Why do women lie?
We all know why most men lie
By Manouchehr Mehrparvar
June 21, 2004
I have dated 4 Iranian women in the last year
and a half and they all had one thing in common. They all lied
at least a couple of important subjects early on in our
We all know why most men lie; sex. To either get
some or to avoid
problems when they get it! Please notice that I said MOST men and not all. So,
don't send me emails trying to counter that assumption.
But why do women
lie about so many different things?
To begin with, all 4 women
I dated lied about their age. The youngest one was
29 and said she was 26. The oldest one was 34 and said she
was 29. I am 39 by the way and I have only been 39 for the past
Then I found out that 3 of the 4 women lied about
their past relationships; initially they were all involved in 2
relationships. But by the
4th or 5th date they would start talking about all the many Iranian
assholes (sorry men) they had dated and how all Iranian men are
jerks, liers, cheats, drug users, etc.
A couple of them lied about
where they lived while living in Iran. It appears that less than
1 percent of Iranian women who live in LA are
from middle class neighbourhoods of Tehran. Most seem
to have lived in Niyavaran, Farmaniyeh, Shahrak-e Gharb and
other ritzy areas of Tehran. I have yet to meet a woman who
was from Geesha, Narmak etc.
Many of the older generation men that
first came to the U.S. in the 1980s suffered from the same kind
of dillusion; most thought they were close
friends or relatives of
the late Shah.
A couple of these lovely women lied about their
education. Apparently to Mitra, a Masters Degree from UCLA
and an unfinished AA degree from Costa Mesa College are the same.
Maybe it's been a streak of bad luck,
or maybe I am a lier magnet or maybe I attract the type of people
who are the same as me. Who
knows. I hope it was only bad luck.
I understand that we all have to be concious of what
we tell strangers about ourselves. There is nothing wrong with
being selective when
it comes to sharing information, specially intimate details of
our lives when we are on a first, second or a third date. But for
God's sake, let's practice honesty when it comes to attempts to
start relationships. Maybe this would help
rate in the Iranian-American community.
goodbye to spam!