EULOGY

All rivers run into the sea;
Yet the sea is not full (Ecclesiastes 1:7)

The eye is not satisfied with seeing;
Nor the ear filled with hearing (Ecclesiastes 1:8)

Mom’s kindness was abundant for all. She touched many lives. The eye was not satisfied seeing her virtues and the ear was never filled hearing her warmth expressed with simplest gestures of love for all humanity. The loss is great.

To “bereave” is to live in a sad or lonely state – a state typically brought on by a loss or death. When a loving tie is severed, an emotional reaction which we call “grief” is set in motion. Grief and bereavement are what we are experiencing now. This commemoration is also intended to honor the memory of a woman who leaves behind a legacy of strength. That legacy should serve as an example for many.

The purpose of a eulogy is two-fold. First, we praise the deceased for her worthy qualities. Second, we express the grief and sense of loss experienced by the mourners. Everyone has a different philosophy in dealing with trauma of losing a loved one. The significance of redemption, for the mourners is inherent in the philosophical approach of making a connection between parts and the whole. In the absence of the loved one, it helps not to allow the loss of the whole – the body – to overwhelm us. Instead, we should remember events eliciting the parts – the various virtues of the departed. This way we embellish the memory, the soul and the goodness of the deceased. These memories will embrace us in warmth. These selected memories, retained through time, comprise the elements that would keep us strong remembering the grand beauty of the loved one who is no longer physically among us.

The good deeds of the deceased will pass on a positive legacy and good name to the family. We will cherish the legacy she left behind about being firm, strong, good wife, good mother and a good friend.

I cherished Mom’s friendship for all my life. Indeed she fulfilled the meaning of her name to be the “Mehr” – a compassionate kind mother and friend. She was unique in loving people. She never expressed anger in any form or shape instead she always demonstrated her love for you and when you were angry or disappointed she could heal your wound with her charismatic calming effect with simplest words, keeping you wonder how easily you could release the negative energy through her soft calm voice. Most people were attracted to her sophistication and elegance in behavior and endless kindness. Her voice still rings in my ear telling me “madar jun always ask God for help” when I spoke of life’s disappointments.

My dear Mom, when I look back in the life long friendship with you, I remember all the many happy moments that we laughed, traveled, and I celebrated you being my mother. I will miss you always, knowing your memory will fill my heart warmly.

Your eldest daughter and child:

Farideh

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In Honor of mom’s good deed we will gather on the 10th day of July, 2011.