where am i?

farnad darnell
by farnad darnell
08-Oct-2009
 

One moment I'm in an orphanage in Tehran, the next I'm sitting here writing this, wondering where "here" is. In the past 33 years I've lived other peoples' lives. I don't remember being an Iranian or even living in Iran, but I do remember being a Mormon, being on fire, being married, and eventually graduating from grad school. But now all of it has come full circle, and the root of it all stems from being adopted, plucked from one home land and transplanted to another.

And now I face my age, my time left in this existence, and of more disconcerting concerning is my hair loss. Because I don't have parent knowledge or biological roots, I don't know what I'll look like in a few years. How bald will I get? What kind of bald will I be? Should I just shave my head and avoid the rush? All of these questions lead right back to my status of the unknown story of being adopted. I know nothing more of my biological family than when I arrived in this country. I know nothing more of my biological makeup, of my health, of my frailties. Intellectually I know much; personally I know nothing. Where am I?

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Where are you?

by sag koochooloo on Sat Oct 10, 2009 04:31 PM PDT

O dont know but I still love you brother. Welcome.


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che khabar e

welcome to iranian.com

by che khabar e on Fri Oct 09, 2009 04:07 PM PDT

As Darius and Miss Holly put it so lovely....

I hope you find what you're looking for!

 


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TheMrs

It sounds like you need to

by TheMrs on Fri Oct 09, 2009 08:03 AM PDT

It sounds like you need to get in touch with the inner Iranian. Listen, you can take a kid out of Iran but you can't take Iran out of an Iranian kid. I hope you had a good life and have a wonderful family. Sport your balding head (don't shave it, let it run it's natural course) as a sign of your national pride, think of it as a patriotic thing. It sounds like you are going to be soul searching for a while. If you want to get to know about Iranians and Iran, the best thing is to get a few Iranian friends (if you don't already have any). And maybe even try to learn Farsi. Good luck.


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HollyUSA

Farnad

by HollyUSA on Thu Oct 08, 2009 09:30 PM PDT

Your desire to know your roots is perfectly understandable and nothing any one without a similar experience can say is likely to change that. But the truth is that genetics don't really make us who we are. Family are those who loved and nurtured us, and the bulk of our significant and relevant makeup is by nurture and not nature.

My cousin adopted a baby from Iran a couple of years ago...the most adorable little boy I have ever seen. He's happy and well adjusted and I'm sure that one day he will have the same questions as you do today. But I'm also certain that he will have experienced immense love and had opportunities and experiences in life that he wouldn't have otherwise had...again, I know this doesn't lessen the need to know and I wish that they kept better records of this sort of thing in Iran.

We'll all be your collective biological family insofar as we can, how's that?  May be we're not blood relatives but as Iranians we are of the same blood.

About the hair...men stress over it too much . Bald men are sexy.


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by Shepesh on Wed Nov 25, 2009 03:00 AM PST

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Darius Kadivar

Farnad Jaan You've Come to the Right Place ;0)

by Darius Kadivar on Thu Oct 08, 2009 03:10 PM PDT

Although I don't have the same experience as you, I kinda understand your desire to learn more about yourself. Being cosmopolitan with a French Mother and Iranian father but myself born in the US it can become complicated at times even for someone like me who knows my roots.

All I can do is greet you warmly and hope that you will find some positive answers to your questions and I wish you success in your voyage of self discovery.

Warm Regards,

Darius


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