straight with queers
Let us stop
By Golnar Shirazi
March 3, 2004
I watch all these happy gay people
getting married on national television and it makes me wonder what
Tony must be saying to all
this. Tony is an aging and sometimes charming mostly annoying
musician who can belt out love songs like no one else with his
voice. He is the picture of "Machismo", someone that
can charm when he is performing, but can also offend when he
is not, due to his long term love affair with alcohol.
to hit on anyone who is female and sitting within 100 yards of
him. If they reject him, he ends up mumbling something about
Mafia" and before you know it, tall tales of adventures
with the "Lesbian Mafia" and "how they almost
got him" fill the rest of his drunken evening.
Well, it looks like the "Lesbian & Gay Mafia" is
out in full force and Rosie O'Donnell getting married to
her long time partner, has been selected the "God Mother" of
them all. This can be called "Gonad Gate" or "Gay
Gate", right around the corner from Janet Jackson's "Boob
From the looks of it, most of the people I see
getting married in San Francisco, are long term partners who
may have kids and are doing
the best they can to honor their commitment to each other and
family. In fact, it was nice to see these folks out in full
force, since they are usually not that visible in the community.
stay home and take care of their kids, just like all parents
are supposed to. They are breaking the stereotypes of the gay
of techno music, dancing, HIV, sex sex sex, and bath houses,
and showing the reality of their love and commitment for each
other. I am happy to see this image change, live on national
Most gay people I know are hard working, ambitious,
and may have gone to a club a few times, but then, who hasn't?
intelligent, beautiful, and are paving the road for future generations
to have an easier time when it comes to choice. And yes, some
of people who got married in SF were of Iranian descent. Good
There are so many more devastating things going on
in the world right now than this. Bush's war cry against gay marriage
is such a desperate act to cover up the mockery he has made of
the budget and the planet. It is like the film "Wag the
its more like "Wag the Gay".
Maybe it's just about
taxes since gay couples end up paying more than straight married
couples since they cannot file jointly. Yes, I'm sure the
deficit will grow if they file jointly, and then who will pay
for all the wars? Or is it about God and his doctrine that
only for those with different gonads to ensure the reproduction
of the species. 6 billion people, most of them starving and
dying due to wars and to disease is not enough, so God wants us
breed even more?
Gay folks can have children too, better yet, and
I'm sure a number of them would be more than happy to adopt underprivileged
children who need caring families. Religion has been such a great
tool to inflict suffering since its very inception.
Let us stop
using God as an excuse to hate. Love is supposed to be unconditional,
isn't it? Then it must be decency? Yes, straight people
have been a picture of decency for millenium. Why can't we just
let people be? The universe is just too large to be confined
the small minds of humans. There is more than one way to be.
Iranian community has seen its fair share of this as well. There
is an intense pressure to get married by the family and
social network. After a couple of years of going through the
a good number of these marriages end up in divorce, and the broken
up couple ends up breathing more easily because they "were
married and are now divorced".
The duty was obliged, thank
you very much, now its time to live the life they have wanted
to live. I am willing to bet that some of these divorces were
one of the betrothed was gay, and the martyrdom complex and the
desire to get their family off their backs, made them choose
lives they never really wanted.
Queer culture in the
Iranian community is another story for another time perhaps.
But its there
and its time for this dialogue to really develop.
there are many hetero marriages that are loving and wonderful
and I am not demeaning any loving relationship, but,
the queer community in the U.S, who has been fighting for
this day, are really appreciating the fine details of the meaning
behind the institution of marriage. They can now be at their
side at the hospital and make life and death decisions for
them, a right they did not have before. Its good to see people
such battles. America has some really amazing moments, and
this is one
Perhaps one day, no parent will even blink at the thought
of their gay child's wedding. Love would be honored for being
just that. Perhaps that is the day when the differences in
can be celebrated.
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