Road to Perfection!

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Road to Perfection!
by Latina
14-Feb-2010
 

Many years ago in a very distant land, I tried so very hard to be perfect for everyone when I was growing up. Let me tell you that it is an impossible goal. You can't please everyone, all the time. It only leaves you feeling lost and exhausted. So, I decided long ago that I don't want to travel down the road of perfection. I simply want to be the best person that I can be for me. It is a much more attainable goal.

I don't believe there is such a thing as a "Perfect Man" or "Perfect Woman". Now, there can be a "Mr. Right" or "Ms. Right" for an individual without all this talk of perfection. I still believe that everyone has an IDEAL MAN or IDEAL WOMAN in mind. Whether people realize it or not we all have in our minds a check list of what we want in our soul mate.

This check list varies from person to person. Some place more value on the outer beauty and material wealth of an individual, while others place more value on the inner beauty. Of course, some have a mixture of both. Is one more right than the other? It really depends on whom you ask. Before anyone starts attacking me, I never specified which one was better. So, live and let live. Aye!

Whenever we meet a person within a matter of seconds or minutes we quickly evaluate the individual and place them in a certain category: friend, acquaintance, romantic interest and so forth. In time as we continue to communicate with them then things may change. For others the relationships remain the same or simply end. Such is life! Like the saying goes, "People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime."

In any relationship there will be a need to compromise. However, if you are with the most compatible person to you then the logic is that it will be much easier to "agree to disagree". Both individuals will be willing to make the necessary compromises without either one feeling used or taken advantage of.

The changes should be agreed upon by the individual and not forced on them. In order for the change to be a permanent one, it must be done by choice. I certainly do not like it when someone gives me ultimatums. So, I don't believe in giving them either. One should never ask something that they are not willing to do themselves.

It is never ever a good idea to think that you will change an individual once you are in a relationship with them. Some of what you might want to change may actually be an important aspect of them. A part of what attracted you to them in the first place. For instance if you are attracted to the strong and silent type but then they really don't know how to communicate with you. One is going to have to put in a little more effort in helping them get out of their shell at the beginning. Now, remember NO nagging allowed. Tell them how you feel without hen pecking them to death.

I love being so imperfect. It is what makes me so unique. I decide what I want to improve on, just to make me even happier. In the long run it makes me a much better person. So, remember you must love yourself first if you expect or want anyone else to love you too.

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by yolanda on Mon Feb 15, 2010 08:47 PM PST

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:o)

by Latina on Mon Feb 15, 2010 01:44 PM PST

I continue on my quest towards further knowledge.

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Latina,

by Rendd on Mon Feb 15, 2010 01:40 PM PST

10 years is going to take your IQ off the chart!

Take Care,


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Souri,

by Rendd on Mon Feb 15, 2010 01:39 PM PST

It's all good!

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by Latina on Mon Feb 15, 2010 01:49 PM PST

Yolanda,

I can not believe it but I actually got out early from work. It is a MIRACLE! LOL A blizzard is going to hit my area (Sarcasm...my humble attempt at humor).

I practically live at work. I am trying to change though and balance my life more. :o)

So, I came straight home. I will go meet Julio at the the doctors at 4pm.

Oh yeah! Have you heard the latest song by Leona Lewis. I think it is kind of nice.

//www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Mt7Nfq1CJc

Best,

PS: I really like Leona Lewis songs. I think she was on the British version of American Idol. I can't remember the title of the show.

 


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Oh, I see now

by Souri on Mon Feb 15, 2010 01:41 PM PST

Sorry Rennd,

when I've posted that comment, I thought that link was posted by Latina. I'm so sorry for the misunderstanding, it was not intentional. If I'd seen it well and knew that  link was posted by you, I wouldn't give back that answer.

Sorry again.

Dear Latina: Thanks. All is well now. I'd misread your comment and confused it with the link of Rendd which was right above your name. My mistake.


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Souri

by Latina on Mon Feb 15, 2010 01:21 PM PST

Thank you! No worries here. I am just exploring some subjects that some of my loyal readers have requested that I write on.

Cheers! :o)


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Latina

That explains it then

by Latina on Mon Feb 15, 2010 01:17 PM PST

Rendd,

Thank you for sharing this very interesting article. :o)

Well, that explains why I have been single soooo long.

I am just brilliant. LOL I can live with that.

I guess I can expect to remain single another 10 plus years as I do indeed intend to obtain an advance degree. Quel Dommage!

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Rennd

by Souri on Mon Feb 15, 2010 01:15 PM PST

I don't give a rat about what you think or you hope for me.

I liked to participate in this blog and I did so........It seems that I have to avoid going wherever you are, Is that what you are implying?

What you mean by mudding the water? This is a general forum and we all bring our different views.

Please don't act like the kindergarten's children. There's room for everybody here.

I leave this blog now. Happy?

Ajab gereftari shodim ha....


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Souri,

by Rendd on Mon Feb 15, 2010 12:28 PM PST

I wonder why all of sudden you've got interested in her blog! I hope you are not the type who muddies the water, sits back and watch the fight.


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my dear Latina

by Souri on Mon Feb 15, 2010 10:52 AM PST

Maddona's IQ is 140 (true or false, I don't know) but she got married twice (some say three times)........don't worry about those things too much :)

//www.kids-iq-tests.com/famous-people.html


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Rendd

Here you go:

by Rendd on Mon Feb 15, 2010 10:38 AM PST

According to a recent British study, the higher a woman's IQ the less likely she is to get married. The opposite is true for men.

source: //www.feministing.com/archives/002465.html

 


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by Latina on Sun Feb 14, 2010 06:56 PM PST

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Take care and have a great week.

 Don't get too addicted to this place. :o)

Good night

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by Latina on Sun Feb 14, 2010 03:48 PM PST

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Yes, this is the sequel. In it I bring up some issues that were commented on the Ideal Man blog.

Yes, there is something very attractive about the strong and  silent type of man. I guess because I am such an extrovert. LOL Only thing is that it  takes a lot of time and patience to help such an individual communicate better with one. :o)

Patience is a  virtue and the right guy is worth all the time  needed.

Thank you for the video!

Cheers!


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yolanda

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by yolanda on Sun Feb 14, 2010 01:06 PM PST

Hi! Natalia,

    This must be the sequel to the "Ideal Man" blog! Wow! You are very productive! This part is interesting:

For instance if you are attracted to the strong and silent type but then they really don't know how to communicate with you. One is going to have to put in a little more effort in helping them get out of their shell at the beginning.


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