"Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is the truth"

Marge

"I'm suspicious that it's not the kid being a brat and the other way around."

Precisely! Kids have an excuse if they are brats, they don't know better unless they have been taught. What's her f'ing excuse? As adults we should know better and if we don't or chose to be brats anyway then we should suffer the consequence.

Holly - I will give you my honest opinion. Brace yourself

This woman regretted her choice to adopt and have a child. Parenting is not easy. Children are not perfect. She might not even be up to the financial obligation anymore. That's just based on the context of the world/US economy right now. I'm suspicious that it's not the kid being a brat and the other way around.

I'm not sure what you are

I'm not sure what you are talking about Captain Worm. But having a sense of superiority toward you is fully justified. And for your case, I'm afraid there is no cure. Read this news, it might help.

//iranian.com/main/news/2010/04/10-3

Marge

I don't disagree that " it's better to be honest about a situation involving a child than let the child and parents suffer". But in this particular case the child is not an unwanted natural child of the parent and your otherwise valid point about birth control is irrelevant.  The parent in fact went out of her way (ALL THE WAY TO RUSSIA) to adopt him. Granted, the child may well have some severe issues but really, is putting him back on a plane the best we are capable of? Couldn't she have tried to get the kid some help here? According to the grandmother the kid was adopted in Sept. and everything was fine until January. That in itself has a few holes here and there!

All I'm saying is adopting kids is not like buying a pair of shoes where u can decide you don't like them and just return them! OK so let's assume she is fit to adopt, was lied to about the child's health and adopted him. Isn't there some better way to deal with the situation here and now in the US than to go online and find an attorney who tells you to put the kid on a plane back? There was an adoption agency in this deal that claims they were never notified. Why not? There are legal ways around these things where the protection of the child AND the adoptive parents comes into play as necessary. But there can probably be no legal accountability now that the child is removed.

It just stinks.

And yes ladies and gents, use birth control!  God knows there are enough subhuman creatures roaming around as it is.

I heard about this. What's wrong with her choice?

Excuse me, but I know lots of people who have had children without any planning or sense about the matter, only to suffer for a lifetime. Why? Children are not disposable, but it's better to be honest about a situation involving a child than let the child and parents suffer. I hope this child finds a suitable home. Women, please take care of your birth control. Stop helping the men bring unwanted children into the world.

Morale of the story acording to benross

[Just look at 'city people' in Iran bringing a child from the village to their protection. You see what I mean.]

It happens in Iran, Iran bad, Iran evil, Iran has Islam, Iran making bombs, Iran Bush told us is all this and that....... The world learned all this inhumane treats from Iran, Iran inventor all the evil that is....... pisttttt I am certain I am missing something

So it is ok for this freedom loving SANE world citizen to do this. If Iran can do it why can't we in USA?

How absurd some of these characters can get?

-YT 

More cases indeed

Yes there are many and some a lot worse. Here is another article

//in.rbth.ru/articles/2010/03/04/4310adoption...

I read similar cases before.

I read similar cases before. It is hard for everyone involved at human level. But let's face it. Western mindset in child adoption starts with a sense of superiority to begin with, then unconsciously the evaluation on whether this 'charitable act' is well deserved -I'm sure not intentionally- is formed by it. The recent arrest in Haiti of some humanitarians for 'child abduction' is very revealing.

Just look at 'city people' in Iran bringing a child from the village to their protection. You see what I mean.

Natoor Dasht, Of course there is more to it BUT...

At the end of the day the adults are the ones who should take responsibility and take every possible step to guarantee what is in a child's best interest. Too many countries are unwilling or unable to take proper care of their abandoned or orphaned children so they don't set and follow rules of adoption to ensure a good outcome and are just too eager to hand them over. On top of that there are many 'adoption agencies' that are in this just for the money and they too fall short of meeting any humane standards. And then I'm sure there also also people who are simply not qualified to adopt but can and do. The ONLY ones who have no say and no power in all of this are the children. So why shouldn't the adults be 'torn apart' as you call it or held accountable as I would put it? Why couldn't this woman go through local authorities to get help to deal with the situation? And why the hell is she adopting when she already seems to have other kids that her mother has to take care of?? Finding a lawyer 'online' is a bit of an ignorant cop out if you ask me. May be we can't stop the Octomoms of the world but these idiots can and should be held responsible for their actions. This is a child's life we're talking about.

Adoption is actually one of, if not the most, giving act I can think of. I would understand if you mean it should be better regulated but to be against adoption altogether seems far from kind to me. What do you suggest the parentless kids deserve and should get?

:(

paraphrasing:

To raise a child is an act of nature; to raise another's
child is an act of God.

-Pearl S. Buck 

-YT 

Before tearing her apart in your mind...

There must be much more to this story. It's very difficult, and unfair to all parties, to judge a case on a news snippet.

As for the notion of adoption, I am not a big fan of the practice in the first place.

Have you not noticed?

 Im hoping that anyone reading this has finally noticed that the average american(lower case letters) is possessed with a psychotic delusion that non-americans are put on earth by ALLAH to be judged, then categorized, then disposed of, by cowardly hypocryte americans. If you remain militarily weak, they WILL come to your land and do this to YOU.

:=(

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