Orphan in search for my biological family

Orphan in search for my biological family
by peter
25-Aug-2008
 

Hey,

I'm not sure where to begin.  In 1977, when I was about 2 years old, I was adopted from the Shah's orphanage in Tehran. I don't have much to go on, and it's not certain that I actually was born in Tehran. According to my adoptive parents, I was transferred from another orphanage to the Shah's orphanage since I was sick, and would receive a better medical attention in Tehran. My adoptive parents do not remember the location of the first orphanage, and I currently see this information as unconfirmed. 

Even if my birthdate can be off with a few days or weeks, at least I can say that I was born in the end of June or beginning of July 1975. 

Maybe you don't recognize me, but who knows, your relatives in Iran might. I would truly appreciate if you could forward my picture to anyone who you might think could know. Or maybe you know a better forum for me to continue my search?

Thanks for reading, and take care!

 

Peter 

PS. The picture posted shows me when I was about two and three years old. 

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peter

Thanks for your wellwishes

by peter on Wed Aug 27, 2008 01:26 AM PDT

Dear Irandokht,

I appreciate your opinion regarding who our true parents are, however based on my experience as being adopted I can't agree with it. 

I noticed at an early age how everyone expected me being adopted, to be so appreciative of my new parents and how they 'saved" me, while biological children are never expected to feel the same. I didn't adopt my parents, they adopted me, and on top of that, my dad left me/us for another woman when I was 13 years old.

Please understand me for not feeling so 'lucky', and instead trying to give life another chance when going to find my biological parents. I don't expect to find a perfect ending, instead I'm trying to replant my roots in the soil they were abruptly removed from. There is a reason why you can't plant a Persian Silk Tree in Sweden.

Furthermore, who knows if was saved from a very dark future. Maybe would I have been adopted to a Persian family, where I wouldn't have felt weird about my psychical attributes and emotional expressions. As you probably are aware of, Sweden is not Iran, and looking different from an early age, meant in my case that I always had to prove myself to the extent where it sometimes becomes ridiculous.  

If I ever find my biological parents, they won't eliminate the love and affection I have for my adoptive mother. My love is not limited to X percent, where they have to share it between them, instead they will open up a chamber in my heart that has been closed for a very long time....

 

Peter 


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peter

Thank you!

by peter on Wed Aug 27, 2008 12:41 AM PDT

Dear Ebi,

Thank you for taking the time and responding. Very much appreciated! I'll keep you posted if the tree bear fruit.  

Kind regards,

Peter 


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ebi amirhosseini

Dear Peter

by ebi amirhosseini on Mon Aug 25, 2008 07:42 PM PDT

I know the daily newspaper " Iran",which is published in Iran,has a special project( run by their "Havaades / Casual" section),in the last few years,they have reunited many children with their birth parents,check their site info,contact them,it might help.

this is their contact  link:

Contact us: iran-newspaper@iran-newspaper.com

good luck & best wishes


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Dear Peter please do not call yourself orphan!

by Adoptive mother (not verified) on Mon Aug 25, 2008 06:19 PM PDT

I am an adoptive mother, I love my son more than life, and I would give my life for him. Please do not call yourself an orphan. I cried when I read your post,I do not think of my son as an orphan! even though he is not from Iranian descent he speaks Farsi fluently and loves ASH. The fact that he needed me, made him more special to me and my husband. I hope that your adoptive family has given you the same love. I tell my son he is not from my flesh, but he is from my soul.it is normal to want to know about your past, and I will help my child to do the same, but , rest assure even if you find them , you will see how much you are like your adoptive family.
Best of luck in your search , but do not call yourself an orphan please.


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News Goffer

Can this help?

by News Goffer on Mon Aug 25, 2008 03:25 PM PDT

Dear Peter:

A while back, another person in your situation sent a plea for help from Sweden.  Take a look at her letter and see if you can contact her to see whether her search rendered any results.  I know I have also seen similar pleas and subsequent reunions reported on Iran Daily Newspaper in Iran.  I will look for it to see what I can find out for you.  I hope this is helpful.  Good luck to you in your search. 

 //iranian.com/Letters/2007/February/b.html

Tadjamolbahkt family

Looking for biological parents:

My name is Louise Ekdahl and I am a 29 year-old woman who lives in Sweden.

I was born in Iran the 23 rd of August 1977 (according to my passport) and was adopted by a Swedish couple. I moved to Sweden in January 1978.

I am looking on some infomation about my biological parents. I know very little about my background.

* I was given the name Sholeh Tadjamolbahkt

* The city of Mashad has been mentioned, however, my adoptive parents don't know/cannot remember who mentioned this to them.

* I was left to an orphanage in Tehran somewhere between September-December 1977.

* The orphange was run by someone close the the Shah, perhaps his wife.

As I am turning 30 and about to start a family of my own the desire to know more about my biological background grows bigger. I certainly do not wish to impose myself on someone else's life, however I would like to get in touch with someone who represents my origins, a nurse from the orphanage, someone who knows something about any siblings I might have, parents, uncles etc.

Any piece of information, no matter how small, is valuable to me.

Louise Ekdahl


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IRANdokht

Peter

by IRANdokht on Mon Aug 25, 2008 02:58 PM PDT

I believe you can only post one picture at a time. None of the two you are talking about is showing up in your blog.

I hope you do find someone who can help you with the information you need, but please don't set yourself up for a heartache.

This search of yours is like looking for a needle in a haystack. You are lucky to have your parents. The ones who have taken care of you and most likely saved you from a very dark future.

The country was not an easy place to live for a lot of people during the time after your adoption. Please count your blessings and be good to them.

It's not who gives us our genes but the ones who take care of us and invest in us emotionally who are our true parents.

Best of luck to you

IRANdokht


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