More and more highly educated professionals in S. California or elsewhere in U.S. and Europe are getting married past their mid thirties. There are many reasons behind this.
First thing is that men and women want to “experiece” more of life’s offering before settling down. For many, specially men, this means having sex with as many women as they can; because nowadays, you can. Secondly, it is so expensive to attend college, pay loans, buy a starter home and if you live in LA to pay for a wedding that most guys need to work several years past graduation just to save up and/or pay for these things. Thereare ofcourse many other reasons for postponements; travelling, family obligations, personal goals…etc
So what happens, the guy ends up at 34, 35 or 38 before he really starts thinking about marriage. At this age, the guy now has a house and a couple hundred Gs in the bank or stocks. So he starts wanting to “protect” his assets.
Almost the same thing is true for women; thank God we have so many highly educated professional women in our community these days; lawyers, dentists, doctors, engineers etc. By the time many of these women finish school and really start looking for a husband, they are 34, 35! But now, they think hell, why should I trust a guy if I’m starting a dental office with great $$ potential. If we get divorced after 3 or 5 years, I have to share 50% of my pratice with him. Are you kidding me?!
Hence, the subject of prenuptul agreement. According to a couple of Iranian lawyers in LA, 3-4 out of 10 professional couples in their mid or late 30s now are drawing up prenups; extensive complicated ones. I don’t know how this compares with the American society.
Thank God I married a couple decades ago….I don’t think I could have gone through all this stuff if I was in the market for marriage.
F.F.
Los Angeles
