I find myself beginning a new phase of life. I am now living alone for the very first time, in all my life. I have found that I make excellent company. It is very good news indeed.
I have been preparing for this moment for many years. I knew one day that I would have an Empty Nest! I achieved my academic goal and I established my career before my last son left the nest. I encouraged my two sons to go to university and follow their own dreams.
Now, you might be wondering, “How on earth did she never live alone before?” Well, you see, I came from a very strict upbringing. I am 1/2 generation Mexican-American. I was born in Mexico but at the age of 3 my family moved to the U.S. into a predominantly Hispanic neighborhood. As, first born and a girl, there were certain expectations of me.
I did manage to live in the dorms at university for one semester but I had a roommate. I was just a kid then so I was home sick. Funny thing was, my parents home was on the other side of the city. It was not like they were in another town or state. None the less, I did return home. My parents were very happy to see me return. So, much so that I was given the largest bedroom in the home.
In my culture back then it was expected that a young lady would only move out upon marrying. I am talking about back in the 80’s. Now, it is more acceptable for young Hispanic women to leave home for university. They are also not judged as harshly if they don’t marry in their early twenties if they are going to university. Now, if they don’t pursue any academic studies then they are encouraged to marry young.
Now back to my present. My mother and some siblings worry about my being alone. They mean well but for now, being alone is good. For the first time, I have the opportunity to take a good look at my life and make any changes that I see are necessary. I have spent most of my life making sacrifices for my loved ones. It is my time now.
At first, it felt strange not to have someone around but now I value my “me” time. I can also take a nap whenever, I want. During the school year, I get up at 4 or 5 am Monday-Friday. I have earned my little naps. :o) At the moment, I am on vacation but I am still working on personal goals. One of them is continuing an academic goal of mine.
The next big change will be moving to a smaller place. I have it all planned out for July. I saw my new future home. It will be nice and cozy. I can see myself, reading, crocheting, writing, drinking a latte or tea on my patio. What a pleasant and relaxing thought.
Yes, I do believe that I am ready for the new phase of my life. :o)
