, their understanding of where each other is coming from will improve. At the end of the day, every parent wants their child to be happy in the marriages they choose,. and they will work on it. Politics was just a little inappropriate for a first meeting.

Javaneh

I guess I just don't

I guess I just don't understand why out of all things humanely possible to talk about, they had to argue about politics?? Seriously, that is such an uncomfortable position to be in.

I didn't watch the whole video, so I don't know if they commented about this. But it seems like her parents weren't as open minded or accepting of him and that they weren't backing this marriage wholeheartedly. I have seen this happen with Iranian and American couples and ironically enough, the Iranian parents (at least from what I have seen) have been very open-minded and those that weren't eventually came around. Americans, while living in a country of freedom and diversity, seem like it takes them longer if ever to come around and are extremely uncomfortable start to end with their children marrying Iranians. You would think it would be opposite given the culture of diversity and "openness" that exists in this country.

If Heather doesn't stop her Dad, I smell trouble. This was only the first meeting - God knows, if he has that much audacity, what will loom for them in the future.

This behavior kills me and I wish that people would understand that government policies and people are two totally different entities!!!!!!!!!!

too bad to talk about politics..

i guess it's too bad to bring up political discussios in a gathering like this where the poor kids want their parents to meet..

Politics are for different occassions..not like this..

Parvin, the mother may not understand it, but she is ruining it for her boy...And what was the result of showing her political views? Well, the bride father rightfully told her 'why aren't you living in Iran!"...So in the end, we loose people, we loose..

Ordinary Americans don't know enough what their government is doing right now, let alone 30, 50, 60 years ago...

Let these sweet two young peple, who have nothing to do with politics, have fun in their lives..

My Moto: Be Positive, Optimistic and don't fall in routines

Oghdeii

You are a bunch of Oghdeiis! How can you agree with the "zan-baba /Parvin joon?" Mossadegh was a stooge who had you all fooled. Had it not been for the shah's rule, Iran today would resemble Afghanistan and not the advanced society that it was becoming under the Pahlavis.

Keep on blaming others, PArvin how about the Inglissha and the Bahais?

Why did Parvin had to be so

Why did Parvin had to be so obnoxious in getting her points across? Are all Iranian women this ungracious when they invite guest in their house?

The poor father did not know enough facts about hte 1953 coup to debate her. It was unfair. The father should have asked her if she was a communist growing up in Iran. How embarrassing for Alex and Heather.

Kudos to Parvin and her son

Just a few thoughts:
1. Kudos to you too for celebrating your love in a beautiful way. As I am about embark on married life, I realize how important it is for one's life partner to embrace my culture. I can not think of a better way of acknowledging my heritage other than travelling to Iran and getting married there.

2. Kudos to Parvin for having the courage to raise a very important question. I disagree that politic and marriage should not mix. I think each individual is a collection of beliefs and preferences. Often the best to know someone is to ask their opinion on controversial and divisive issues. First, if it is important for you to associate with people who have opinions, it allows you to gauge that. Second, it allows to assess whether the person, and somewhat by extension the family, follows a logical way of thinking. I think I would be less disappointed if Mr. father-in law had a reasonable basis for his opinion, regardless of how moronic I feel it is. Third, it affords an opportunity to see, early in life, if a disagreement were to arise how the person would approach and deal with it. Is this someone who becomes instinctively defensive and rigid, or is this someone who has the maturity to listen to your side and either reject it on logical grounds or change his/her stand.
3. And just an observation. Have you all noticed how republicans often see themselves and their opinions, regardless of how out of synch with the rest of the nation they are, as THE policy. I would have really love to see Mr. Father-in law on Nov 4th.

Gosh, her Dad was so rude

Gosh, her Dad was so rude and confrontational. Yes, I agree that politics shouldn't have been brought up but Parvin seemed more logical and not "lets make this personal". If I were Heather, I would have been so angry with my Father for acting like that...

Iran

Well If the father of the girl knew anything about politics he would not agree with the George Bush!! He just carried on with the his father agenda and finished Sadam off . Sadam was given chemical weapons and other heavy weapons to fight and when his use was finished they finished him off.Usa has damaged Iran since they help overthrow the ligitimate leader of Iran in 1950s and Iran has suffered because of this selfish act. Now what right has Usa in Iran or trying to say they care for Iranian people. They only care about power and control. I love the motehr in law she is the most knowledgeble but I would tell her dont waste your time, the father of the girl is on another planet!!

He does not know anything about middle east and what his country has done there but he makes comments. He needs to just type the topic on the net and read a bit. Then i advice him to make a comment.

Dude! you got her to travel w/ you to Iran

It is just a great acheivement to have a woman fall in love w/ you in berkeley, to me there is just not a way to keep em in touch they just drift off. plus taking her w/ u to Iran is another great acheivement.

This is a beautiful series.

This is a beautiful series. Another story of love, alienation, our impulses to defend our Iran at the same time to stay quiet to save the moment. I can see how aware the bride is of her feelings and about what goes on around her and his generosity of spirit to let her feel whatever she feels.

There are so many layers of emotions be it personal political or historic that surrounds Iranian life, that their effect is overwhelming even for a native who visits Iran, let alone for someone who visits for the first time. She is a a beautiful woman. I pray for them and wish them the best.

To Mr Bikar Comments

My recommendation to you is:

First: go and find a job ta nashavi bikar

Second: you go and find some passive wives and make a harim for your own pleasure and control...

Third: this is nothing to do with American people, this is to do with politicians,power and abuse

Fourth: Their money hasnt come from your pocket my friend, they have worked hard for it and using their expertise to help the nation there too...

Parvin Is a Brave and Smart Woman

Although asking your future in laws where they stand on the US foreign policies was probably not the best "ice -breaker", I was very impressed with Parvin’s (step-mom) strength and knowledge. Bottom line is she is absolutely correct and unfortunately, most Americans are unaware of what went on in that region prior to 9/11. They only know what they have been fed (which we now know was a bunch of lies).
I do not think Heather needs “to watch out for the mother in law”, I think she should get to know her and learn from her.
Regardless, I wish this beautiful couple a long, happy and prosperous life together.

Politics & Marriage don't mix

Heather and Alex;

All the best to you two. But one simple advice to all Iranians who marry an American, please stay away from the politics involving US/Iranian relation. This is a sure way of poisoning your relationship.
That is why in US and Canada people don't engage in conversation involving politics at work. Also people keep their political affiliation to themselves because it is considered a private matter. Right or wrong, but this is how it works. Your parents had nothing to do with what happened to Iran in the past 60 years.
Once again all the best to both of you

What a WONDERFUL Mother-in-Law

Alex and Heather, you look so lovely and in love. Wish you all the happiness together. Alex, what a wonderful mother! Wow! I really felt for her in that scene and my throat tightened. You must be so proud of her, brave intelligent woman, loved her. Heather you can learn a lot about Iran through your mother-in-law.