Anahid Hojjati

Esfand jan, First I read you correctly

Then I doubted my understanding, read you again and then I misunderstood you. Thanks for clarification. You are correct, daughters don't like to be lectured by moms about what they do wrong. Similarly, husbands do not like to be lectured by wives on what they do wrong. In summary, no one likes to be lectured but being Iranian, we sure get a lot of it. Thanks again for reading my blogs and comments and responding.

No Anahid jaan I didn't mean it that way!

As far as husbands having the same complaint about wives that the moms have, then that is good for them. Something for the husbands and the moms to bond.

I meant you're complaining that moms are giving too much advice or getting into the weeds when they should be leaving the daughers alone, and I said husbands want the same thing!  They want the wives to stop complaining, giving advice and leave the husbands alone!  That doesn't mean the husbands and mom have something in common!  In most occasions quite the contrary! 

Everything is sacred

true Esfand jan, we did have few great 13 bedars in late 2000s

Those were great. My daughter was also performing in the dance group in the park on sizdeh bedar and there are pictures/videos of those to remember. I should not complain too much about this 13 bedar. There were some good points about it too.

13bedars are not always the same either weather or other reasons

It is a specific day and it's not always the same and hard to get everyone in sync on a specific day.  Few years ago I was in Iran for Norooz it was raining and very cold.  I guess the moral of the story/13bedar is to enjoy it while you can. 

Everything is sacred

Esfand jan, it was not the usual long sizdeh bedar in the park

Usually my parents take the BART, come close to where I live mand then I drive us all to the park in South Bay. This year, with my dad's health not being good, they could not take the BART. I was too sick with the flu to drive north to get them and take them to south bay. I was not sure if I would go myself. Any way, I ended up going for a very short time. When I got home and called my mom, she told me about her shohar khaleh who had died from heart attack on Saturday night. So that was sad. It was not the usual sizdeh bedar. I did get to see couple of my cousins and my aunt in the park and ate from their baghali polo and had some nice conversation with them. But once I got him and got the news of the death, it was bad. Such is life. About daughters, yes, they can agree at front of their mom and then do the other thing. As far as husbands having the same complaint about wives that the moms have, then that is good for them. Something for the husbands and the moms to bond.

Anahid jaan what about the Iranian daughters?!

I for one hardly put any zard choobeh in my khoreshts.  There is one specific khoresht that requires zardchoobeh but I can't remember it now!

Anyway, I always hear and see Iranian moms and daughters stories and it's always the mom!  What about the daughter?!  Are they always Teflon Muslim?!  I don't think so cause if the daughters would agree with their moms the moms would run out of advide to give!  I mean how hard would it be to agree with your mom in person to keep her happy and then do the other thing when she is not around?!

And by the way when complaining about the moms the husband have more or less the same complaints about wives in general!

I hope you had a good 13-bedar and I agree with you that preparing for 13-bedar is a ritual in and of itself and should not be cut short!  It is either in your blood or it isn't and it can't be forced or expected from anyone, say the 2nd generation!  Oh and last but not least I don't think it's just the Iranian moms, it's international! 

Everything is sacred

Thanks Shazde for reading

I finally made it to Vasona park for Sizdeh Bedar. Only stayed little bit more than one hour but at least sizdeh bedar shod. Thanks Shazde for reading and commenting. I agree about sometimes getting too busy to live well.

This is nice ...

... and your parents have been wise.

We sometimes get too busy with life, to live well.

To Simorgh, Faramarz and AI

Thanks Simorgh for telling me about other fish. I will try to eat those too every once in a while.
Faramarz, shoma cheghadar sheitooni.
Dear Artificial Intelligence, thanks for reading my blog and commenting.

Very Nice blog

My mom is exactly the same. Happy sizdah Bedar to everyone!

اندر سر درس گوش می باش!

Anahid,

I am surprised that you did not know this great poem by Iraj Mirza. I guess you were not paying attention in the class that day!

Faramarz jan, "lab dookhteh dar ta tavani" ?

this is the last line of poem but if IC users did that , it wouldn't be good, would it? Otherwise, thanks for the lovely poem. Is this yours or is it from our school books grwoing up?

Salmon

Delicious but not for every palate. I prefer rainbow trout or good old fashioned humble Cod. 

As for rice sabzi polo is a must and must be accompanied with sallots or grilled garlic.

بیزحمت به حرف پدر و مادرتون گوش کنید!

با مادر خویش مهربان باش
آماده خدمتش به جان باش

با چشم ادب نگر پدر را
از گفته ی او مپیچ سر را

چون این دو شوند از تو خرسند
خرسند شود از تو خداوند

در کوچه چو می روی به مکتب
معقول گذر کن و مودب

چون با ادب و تمیز باشی
پیش همه کس عزیز باشی

در مدرسه ساکت و متین شو
بی هوده مگوی و یاوه مشنو

اندر سر درس گوش می باش
با هوش و سخن نیوش می باش

می کوش که هر چه گوید استاد
گیری همه را به چابکی یاد

کم گوی و  مگوی هرچه دانی
لب دوخته دار تا توانی

Simorgh, the 24 coincided with my flu

Simorgh, you should be easy on me this weekend. Even though I have blogged, but I am having a bad case of flu. It seems that your comment coincided with me starting to feel worse because of flu. About Sabzi polo this year, I was invited to my brother for Norooz and he had made Mahi but I believe they had baghali polo. Frankly, sometimes Iranians cook so many different dishes for their gatherings, that it is hard to keep track. Interestingly, I bought Salmon yesterday and if I have sabzi amadeh or can go and get it, I will have sabzi polo and mahi for sizdeh bedar at home. If Faramarz would read this, he would say that Sabzi polo is for New year and Baghali polo is for Sizdeh bedar.

Anahid

Now the 24 hour curfew is over you never answered my question. How was the Sabzi Polo Mahi this year. I demand an anaswer!

Duplicate - delete

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Dear comments, yes, cooking is much easier now

Examples are possibility of use of sabzi amadeh in sabzi polo and also cripsy fries in khoresht gheymeh and many other conveniences.

Dear Divaneh, my dad actually cooked

Growing up, my mom cooked most of the food but my dad helped out if he had time. When my dad got married, he had lived on his own for years so he knew how to cook. Years later, when I was in university or working and he was staying with me; if my mom was in Iran, my dad did cook. Some of his specialties were Pizza on pita bread and baking baghlava.

Cooking has become so easy

Cooking has become so easy these days.  We don't have to wake up early in the morning to make the arrangements.  We don't have mehmooni's either, but I love to invite and be invited.  I think we don't have to do exactly the same thing to become a model.  For example, I let my son to sleep over and have good time with his friends once in a while.  I think it's his turn to learn how to communicate and have his own mehmooni's in the future.

I don't advise him, but it's a really difficult task not to advice.  I see our friends' son/daughter salute very nicely with long sentences all the time, but my son just say "hi".  That's all.

Dear comments, Thanks for commenting and about a, b, and c:

a) Yes, I am proud of my parents.

b) These days, fertility treatments extend women's biological clocks by few years.

c) I agree about setting an example. But people and circumstances are different too. For instance, I grew up in a home that my mom always cooked good Iranian food, and she always invited people for mehmanis. However, I am not the kind to cook every day. Not that I don't like cooking but also my circumstances are different. She had to feed a 6 person family while for me, it is just me and half of the time, also my daughter. About having mehmanies, life is different these days. Few weeks ago, I was planning to have a mehmani but it was difficult to come up with a time for all guests to be able to make it,, since they had other obligations like going to school fund raiser for their kids, etc. But example setting has been true for some other non cooking related issues. And I see it between myself and my daughter, for instance, she writes for school paper.

Cooking advice

My dad was also an expert when it came to giving advice about cooking food although he could not cook any. Thank you for this light-hearted blog.

a, b, and c.

Thank you for sharing.  (a) I agree with your dad that all Iranian khoresh are made in the same way (almost).  You have to be proud of having such a parents who have tried their best to support you by their criteria. (b) I think there is something strange is going on with biological clock these days.  Some, which are not supposed to tickle, they do. (c) I haven't given any advice to my 12 years-old son yet.  This is my own policy.  I do my best to show things in action.  For example, I play basketball and don't give him a favor to win.  This is because I hope he listens to me a few occations in the future when he might fell in a well.  I hope it never happens. 

Bavafa jan, when our loved ones are not

Here any more, we do miss them and the sentences they used to tell us. Thanks for sharing and RIP your mom.

Oh, what I would give to hear my mom one more time

Even if that was going to be "bache darseto bekhon, koh-navardi kare adam aghel nist"

But my dad will be here shortly and I just can't wait to see him again soon.

Happy sizdah bedar to you Anahid Khanom and all others.

Mehrdad

Dear MM, thanks for reading and commenting

My dad meant the starting point :).

happy 13BD 2u2

your dad is partly right

Dear Nikki, Happy Sizdeh Bedar to you too and thanks for reading

I am glad you liked my blog. Hopefully, your mom's stay will continue as it has been so far. I hope you have a great year full of excellent movies to watch and please continue sharing them with us.

Happy Sizdeh Bedar 2u2 Anahid Jan

and thank you for a wonderfully funny blog.  My mom happens to be visiting but she has been on her best behavor regarding advice so far :)