This is my advice column. You can submit your questions about relationship, sex, marriage, society or any other topic you want and I will answer from my (Iranian, male, 40’s, too few hairs on the head, few too many pounds on the body) most candid but often unique perspective.
BK has asked: “How do I make my GF have a three-some?”
Dear BK; since you didn’t provide more details, I will need to make some assumptions to get a complete picture: A – you are looking for another guy to join the two of you or B – you are looking for a girl. In some ways it really doesn’t make a difference as long as you aren’t really “making” your GF do it for your pleasure alone, with no regards to her feelings or desires. One other thing you may seriously want to consider is how this is going to affect your relationship afterwards. I know watching some porn actor do it turns you on but that’s on the screen, no emotions vested and your skin or hers aren’t touching another human being. It’ll be very different in real life. Now if you have considered all of the above and still want to do it, I suggest being honest about it. I don’t mean going up to her and saying “hey how about a threesome?” but maybe you can suggest sharing a fantasy or better yet, tell her you had a dream last night and start telling her about how you were in the midst of making incredible love with her when you noticed this strange woman walked in on you. Watch for her sign of excitement to hear more or disgust at the suggestion. If you get the first, keep going on. If the second comes up, end it by saying thankfully you woke up! Damn that was a strange dream! Think about it, if she wanted to tell you the same thing, you would minimize the risk of hurting the relationship by being a bit creative, not deceptive. Last thing you want to consider is if she’s really into it and want to expand it to the other gender or even multiple partners, etc. But that’s another question for another time. Good luck!
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