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There is no problem to be

here is no problem to be idealistic. Life shouldn't be always about practice. We all know the Cinderella story is not real but we all still watch it or have watched it.

As a matter of fact the most pragmatic writers and artists are the most idealistic ones since the idea itself have moved them to fill up the gap between their ideas and pragmatism with their art.

If Hemingway wasn't an idealist at heart (but his writing style belongs to realism) he wouldn't know the contrast between his ideal idea of humanity and the ugly side of life, then he wouldn't have created his masterpieces.

Ideal man?

Uff, rather extinct species. :o)

Hi Latina

Long time no hear. Here is the problem:

If the guy is too much in to you and adores you, then you would probably get bothered by his wimpiness ;)

There is a way that the affection should transmit without a constant muchi muchi. I understand what you are trying to say. 

I disagree with the logic that you should find your match and like them
the way they are. You always should have sets of standards and try to
put the individual on that map. The chances of realizing a good match
vs bad, if the attraction is the same, becomes easier.

To Obama, it is not your business to judge or harshly speak to
Latina. You should have not read the blog if you feel this way. And
YES, you may go to Cuban site and speak from an Iranian man who is
writing for a perfect woman. What's wrong with that?

Good luck :)

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Hi Natalia,

     Sorry to hear your accident on Feb 1. Thank God you are OK! Be very honest with you, you have no obligation to tell the world why you got divorced.....it is very personal...it is between you and God and I imagine it is painful. I promise that when Mr. Right shows up, he will (can) kiss the pain away!! It is just a matter of time!!

    I hope you are happy!!! From what I read, you always take good care of your 2 boys and your mom.....always put them 1st above your own needs. It is very kind of you!! God will reward you for that....your 2 boys will reciprocate the love back to you!

Please take care!

yolanda 

Anahid jaan most men generaly dont depend on zen but some zen do

Everything is sacred.

Dear Anonymouse, being employed is harder for men these days

Dear mouse, with manufacturing being outsourced and high tech not doing as well in US, and on the other hand education and health field doing reasonably well,it is known that men have more trouble than women in US with being employed. 

Very nice topic Latina

I was craving for this discussion for a long time. It is extremely important that a woman to be idealistic, since women are the forces behind changes and motions. If there is no idealism, there won't be a target, and with no target there won't be a movement and change. I believe an idealistic woman is self-respectful and this by itself is ideal for a man.

On the other hand men in general need feedbacks. So it will be helpful and hopeful for any relationship to every now and then touch basis with the ideas and see where it's situated with respect to the initial ideas.

I think generally women are nicer than being too neat picky about the target deviation (Also not a bad idea to require the groom-and bride-to-be's to have a balck belt in six sigma before getting married!!). If women see men are trying they'll be happy.

This or I am too idealistic about women!

Ideal zan these days mean being employed! Or employment ready!

Everything is sacred.

Ideally

he should at the very least like the same kind of music and entertainment, don't you agree?

An then Chemistry is everything! Whatever that one is, it's not only a physical thing I don't think. 

Ideal Zan

The Ideal Zan can be such an elusive concept. It can mean many
different things to many people. Where does one even begin to make a
list of the characteristics sought in the "Ideal Zan"? Universal truths
do exist which are educated, cultured, understanding, caring,
compassionate, mentally, emotionally and financially stable.

Of course,then we have the physical appearance of said zan. It is
different for every man as well in their particular tastes. I suppose
as long as she is physically fit for her age, height and body shape.
Yes, I know that I am being rather general.

Okay, now time for the specifics. Yes, a man must find the zan
physically attractive otherwise there will be no chemistry. I know what
you are thinking. What does science have to do with the "Ideal Zan"?
Well, without chemistry there will be no passion in the relationship.
If there is no passion in the relationship then why on earth would you
want a zan in your life as a romantic partner.

And so it goes dear Natalia...

Natalie ideal man is not an ASS like some. simple!

Everything is sacred.

Yolanda jan

Sorry that you got dragged into this. However, we are very resilient people.

Don't worry about me. I will be fine. Thank you for your words of wisdom as well.

You know almost kicking the bucket has a way of changing a person's perspective. I think it is why I like this poem that I wrote so much.

Well, I have to get ready for work. I will check back on this blog later.

moraghebe khodet bash dooste man :o)

khodahafez............

My Legacy

As I sat in the  meadow.

I heard the robin sing.  

I saw the willow tree  swaying in the wind.

A slightly cloudy day.

                                        My legacy………

A gentle and peaceful  day.  

I closed my eyes and took a deep breath. 

I could smell the flowers scent.

I could hear  the children’s voices as they played.

                                            My legacy………….

I used to take it all for granted.

Now, everything seemed so new.

Much better than before.  

How could I haved missed so much before?

                                           My legacy…………….

As I momentarily looked back. 

I recalled that tragic day.

As I almost drew my last breath.

In that dark and empty room.

                                          My legacy…………..

It is but a distant memory now. 

Amazed at how close, I came to death that day.

Yet I always wondered,

Why was my life spared?

                                            My legacy……………….

From that moment on

Every breath,

Every day,

Would have great meaning.

                                          My legacy……………….

What would be my legacy?

How would they remember me?

 A  life of purpose.

“Good thoughts…….good words……….good deeds.”

                                           My legacy……………………..

Not that it is really any of your business

Obama,

Why so much hate? Why are you being so rude and cruel? What is your problem? Sounds like you have some major issues.

I don't have to really answer such a rude request but I shall anyway this time. After this post........I do not want you to address me again. I certainly hope that you don't behave in this manner in your real  life.

My husband did not leave me. I left the marriage after enduring nine years in a very abusive marriage. I actually went to marriage counseling to try and save the marriage. He felt it was not necessary but I continued to go by myself anyway.

I stayed as long as I could so that my sons would not lose their father. In the end I realized that leaving the abusive marriage would be better for my sons and I.

I married and had children very young as is expected in my culture. It has been ten years since my divorce.  Over the last ten years I have worked on becoming the best mother, sister, daughter, friend and over all person that I can be. I have reached success but I want to continue to improve. Change can be good......change is our friend.

I truly loved my exhusband and did everything I could to make him happy. In the end the person I was before I married him was no more ..........I change so much that I didn't recognize or like myself. Like I have said before....it has taken me years to heal. I have gone through sooo much but I am very happy to see whom I have become.I love myself. I simply love being alive............:o)

I am  who I am and all that I am meant to be......I am set free.............

I AM

Whom I am meant to be

Everything that I want to be

I am set free!

I am neither an Angel

Nor a Devil

I am simply  Human

Full of flaws

I may be strong

But NOT the rock of Gibraltor

"If you prick me, I will BLEED."

I will DIE............

I will NO longer be bound

By culture......society

Finally free from the guilded cage

I am set free!

DO NOT bind me!

I simply want to be

All that I am meant to be

I am set free!

Note: We define whom we are! :o)

PS: This is my last respond to any comments from you.

MPD........

Satire? Dream? Nightmare? :o)

It depends on the reaction of those individuals on this thread.

Dude where have you been? I almost killed over on February 1st. Thankfully, my son saved my life. :o)

I hate to think what this world would have been without me. LOL

Thank you......

mitra northcal,

Thank you so much for such kind words. Especially for such great wisdom. Yes, I found in my life that regardless of our ethnic group, age, etc we have so many universal similarities. I am wonderfully amazed at how much Iranian culture and my Hispanic culture have in common. :o)

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R2-D2,

E tu? LOL Chillax! To think that I always thought you such a cool personality. :o)

Obama

I chose my name Latina because I am Latina. I am very proud of my heritage. I have every right to be proud of my culture.

Is your name really Obama? If so how very interesting. Yes, I was the  one named Alvarez which is my true name but so many people on this web site go by anything but their name....why can't I do the same. I don't go judging them and let me tell you some have some very out there names. :o)

I can assure you that I have no complex at all. No offense but this is my blog in which I discuss some of the universal things that some people may see as the ideal characteristics in a man. 

I begin my blog with the following which now seems like some sort of Disclaimer:

The Ideal Man can be such an elusive concept. It can mean many different things to many people. Where does one even begin to make a list of the characteristics sought in the "Ideal Man"? Universal truths do exist which are educated, cultured, understanding, caring, compassionate, mentally, emotionally and financially stable.

 I then follow it by describing some of the the characteristics I like. After all, someone on this web site asked me about it and I decided to respond by writing this blog.

Heaven help us! No one wants the Perfect Man. Hmmm sounds like another possible blog. LOL Being perfect is too much work.

By the way such a man does exist which is why I am able to describe him soooo very well. :o) Is he perfect.... not at all. However, I do think that he is just right for himself. He has gained great wisdom through everything that he has lived. Wisdom is such a great quality.

So, I am not trying to change anyone at all. Hard to believe such a great guy exists. By the way he is an Iranian man, He is the greatest guy and not a Casanova. I hope my sons will be as good a man as he is. :o)

I don't believe in changing people. A person must want to change for themselves or it will never be a permanent change and it will make them very unhappy.

I love myself the way I am but I also know that I must continue to improve on whom I am. It is the best way to be a suitable partner and overall great person. I see change in my personal life as good.

PS: I will change the image temporarily on my avatar so that you may see that I am Latina and not Yolanda. Yolanda is not Latina.

Yolanda said it best, please be a little gentle with Natalia

I don't know if Latina is Natalia.  I sure hope so since Natalia is very nice lady.  Reading her comments sometimes amazed me since I saw many similarities between myself and Natalia even though she is Latina and I am Iranian.  Personally, I see nothing wrong with someone calling themselves Latina. If we can expect names like Shepesh, khar, kharmagas, Anonymouse and tens of other names, then Latina is as good name as any other name.  By the way, Obama, you should be running the country rather than coming to an Iranian site and commenting late at night when economy is so bad :).

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Hi! Obama,

     I am not Latina....I am not Hispanic.......you did not offend me......I am OK!

    Be very honest with you....I am not worried about anyone's name....

You got it Yolanda! You're absolutely right!

Are you latina (latino) as well? I don't mean the writer, i mean hispanic. I hope I didn't offen you.

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Hi! Obama,

   Could you please be a little gentle with Natalia? I think she is a nice lady!

I agree with you that:

Not all ideal people are ideal! Look for honesty  and good heart in people! People are your own reflection!

I think when you talk to people nicely, people will listen better and accept your ideas.

thanks,

Is this a dream

...or a satire?

BTW I think Latina is the new name for the old ALVAREZ!

who else whould have so much complex! You never said why your first husband left you? he didn't meet your high expectations? Be real! While you are busy looking for perfection, most of your life has been wasted away! Enjoy the moment!

Not all ideal people are ideal! Look for honesty  and good heart in people! People are your own reflection!

obama

Very Well Put :)

No such thing as ideal!! Are you an ideal woman?

Some people always want to change others to mold to their ideal person. That's what the problem is - instead of accepting the person and taking the good and the bad, they look for perfection when they themselves have many flaws! May be start by looking in the mirror first!

What's up with "LATINA?" See you are making the first mistake by looking for your ideal man in a non-latino place! Looking at your name you have your own prejedices and ethnic complex. otherwise you wouldn't come up with this name. 

You don't see us calling ourselves Iranian and looking for love in a cuban site! Work on yourself first, before working on others!

Sade..

Perhaps Sade can provide the music for the blog.

Smooth Operator:

Paradise:

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Hi! Natalia,

   I have Shania Twain's CDs and concert DVD. She is one of my favorite singers. She has both beauty and brain! You said that:

my man and I cook in the kitchen

I call it "equality" LOL!

If you get married, I recommend you play this song at your wedding:

please take care!

yolanda

Any man of mine.....:o)

I like Shania Twain! Yeeeeeeeehaw! LOL

Yolanda,

Sounds  about right. I do the cooking and he does the eating. LOL

Now seriously, how about my man and I cook in the kitchen that is. LOL I best behave myself. hahahaha

Don't forget EMOTIONALLY stable too. Ay Dios! I keep meeting this immature men. I already have two teenage boys. Don't need a third one. lol

 Oh yeah! We women don't want no CASANOVAS. You come across a CASANOVA and RUN for your life.

//www.youtube.com/watch?v=oM7NQQ0Lfu4

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Hi Natalia,

    You cracked me up in the following parts:

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you want the man to be mentally stable

Someone who loves Iran as much as you do. Who dislikes the current government of Iran as much as you do.

You would love for your Ideal Man to know how to cook Persian food.

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The reality is that the "Ideal man" wants you to cook, but he eats the Persian food! :O) I hope the video is OK with you!

Disclaimer: The song lyrics does not represent my opinions! LOL!

A moment like this........

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//www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPUJIbXN0WY

I just call you mine.........

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//www.youtube.com/watch?v=zhpFwpu0mGw

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