The muses of being mundane

Oh No Fariba jan!

There's no such a thing as whining too much in my book...  Don't go there sister! I just wanted to point you to my own conclusions about the concept of Mundane.  You are doing a fabulous job with writing these blogs.  I wish I had IC as the important outlet that it is now.

My good attitude Today is the result of mulling over difficulties for many years. I've had my share of heavy duty trials and errors!  baleh so you know dokhtaram:o) 

Monda...

There you go!  Love the attitude; may not be that energetic myself, but love the attitude!

Which brings me to wonder; am i whinning too much?!  In my head, i am trying to open a dialogue though...

Fariba, let me add to my own eftekhaar

I was always the only Iranian mom in our district!  So my job was not only to stand up as an Iranian parent But as a token culturally-different than the Lily Whites and of course the few Chinese parents.  I had fun speaking up for cultural diversity at the PTA meetings, but my volunteerism at the school plays, fundraisers (especially kicked major Ass there!) and International Days were most Fun!  Two years they finally included Iranian dance, music and food, on International Days.  While 4 years in a row, Alone, I fundraised nearly as much as all other parents in 3 classes put together did.  Heck I hit George Lucas for a donation of $7000 for our Runathon when my kid was in 5th grade :o) 

Fariba joon

please do keep writing about these "mundane" issues. Really and truly for a long time I have wished somebody would bring up questions of bringing up kids from the perspective of people like us. Here's a link to a blog that makes a reference to Iranian kids in a public school here:

//www.mothersofbadboys.com/_blog/Clara's_Clearing/post/A_very_curious_thing

Ladies!

I am laughing and truely getting MOFTAKHAR! 

I am so happy to hear that i am not the only one with this mundane issues that "mesle khore roohe adam ra mikhorad va dar ham mishekanad!!"

Sima jan,  i hear your pain.  I was also thrown into the pot because of kids.  The real pain of being an immigrant is not the academics, the work, or the language barrier.  It is the subtle cold shoulder and the rejection that you sense from the "mainstream." ocne  you have kids and start to take them to the local Y, soccer practice, or swim lessons.  That is where you get to truely interact with other parents and it is only then that you see how they see you.  I totally agree that one has to stand above it all; in my privacy i have chuckled a lot on some super ignorant comments i hear once in a while.  But, in all honestly, i cant say that it does not hurt.  After all, we all need to belong, right?

Monda jan, i am sure you are well-liked in your school!  A persian mom, who is intelligent, well-educated, psychologist with a heart, with a successful kid (i am guessing from the other blog) who shuns the ignorant tall blonds with penaut size brain?!  I would have just loved to hear your comments in some of those PTO sessions!

Yolanda dear, you are so absolutely correct.  It is a shame that the public schools are not doing their job that would be educating the children in the area of science, math, and technologies.  I cant say that about our school district though, because it is one of the best in the nation and that is why we are in this town despite its arrogant white attitude.

Nikki khanoom--Kheyley kandidam, mercy for your witty comment:)

Na babba bikaari!?

I managed to shun all the ignorant snobs in our school district beautifully. And I'm proud of it. I mean I would volunteer where my heart was, i.e. in the classrooms, on field trips, etc. but Never where there was arrogance especially of the racial/ethnic or any stereotypical type.  No Don't Go!

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Wow! I love your blog! Super interesting! It is funny that these parents are whining about the district has to raise the expectations! The truth is that American high school education lags behind many countries in Math. They are way behind Japan, Iran, Singapore, S Korea, China, Hong Kong, Germany, India etc.....I think they should work extra hard to keep up with other countries.....

    Your blog also reminds me of Sara Palin. She left University of Hawaii 'cause she felt uncomfortable with Asians! 

Delaram Banafsheh (Yolanda)

"Cactus in the Desert"

Hell to the No!

In the immortal words of Stefanie Tanner: "How rude!"

Heck NO!

Don't go.

I love this blog. I have experienced this so many times myself. I have decided to withdraw from the company of my kids' friends' parents (and similar types) as much as possible.

My story is this: I had a kid really late (at 43) so already I don't fit in age- and experience-wise with the most of the other parents. In addition to that, before I had a kid I was never even exposed to mainstream America. I was always on the margins: academia, arts, radicals, that sort of thing. Then suddenly I had a kid and I was thrown into the mainstream -- some of it is inevitable, you know.

Then the kid gets older and wants his own friends and I can't impose on him the kids whose parents I like. So I have to put up with some very uninteresting and as far as I'm concerned profoundly ignorant (generally "white") people. But I have made it a conscious decision not to expose myself to them a second more than I absolutely have to.

You don't have to join their stupid book club. What the fuck do they know about books anyway?