December 17, 2001
* What have we done for our homeland?
Dear Katy,
Many of us have similar feelings to yours ["Anaar"].
Unfortunately many Iranians like to just complain about Iran and do nothing
else. Of course living in Iran has many limitations, compared to living
here in the US. It also has a lot of unique aspects that one can never find
here. Instead of complaining about what Iran has done to us, I wish we ask
ourselves what have we done for our homeland?
Many immigrants from other countries who come to the US still love their
homeland and try to use the wealth and knowledge they have acquired here
to help develop their homeland. Many doctors go back to treat patients for
a limited time each year, or teach in a university for a few months, or
send financial help to build schools. Even if we do not want to go back,
we should try to help in any way we can to help our homeland.
God bless you.
Mojgan
* I am going back too
Hurray for the intelligent Iranian girl ["Anaar"].
You are absolutely right that there are so many wonderful things about Iran
and Iranians to love. The people who claim they hate Iran have either something
to hide or suffer from identity crises.
I have been here since 1978 and tell my 15-year-old repeatedly that as
soon as he has his own life, I am going back home.
By the way, he considers himself Iranian and tells people he was born
in Iran (he has never been there). Do not be discouraged by hearing some
ignorant people's remarks. We do not like the government but the land is
still beautiful and filled with wonderful sounds, sites and people.
Azam Nemati
* Bit immature
Altough I admire and appreciate her sentiments and love for Iran, I think
that she is a bit immature, and her ideas are somewhat naiive. ["Anaar"]
For example, becoming more religious has nothing to do with becoming
more Iranian. And those who "go clubbing 5 times a week" are not
necessarily "ignorant" Iranian-Americans. This lady should learn
not to generalize, and learn that copying the old dogmas of our grandmothers
don't make us any more Iranian.
Being in Iran is fun when you just go for a one month visit and go to
back-to-back mehmoonies. But realize what your relatives had to go through
to organize them. I want to go back to Iran and help rebuild it too, but
that is how we will show our love for Iran, not by just eating anar and
going to mehmooni.
HamMihan Irani
* Being Iranian is what YOU believe
Katy Khanoomeh gol, ["Anaar"]
I , like yourself, and probably like many others, have had the same feelings.
The love for Iran. I too have been out of Iran for over 20 years, and yet,
yearn for that "reality of becoming an Iranian. I have come to the
conclusion that I am looking for something that has been in my heart all
along. The memories, the smells, the tastes, and everything that reminds
me of Iran.
I admire you for trying to become closer to your roots by learning the
language, to read and to write in Farsi and even to understand the religion.
My obsession originally was with the people (mind you, I still am fascinated
by Iranians!). I wanted to find out what the culture of Iran is by looking
at the people. I did this by joining many Iranian clubs, and youth organizations.
I still didn't find what I was looking for.
One day a friend told me about a 24 hour radio station that was starting
up and needed some Iranian people to run the "Javanan" section.
I started my own program and for 4 years, I absorbed as much as the Iranian
culture as I could. It,s amazing what people tell you over the radio. They
open up their hearts and souls.
In conclusion, being Iranian is what YOU believe it is. For me, its everything
my parents taught me. From my moms famous cooking to my dads stories about
his childhood and neighborhood.
I still get very home sick when I think of Iran, and wish that I could
go back and still play with my cousins, but the reality is that my home
is now elsewhere. I don,t think I will ever be able to go back and live
in Iran. I will always be an Iranian living out of Iran.
Wishing you all the best
Sharareh
* Learn to live in peace
In response to ["Can't
forget or forgive"], I'd like to retell a factual story that occurred
during India's Independence Movement.
After the Congress Party and Mahatma Gandhi had finally forced the British
to leave India, fraternal strife broke between the Indian Moslems and Hindus,
leading to Gandhi taking a fast until the Indians, who respected Gandhi
immensely, would come to their senses and stop the violence against one
another.
Gandhi was already an old man of ill health, yet willing to fast to death,
to peacefully force the issue that the Indian Moslems and Hindus have to
learn to live in peace in one India. One the third or fourth day of his
fast, a Hindu man came to Gandhiji begging him to stop his fasting. The
Hindu man begged that he already had lost his 5 years old son to the violence,
killed by a Muslim, and could not afford to lose his spiritual leader, Gandhi,
as well.
He was angry at Gandhi for asking him to live in peace with Muslims who
had killed his son and asked Gandhi what he would do if he had a 5 years
old son killed by a Muslim. Would he still call for forgiveness? Gandhi
calmly replied:"I would go and find an orphan 5 years old Muslim boy,
adopt him and bring him up as my son."
And as the Hindu man was leaving sobbing, Gandhi added "and I would
still bring him up a Muslim, in the religion of his fathers."
Enough said.
GeneralConsultants
* Shape your hatred
In response to ["Can't
forget or forgive"] and related letters: My two-year-old son knows
that fighting is wrong. So we do not need to know anything about politics
of war to assess the nature of war. It might be acceptable for one to run
out of his or her country because he or she did not believe on politics
of war and did not want to kill other human beings. But we cannot criticize
people who were there and defeated our country; no matter they were a non-mature
Basiji or a soldier who had to serve in the military.
Dear Farid,
your children will be proud of you. You defeated your city and your country.
And you treated your enemy in spite of your hatred. Don't forget and forgive,
just shape your hatred. Change it to a strong motivation in your life.
Look
* Understand the pain, hatred
I read the comments of two iranians who were obviously NOT from Abadan
or Khorramshahr. If they were from there, my appologies in advance.
The citizens of Abadan and Khorramsharh were on the front line of the
war. Let's not forget that Iraq invaded Iran through those cities without
warning. It is easy to speak philisophically about war, but unless your
childhood home has been bombed into oblivion, unless your family had to
live for weeks under siege, listening to bombs falling, fearing for their
lives and wondering if they would survive, you can not understand the pain
and perhaps the hatred. ["Iraqis
were forced into war too"]
It is hard to ask someone who has lived this horor - an invasion and
of war and - to put it behind him ["Can't
forget or forgive"]. He has done something many of us have not
- he fought the Iraqis and help drive them out of Iran. The emotional scars
are hard to cure without therapy and I, for one, understand how he may feel.
If it were so easy, we would never have the same reoccuring conflicts several
times a century.
We can't cling to hate, we must be willing to forgive and move on. But
for some, it is just not that easy.
Tania Shetabi
* Tell that to the families on the border
Be liberal, be anti-war and promote peace, just mind your bigotry. Folks
who whine statements to the effect "Oh, Iraqis were just a bunch of
poor innocent youngsters who were forced to fight" should tell that
to the families on the border who's homes and towns were burned and cars
set aflame. ["Iraqis
were forced into war too"]
You tell that to the children of the man in Khorramshahr who was beaten
by your "POOR" Iraqi soldiers while they raped his wife 'til her
demise. You weren't there, yet you wish to enforce your hippie-oriented,
"we all suffered" rhetoric on the generation that is striving
to learn about its past and the horrors inflicted upon its motherland.
It's not your place to do the educating, you weren't there. So, let those
who fought, served and protected do the honors ["Can't
forget or forgive"]. The war was not a political blunder until
it became Khomeini's conquest of his holy bullshit dream. Until that point,
the war was in defense of our nation and holding on to our forts and those
who held on have the right to hate for they witnessed the hell and lived
through it.
Reza
* Physicians's oath
In a recent photo essay entitled "Can't
forget or forgive", the author, a physician shows his disgust toward
a patient who happened to be a former Iraqi soldier and clearly whishes
the worst for him when he says "I wish the bullet had gone little to
the left".
I would like to ask the author if he truly took the oath of Hypocrotes,
as all physicians do, when he became a physician. This oath clearly states
that a physician should heal and take care of a patient unconditionally.
This means if the patient is a former enemy, a serial killer or even Osama
bin Laden he or she must be healed.
M. Etminan
* Be proud of your name
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would
smell as sweet."
I was amused to read "Do
not embarrass your children" by Raha N. What's wrong with the beautiful
name of Elaheh? First of all it's pleasing to the ear and secondly (very!)
respectful of the owner.
Be proud of your name as it is an important part of your identity. People
will mispronounce a name no matter what it is, so if you don't want that
to happen you can choose a western name like Sue or Barbara, as many people
from choose to Hong-Kong do.
As for those who think the name Elaheh is sacriligeous, tell the to go
fix men's names like Yadollah, Roohollah, ... first! If you start changing
your name because of what other people say, the next thing you'll have to
do is to change the clothes you are wearing, the friends you are seeing,
the food you are eating, and so on.
A name like Kobra or Qoli or Gholam can be embarrassing to have, but
in my opinion, not Elaheh!
Sam
* Being too hard on mom
Dear Ms. Elahe:
I enjoyed reading your article ["Do
not embarrass your children"] and found your story something that
I (and almost all Iranians) could personally relate to. Although I agree
with you that consideration should be given when naming a child, I think
you're being too hard on your mom. She picked a beautiful name for you.
Be proud of it!
Mersedeh Mehrtash
* Names chosen by our parents are gifts
My name is Pari. I am a half Persian girl who when reading your article
["Do
not embarrass your children"] felt I had to respond. First of all
you have a beautiful name! Please reconsider. My father had chosen my name.
However my mother being American shared the same concerns that you are expieriencing
right now. As a result I was called Julie. Throughout my youth I was referred
to as Julie and infact there are many who continue to refer to me by this
name.
It was in 1979 as a result of the crisis in Iran I chose to go back to
Pari which was quite the opposite one would expect during these trying times.
The reasons were simple I felt proud to be Persian. I was so intriqued and
found my father's heritage to be one that I longed for and was was forever
connected to. I took pride in sharing the beauty of our culture! As I grow
older I grow more proud.
We are a wonderful people. Unfortunately in all the world there are good
and bad. We just tend to focus on the negative aspects which certainly has
been an injustice too many...
The names chosen by our parents are gifts. Although pronunciation can
often be difficult. Here in the U.S. I see other nationalities naming children
clearly identifiable names linking them to their heritage, continuing their
wonderful traditions. These traditions are the links to who we are where
we come from and express our individualism in this wonderful land of opportunity!
Anyway, Elahe is a beautiful name it flows from ones lips like a stream
to a beautiful flower, a Persian flower...
Be proud ... I know I am!
Pari Amani-Vartanian
* But come on.... ! Elaheh?
I read your story and I can not agree more about what you said ["Do
not embarrass your children"]. There are a lot of Iranian parents
who do not think when it comes to name their children. However, your name
is not as bad as you think. It could be a lot worse... believe me, I have
heard names that are really embarrassing for the person.
But come on.... ! Elaheh?... Elaheh is not a bad name although it is
Arabic but it really sounds good. Even if you wanna make it a little Americanised
you can pronounce it like Elia or Ela. As a matter of fact I have a friend
whose name is Ela (Elaheh).
On the other hand my name is Shahram but at work or among my American
friends I am known as Sean. Now this doesn't mean that I am embarrassed.
I am simply trying to make it convenient for some people who have a rough
time pronouncing it every time.
I am proud of my unique name and as a citizen of this country I had the
chance to change it to Sean but I didn't. This is the only thing that has
left for me from my mother and father who I dearly love.
But let me tell you some thing else, when we came to this country we
learned every thing about this country. I remember even before coming to
America my geography about the united states and world was great. I was
trying to pronounce every thing correctly to be able to communicate with
these people and get a lot of friends.
Now if some body from this country who doesn't know where Iran is and
what kind of people we are, wants to communicate with us and can't even
say our name correctly, I don't think that person is even worth communicating
with.
I know I have a nick name too but I am talking in general now. Don't
be embarrassed and dont change your name it is ok to have a unique name!
Shahram Tabrizi
* Great talent
How refreshing it was to read the various poet's made-up messages ["Beh
jaaye do kalameh khoshk o khaali"]. Great talent, and you need
to do the same for other situations. You made my day!
Azam Nemati
* Amazingly splendid
I listened to the tracks from "Earth
whisper" with a lot of interest and excitement. Thanks for sharing
it with us. Amazingly splendid...
Amirali
* I wish I could go back
I enjoyed the story ["Gorgeous
brown eyes"] and I wish I could go back in time to those days of
my life. I would probably do things differently and get the best out of
those days. Anyway, thanks for the article.
Parastoo
* Nice to see a little variaty
This is the best Iranian site ever. Thank you for working hard. I just
hope you update it daily. Keep up the excellent work!
And by the way, Hamid, I think Mr. Javid should put anything he wants
on his site ["Are
you trying to say there are assholes in the world?"]. It's nice
to see a little variaty doesn't matter how stupid it seems to you. And he
does not owe anyone an apology, you owe him one.
Someone from Toronto
* Liberal leftist intellectual attitude
I don't know what you are trying to show or prove by posting the article
of this fucking asshole ["Roodar
of the day"). It is either a joke or if it's the truth, then tell
me what you are trying to prove by posting it? It is neither funny nor particularly
interesting in any aspect.
Please stop having this so-called liberal leftist intellectual attitude
and give any asshole the right to spit on our culture and values. If before
posting it, you already know it is gonna hurt the vast majority of the readers,
then why do you do it?
This touches our pride, our love for our country and people and our culture,
so try to take that into consideration. We already know there are assholes
in the world, and we do not want to be constantly reminded.
Our country has greatly suffered at the hands of illetrate butchers,
and we are now spread all around this planet but still most of us haven't
lost this love for our beautiful country, language, people... That's why
I always log on to your web site to get the latest info about Iran, Iranians,
and their opinions.
But seeing something like that makes me disgusted and I think you, as
the manager of this web site, have a responsibility towards your readers,
just like the editor of a newspaper. And in a well-respected newspaper,
nobody publishes hate or sex-oriented articles that hurt the majority of
readers...
Being free to say and do whatever you want is great, but do not forget,
this freedom stops as soon as you hurt others...
Mani
* Either fundamentalists or...
I just want to say that I'm really proud being hamvatan with Azita. I think
she is really brave doing this. Iranians have become so conservative and
backwardlooking that it amazes me. I'm living in Norway, and here there
people are SO much more civilized when it comes too openess towards nudity.
It's just great nudity should not be a taboo, it reflects the true face
of humans. people who are against brave acts such as the one Azita has done
are 1) Either moslem fundamentalists 2) People who are little overweight
and jealous on people who look good such as Azita, a mid 40s woman or man
with complexes perhaps?
If someone feels they look great who not do something like Azita? Everybody
who wants to pose in artistc pictures are free to do so. Azita is an artist
not a whore. This is not pornographic people. WAKE UP IT`S 2001; counting
with the calendar Persians SHOULD use, something like 2500.
It's Islam that makes people so backward looking, and sometimes I'm not
suprised Iran is in mollas' hands, some posts at the Iranian show how old-fashioned
some are. Thank god Iranian.com exists and posts these pictures. Iranian.com
keep up the good work, we need you, democracy needs you (loved the Salman
Rushdie feature "A
good person" too) for Azita and hopefully a civilized Iran.
Armin
* Acceptable level of nudity?
Regarding to the letters about Azita
Youssefi's pictures I am really curious to know if there is an acceptable
level of nudity in our culture? Is that fine if an Iranian woman puts part
of her breast on a show and an Iranian man show off half of his hairy chest
in public? Does our Iranian culture have a classified definition for that?
Sometimes I think that Iranians think differently about all aspects of
their culture because they have been in different environment at different
span of their lives and they have theirs definition of the culture. Many
Iranians in Iran believe that women have to have a complete Hejab (even
at home) and men should not wear short sleeves clothing.
Some think it is okay to have a bikini and some are comfortable to be
naked in private and not to show off in public. I think this is a problem
with our culture: feeling uncomfortable about sex and nudity. I don't want
to support people who have naked pictures or have a sexy NetMeeting conversation
by Internet.
But I would like to encourage Iranians to talk about sex at home and
not to scared to see Azita Youssefi's pictures. Not to be clear about these
points may result in some physical diseases and mental disorders.
When I read the BBC news "Iran announces jump in HIV figures"
suddenly I thought it is not a problem with Iranian officials that put the
number of HIV-positive patients at around 2,000 for the last 10 years, it
is a wonder in our culture facing to sex issues.
Look
* Iranian playing Arab
Answer to Indian actor playing Iranian: ["Indian
actress?", "What
the average "man" thinks of Iran"]
Many Hollywood movies I see recently have big flaws that would make a
primary school kid call fault. About 1 year ago I saw the movie Insider,
with actors like Al Pacino and Russel Crow and Michael Mann as Director
I would have thought that the movie would be very well done. And it was
beside one glitch that most Americans would not feel, most Americans but
Arab-Americans or Iranian-Americans.
In the beginning of the movie Al Pacinos character goes to Beirut during
the war to interview a grand Mullah there. The funny thing is though that
his interpreter instead of interpreting from English to Arabic, interprets
everything to Persian but the funnier thing is that the mullah guy understands
everything and answers back everything in Arabic which then again the Iranian
guy some how understands and tells back to Al.
You might not know it but Iran's right now most successful actor is called
Omid Jalali(hope got his name correct). He has been playing in movies like
Gladiator and Spy games. He is tall chubby bald guy (look like a normal
human being compared to other actors), who you would have thought to be
Iranian when you see him.
He is a very good actor of course. Guess what role he plays in those
movies; you got it, an Arab. Interesting thing is that in Gladiator the
people of North Africa all talk Arabic which is a bit odd because Islam
came about 1000 years after that time and it took couple of hundred years
more before Arabs actually conquered all North Africa.
All the American TV-shows dealing with outside USA are full of flaws
and you know why; because Americans are mostly ignorant about the rest of
the world. They know very little about outside and they don't want to know
neither. TV-shows like JAG (even with having an half Iranian as star) and
now the Agency has been showing Iran in a very bad and not-recognizable
way for us Iranians. I think there should be an action against these misrepresentations
of foreigners and foreign countries in American TV. Unfortunately the American
TV and cinema has the biggest entertainment power in the World and when
misused it has a very bad effect.
Choghok
* More than just oil to export
Interesting to see all these sound documents appear after all these years
["Precious
sounds"]. The voice of Mozzafar-el-Din Shah, The work of dubbers
on the Sound of music etc... It proves Iran has more than just oil to export.
There is without doubt a rich content in all cultural fields. That after
23 years so much interesting content appear proves that Iranians have not
hybernated during all this time and that their attachment to their cultural
heritage has not dissapeared. Bravo !
Regards,
Darius Kadivar
* A crazy dream
Last night I had a crazy dream. The year was 2020 AC. President Tony
Blair was towards the end of his second term of office at the Government
of the World. The past two decades had witnessed enormous changes. For start,
I shockingly noticed that Afghanistan,s education minister Ms Milani had
proclaimed the end of illiteracy among women in her country.
After all the world community had expended considerable determination
and some $20 bn to ensure that peace and stability would reign there so
that the horrible events of 11 September 2001 will never happen. The governments
of Israel and Palestine had recently signed an economic cooperation agreement...
Then I woke-up.
It was still year 2001. War and instability was still continuing in Afghanistan
and George W Bush was threatening the other terrorist-harbouring nations,
of the world that they could be next in line for the wrath of his enduring
or was it infinite justice or was it freedom. I wondered how much this was
really about such noble notions as opposed to field testing his brand new
set of war armoury to increase its marketability.
Then I realised that politics is still about power: money, guns and knowledge,
and whoever controls these. In the streets of Afghanistan cities and its
tribal areas, it is the Klashinkovs, US Dollars combined with the information
& intelligence machinery supported by satellite phones and reconnaissance
planes that still talks.
But of-course the democratic countries need to ensure that their policies
and actions are supported by public opinion. They are, however, still guided
more by their national interests than altruism. The battle goes on for the
hearts and minds of the public world-wide and increasingly this is what
will determine where we lead to.
The late Bob Kennedy is quoted as having said: "Some people see
things, ask why and then dream. I dream and then ask why not? I had a crazy
dream last night but why not?
Sa'id Farzaneh
London
* Adjusting Bin Laden nose
I want to bring to your attention that the Original Ladin I have seen
in the TV shows earlier diifer from the one shown in the current video ["Where's
the Muslim Mahatma?"]. The nose in this new video is either fake
or digitally created and does not fit with the original previous picture.
The turban size and width is smaller in this new viedeo compared to the
earlier ones.
Further I have seen in the CNN programs earlier how they were trying
to adjust Bin Laden's nose digitally in the computer graphics. Until any
valid information about who tok the video on what date and time and how
it ended up with CIA any neutral person with sound mind cannot accept this
story.
I hate the one sided false allegations of the people who come into the
media and make judgements. The western world say they are democratic and
their legal system is genuine but we are witnessing every day that there
are so many innocent people are being punished for crime which they have
never done. Once again the Muslim brother has to become closer and closer
to avoid disintergration among themselves. One fine day the real truth and
Dharma will win.
Rajah Pathmaganth
* I prayed for God to liberate Iranians
My name is Elias. I read your article "From revolution to freedom".
It reminded me when I saw it on TV, on Telemundo, when it said, "Students
demonstrate for freedoms, but broken up by police". No demonstration
has been seen like this since the Islamic Revolution of 1978.
It's time the Iranian people have freedoms, instead of living in a theocracy,
run by religios fanatics. True, under the Shah, things were not equal, but
women could dress any way they pleased, people could dance to music, and
at least for the youth, fashion was acceptable, without the chador.
I'm a Christian, and I prayed two weeks ago for God to liberate Iranians
from their oppresive government. I say to you, students, don't give up,
because the mullahs' days are numbered. Khatami himself would like more
freedom for the people, but is pressured by his close-by members. Be patient,
my friends. FREEDOM WILL COME.
Elias J. Caban
* Christian America blessed
Why aren't Muslim's rising up in indignation about the terrorists killing
4000 innocent people in the USA in the name of Allah? ["Where's
the Muslim Mahatma?"] I know that I would be outraged if any Christian
group did this to a Muslim country. Why are the Muslim leaders or Muslim
Clerics around the word not speaking with emotion and support for the capturing
of those responsible? My question is it because "birds of a feather
flock together"?
Why are there no democracies in country's of Islam? Why no freedom of
the press, no tolerance of other religions, women treated as second class
citizens and oppression of a different idea? As the Dictators and Kings
rule with a big club by not tolerating differences, they use the USA as
a scapegoat because they want the outrage of their oppressed society to
have at least one outlet of expression hoping to divert the misery of their
flock.
This is just my opinion, I believe that the USA has been blessed by God
because for the most part is a Christian nation. I believe that the problems
of the Muslim countrys is due to their faith in Muhammad. From the people
I know that have met people in the Middle East they express how wonderful
they are, how polite, kind, friendly, respectful and most important, hospitable.
The two girls recently freed in Afghanistan stated the same.
One must understand that Muhammad was from the family tree of the illegetimate
child Ishmael whose mother was Hagar and father was Abraham and perhaps
his rebellion against Jesus is understandable, however it must one day be
reconciled to the truth, the acknowledgement of Jesus being the Son of God
and equal part of the trinity with the Holy Spirit and the Father.
BusinesMn9
* Pork rinds vs ghorme sabzee
Took you long enough to realize we rae beautiful and mysterious but forgot
one fundamental and important difference ["Accidental
Eden"]. I am quoting non-Persian men: Iranian women have class
and are incredibly feminine.
How dare you consider yourself admirer of beauty and put the thick lips
of black women and the cheap and trashy looks of the Latin women in the
same category as the beautiful and mesmerizing looks of an Iranian women?
This reminds me of someone who has eaten pork rinds and now considers
ghorme sabzee just as delicious. I hope any Iranian women that crosses your
path will know what you are used to being with. I hope she realizes that
you deserve those types of women and not Iranian women. The beautiful Persian
expression says it all: "khlayegh anche layegh".
Azam Nemati
* Nothing compares to Iranian women
Dear Rouzbeh, ["Accidental
Eden"]
You are not alone. I have already felt your exact feeling in Maryland
sizdebedar in some other Iranian gatherings (concerts, Noroooz parties,etc.).
I have been living in Europe for 25 years. I have had sentimental and
physical relationships with women from the five continents but I admit,
without any hesitation, that nothing compares to Iranian women.
I simply love them.
M.A.N.S.
* Does not know what she wants
There are plenty of good looking, young and educated Iranian men looking
for hamsar ["The
hunt for hamsar "]. More power to the intelligent ones who look
for a partner that in addition to having common goals, also have equal income
potential.
Why? He does not have to worry whether she is interested in financial
security only. The problem with the writer is that she does not know what
she wants. You have to recognize who you are and define your life goals
then look for a partner with similar goals. You seem to be one of those
who just wants any partner with certain age limit so that nobody calls you
"torsheedeh".
Regards,
Azam Nemati
* Yes you are asking for too much
Dear Sharbatehalbaloo
I read your article on Iranian.com ["The
hunt for hamsar "]. Yes you are asking for too much. Today's house
work is not a full time job and it is rather just a hobby and we are living
in USA which this hobby has even been turned into joyfull one.
After 18 years of struggle with my first marriage and going counceling
after counceling to make it work, I wind up in the divoice court that now
I am struggling for 7 years. I have not lived like my father or grandfather
and neither have you lived like your mother or grandmomother.
Here in California I have a freind who works 7 days a week 10 hours a
day and when he comes home he has to prepare dinner for his housewife until
she returns back from shopping. And god forbid if he uses a wrong kitchen
utencils which is an ammunition for the fight at home.
You know two of his own sons are telling him, Dad why don't you divorce
mom and have a better life?
I don't know why he is staying in that relationship. Maybe family law
is not fair in California or even in the USA as much as it was not fair
in Iran. Over there it was and is against woman, over here against men.
Family law in California closes its eyes and says 50-50 sharing of wealth
regardless of how much each individual has contributed to the family. Forget
about the 50-50, it is the attorney fees that clobbers you specially if
your ex is a little bit irrational and rather vengeful.
I think today's marriage should be equal in every aspect and both housband
and wife should have equal education and income and both should contribute
to house work. Any man or woman who goes to an unequal relationship is bound
for a disaster and may pay dearly.
I saw a meaningful bumper sticker few years ago and I would like to share
it with everyone. "I am single because I am not stupid".
Doorod
* Adapting to Western Pop
Regarding the healthy and constructive debate between Bruce Bahmanian
and Vahid ["No
reason why Iranian music has to stagnate"] on stagnation of Iranian
music and particularily iranian Pop music at this tribune I had a few suggestions
to make. I am in no way an expert in the musical field but I think what
makes the success of Arabic or Buerre (Northafrican Third generation French
citizens) music in France is as Vahid points out that they have managed
to adapt their music with western Pop Successes.
Actually many classic French songs such as some of "Claude François"
success' or "Jacques Brel" have been sung in Arab or Rap. The
Rap was certainly what brought many Arab singers to the front wave. Khaled,
Cheb Mami (who sang with Sting) and Laam have all been inspired by the traditional
French repertoire and given them their personal "oriental" touch.
Maybe if Iranian artists singers were more open to their exiled home in
terms of music this would certainly contribute in bringing Persian music
out of the getho. Rap like Jazz in America has been a great source of integration
in France for many North African third generation immigrants. All the more
as contrary to Ice-T, MC Solar's lyrics are not anti white or anti-police
and so forth it is rebel but respective.
French Rap singers certainly made this music trend sound cool and explains
its success. Among todays iranian pop stars Googoosh certainly is an icon.
If she could sing in duets with Famous singers like Sting or other pop stars
this would certainly open new influences and make westerners aware of the
variety of Persian melodies. After all George Harrison introduced the Sitar
to the west. I'm sure that many pop stars are keen to learn about Persian
music its only a pity that Iranians are shy in this respect or intimidated
by their western collegues. I suggest readers of this site to make constructive
suggestions to the googoosh.com website
or googooshmusic.com
It's quite funny but while I am writing there is a duet between singer
Faudel (morrocan or Algerian) and Bernard Lavillier they are singing a traditional
french Song together. Strange coincidence.
In any case Its good to finally have a healthy cultural debate on this
site.
Regards,
Darius Kadivar
* True humanity
Dear Iranian,
The Renaissance helped the European people out of their Dark Ages. this
new discovery in a short period of time with a fast harmonious pace can
create the natural evolutionary transformational processes in people's essence
of being and it will help the Middle Eastern people out of their Dark Ages.
Today the terrorists have achieved their objective by dictating the 21st
century's direction and goal: WAR. They live for death, martyrdom and revenge.
The fanatics say, "What better glorious purpose is there than to fight
and die with the enemy." Terrorism will escalate to an endless struggle.
Fear and insecurity will continue to manipulate and overshadow our freedom.
If we look at Timothy McVeigh and children going on a rampage at their schools,
over-all we can see that something fundamentally wrong is happening in our
world and our way has not been working.
We cannot legislate morality by law or by force. It has to come from
within. Fear has robbed our human integrity for generations. Now for the
first time in human history there is a cure for it. This new discovery will
create the necessary natural evolutionary processes in our essence of being
so that we can make an evolutionary transformation of a historical magnitude,
from the law of the jungle (fear, darkness and fighting) to true humanity,
stability and progress on earth.
When we don't understand a problem, the problem will look complex and
confusing and we cannot solve it. But when we understand it, then the problem
becomes simple, and we can solve it. This program can be implemented similar
to the nuclear atomic Manhattan Project in its scope, but with a positive
light of true understanding and bringing integrity, harmony and wealth for
mankind.
This is a critical historical time. We can struggle with endless fighting
in a vicious circle of violence and we will have the fanatic's chaotic way
of fear and uncertainty. Or, with this new discovery of the root of human
behavior we can understand the problem therefore we can make a transformation
into curing and solving it.
If you want to help and do something real, together we can implement
this new powerful, natural evolutionary transformational program, so that
we can have a more meaningful purpose in life and live in a safe, rich healthy
peaceful world that we deserve. See persian text
Sincerely,
M. Mehrdad
Copies to:
US Secretary of State Colin Powell
US Deputy Secretary of State Richard Lee Armitage
* Religions are nothing but ...
Your letter from Karachi to Iranian.com ["A
Parsi in Pakistan"] indicates that you are a tolerant person, putting
up with ignorance surrounding you as some of us living in the US do. Did
you know that on a per capita basis, the US is number one in the world with
highest number of people believing in God, religion, and going to church?
I personally believe the whole concept of God (Allah?) and all religions
are nothing but a bunch of BS, a fairy tale, the cocaine of the poor in
the 3rd world, an innocent front for a bunch of real bastard imperialists,
pirates and Mafia for most people in the 1st world.
In the US, forcing people to abide by some religion is against the law.
I suppose Pakistan, Afghanistan, Iran, Kuwait, Qatar, UAE, Saudi Arabia,
Somalia and Lybia do not have similar laws.
I think they force the Santa Claus story (God & religion) down the
throat of their populace. As you know, children here are brought up believing
in Santa Claus until they become teenagers. Then they are taught to believe
in God and religion when they become adults. Children go to Disneyland,
adults go to the mosque.
A sign of hope in the US is that centers are appearing to start eradicating
ignorance and superstition, treating it like smallpox. How do you guys out
there keep on tolerating ignorance, and do you have any plans to start eradicating
it.
Sean Amour
* Iranian NGOs
Thank you very much for this complete site. I wonder if you can help
me with two informations i need, do you know any iranians non gouvernemental
organisation?
and other question, i'm looking for some iranians dancers. Actually i
didn't find any dancers on your site.
Looking forward to hearing from you
Best,
Marjaneh Foyouzi
* Farsi bookstore?
I am looking for a Farsi bookstore in the New York city area?
Ralf Ludwig
* Information about Iranian army
Could you please send information about the Iranian army to this e-mail
addr
navid610@yahoo.com
* Sedaam ham bad neest
man Lida hastam az India va kheili alaaghe be aavaaz khondan daaram va
kheili ham alaaghe daaram email aaddressi peydaa konam taa betavaanam baa
honarmandi tamaas begiram taa be man komak kone taa man betavaanam aavaaz
bekhonam chon sedaam ham bad nist chon iraan ke boodam chand jalase nazde
khaanom pari zangane kelaass raftam, vali khob, chon omadam India natavaanestam
edaame daham. pass agar shomaa mitavaanid be man komak konid.
Lida
* Helping people "in many ways"
Salam,
I've heard Mr. Shahram Shabpareh & Mr. Hassan Sattar are going to
help Iranian people here in many ways. I would like to help. I will donate
my time to teach software programming to Iranians (here) in Orange County
or Los Angeles.
Please let me know if you are aware of their efforts.
Thanks
M. Arvan
* Merry Christmas in Farsi
Hello,
I'm looking for a translation of "Merry Christmas and a happy New
Year" (knowing very well, that Persian New Year is later in March and
Christmas is celebrated only by the Christian minority in Iran) into Farsi.
I would like to have also the words written in Persian alphabet (best solution:
attachment as an image, eg: .jgp or .gif-file).
Thank you very much,
Michaela
* Ali Reza Pahlavi available?
Would you please telling me if Prince Ali Reza Pahlavi of Iran is engaged
or married? With whom and when? Would you send me their pictures & their
wedding pictures?
Thanks
Farideh
* Taleb peavastan be deen bahaeeat
ba salam va dorood
ma javanan irani hastim dar indonesia va taleb peavastan be deen bahaeeat.
ba tavagoh be deen bahaeeat ke ba bast va gostaresh mohabat va yeganegi
va motabeghat elm va aghl e haghighi ostovar mibashad va havi dastoorat
va eateghadaty hast ke lazemeh tosea e jahan emrooz motabegh ba ehtyagat
ahl elm dar asr kononi ast be in nateegeh reseedeheem ke :
deen ghabli ma (ke az pedarraneman be ars reseedeh va khodeman dar mored
entekhob on hich naghsh aghlani nadashteheem) daray e naghs haee mi bashad
ke in navaghes baess e azab va ranghae e faravan dar zendegi shakhsi, seasi,
va eghtesadi ma shodeh va ta hata mogodeat mara bean e ashkhos va adyan
deegar jahan be mokhotereh andakhteh va baass shodeh edae e sood go az ghabil
akhoond ha va... (ke shoghli gher az chapavol mardom ba khorafat dar deen
va estefadeh az fetrat khoda goee va taasob ansanha nadarand)soo a estefadeh
konand.
mosamam shodeheem ke az deen moroosi khod kharej shodeh va deen bahaeet
ke beesh az 150 sal az pedaesh on nemighozarad va akhareen va kameltareen
deen alahi mojood dar jahan va monaseb baray e ansan emroozy mibashad ra
deen khod va ghavaed ,dastoorat va faramin anra sar loheh zendegi khod gharar
dadeh va be aeen bahaeet bepevandeem .
baray e amli kardan in tasmim ba tavagoh be mahdoodeat hay e mojood dar
iran khoneh va kashaneh khod ra tark kardeh va az iran khareg shodeheem
ta betavaneem bedoon hich moshkeli be aeen bahaeet bepevandeem . vali motasefaneh
bad az 3 mah ba tavagoh be inkeh ba tamam e sit hay e mogood dar internet
ke marboot be deen bahaeet mibashad tamas gherefteh va e mail fertadeh ta
konon hich pasokhi daryaft nakardeheem . taghaza dareem har cheh sareetar
ma ra dar in rah moghadas yary va hamrahi farmaeed .
batashakor faravan
habib habibmanesh
babak ghand
saeed fathi
ali shamee
omid hossein ali
marjan maroofi
amir afshari
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