The "cut you downer" people

Hmmmm..

I would have said ignore them all but I know when these things keep happening it becomes  impossible. So I say speak back ..

The dilemma is do you speak to them the way they speak to you or do you respond to them in a way that sets an example perhaps? I suspect you will do the latter because you are obviously a sensitive person,

You know one thing I have noticed about the type of people you describe is that they pick on people who they sense will take their comments without retaliation. They vent their frustrations and none of it has anything to do with you.

Perhaps you should work on the message you give out to others. At present you are probably sending out defensive vibs and this is what they pick up. Foster a bolder attitude, stand up straight, shoulders back, look peoeple straight in the eye etc and send out 'dont mess with me vibs' in the nicest possible way.

It works.

People often get me wrong: Im patient, generally kind and forgiving and they think they can boss me about. I let them to a limit, it depends on whether I think their advice is good or not. But I have a limit to my patience and then I become firm. People ae always surprised /confused when they see this side of me, I have been described often as an iron fist inside a silk glove.

Javaneh

You sound just like one of

You sound just like one of my cousins. Very smart, accomplished guy, but socially?..... hmmmm

Before you go in reading this any further, please understand that I only write this to be helpful, if you take this any other way, my apologies, and please ignore it.

Some of what you say, I can quite sympathize, regarding dealing with rude, condescending people. Sometimes telling them off will stop it. Sometimes it won't, and may have to decide if they're worth dealing with. But remember, at times, some people might be giving a genuine advice for your own good, which may seem condescending, but be quite good natured.

If you feel you really have a problem, you may wanna consult with a counsleor, just to help you unlock your problems, and perhaps understand others better.

My cousin had a very difficult childhood. An only child of divorce, and no friends when growing up. His parents were both very accomplished, and a very few times a year that we saw them, I heard them crticizing my poor cousin in front of others.

He went on to become a top notch doctor, always the head of class, etc, however, socially he is really off. I am one of the very few people in the family that he still speaks too, and I know I have to be so careful and sensitive when talking to him. All of us cousins, we always joke, calling each other silly names, back and forth, all in good spirit, of course, and we enjoy it, but with him it is all serious. He feels other people are rude and insensitive to him, if they make a joke to about/him. He can't seem to handle it, and takes offence quickly. I can see his point, but,I also see certain difficulties in his thinking and personality. We all know that aunt X can make rude remarks, but all of us are somehow dealing with her, except him.

Wishing you well.

Dear Writer It sounds very

Dear Writer

It sounds very sad story as it is real. I think you shouldn't ignore your feeling or things that happening to you. That's not right thing to ignore those people.
I had same problem you had.For years I tried to ignore them. one day I just stopped ignoring them. You know what i do now in the situation like yours. I always look into the persons eyes I say what I feel.
once my sister told me that I got so ugly after losing some weight. I looked on her eyes and told her maybe I am ugly but I am sure not uglier that you standing in front of me and saying that into my face. you are my family and you are supposed to see me beautiful.
or with any other Iranian, sorry to say that but I don't know why some Iranian get so friendly so soon. just look them in the eyes, very confident and tell them off. Tell them it is not their business what so ever.
Take yourself more serious. You'll see that makes a lot of differences. You are not a bad person but that doesn't mean you let people to come on you and walk all over you. are you afraid people will hate you ? so what...
See what they are doing to you.

Looking forward for your next entry regarding the same subject. :-)

Are you the silent,

Are you the silent, thoughtful and polite type of guy, always? Are you sensetive to what others might say or think of you? Well, don't feel responsible for other peoples behaviour! Anyways, be yourself and enjoy life as it is and don't pay attention to ray of negativity from your surroundings! And remember Fozoolee ++ is a normal trait among us! Good luck and happy new year! Regrads Fatollah

Paranoia...

Will destroy you, if you let it!

Ignore!

 Sorry I meant Ignore!

Be sepas

Igore!

 I would not let it bothers me if I were you.  Try to occupy yourself with something that makes you happy and you would not even notice these non sense!