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Why do women lie?
We all know why most men lie

By Manouchehr Mehrparvar
June 21, 2004

I have dated 4 Iranian women in the last year and a half and they all had one thing in common. They all lied about at least a couple of important subjects early on in our dating cycle.

We all know why most men lie; sex. To either get some or to avoid problems when they get it! Please notice that I said MOST men and not all. So, don't send me emails trying to counter that assumption.

But why do women lie about so many different things?

To begin with, all 4 women I dated lied about their age. The youngest one was 29 and said she was 26. The oldest one was 34 and said she was 29. I am 39 by the way and I have only been 39 for the past 7 months.

Then I found out that 3 of the 4 women lied about their past relationships; initially they were all involved in 2 relationships. But by the 4th or 5th date they would start talking about all the many Iranian assholes (sorry men) they had dated and how all Iranian men are jerks, liers, cheats, drug users, etc.

A couple of them lied about where they lived while living in Iran. It appears that less than 1 percent of Iranian women who live in LA are from middle class neighbourhoods of Tehran.  Most seem to have lived in Niyavaran, Farmaniyeh, Shahrak-e Gharb and other ritzy areas of Tehran. I have yet to meet a woman who was from Geesha, Narmak etc.

Many of the older generation men that first came to the U.S. in the 1980s suffered from the same kind of dillusion; most thought they were close friends or relatives of the late Shah.

A couple of these lovely women lied about their education. Apparently to Mitra, a Masters Degree from UCLA and an unfinished AA degree from Costa Mesa College are the same.

Maybe it's been a streak of bad luck, or maybe I am a lier magnet or maybe I attract the type of people who are the same as me. Who knows. I hope it was only bad luck.

I understand that we all have to be concious of what we tell strangers about ourselves. There is nothing wrong with being selective when it comes to sharing information, specially intimate details of our lives when we are on a first, second or a third date. But for God's sake, let's practice honesty when it comes to attempts to start relationships. Maybe this would help reduce the divorce rate in the Iranian-American community.

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