Canada is not Eden
Say "OK, fine" to gay marriage
March 16, 2005
I read your piece, "Say
no to same-sex marriage". I understand
that you are a young teenager and I applaud you sharing your ideas
so articulately in an open
relation to this matter, you need to get your facts straight. First
of all, marriage is an institution older than monotheism itself.
It is not an exclusively religious institution; it has a secular
history (e.g. / ancient Greece) that also predates Christianity,
Judaism, and all other major world religions. There are as many
definitions, attitudes, and reasons for marriage as there are cultures
on this planet.
In fact, the closest thing to a universal denominator for marriage
worldwide (and this has only seen change in the past hundred years
or so) is that it is an economically and socially practical move
for families with daughters. It is a tradition based on pragmatism
and maintaining social order. This explains why historically, polygamy
and polyandry were both accepted in different societies in response
to unbalanced male-female populations and economic hardship (check
out Anthropology 101 when you get to college).
Furthermore, there are several cultures in which "gay" marriage
has always been accepted. Several female chieftains in sub-Saharan
Africa take wives, and bi-gendered priests in India and Brasil
may marry women or men, depending on their own sexual inclination.
Even within the Christian faith, there are an increasing number
of denominations (part of that 55%) that bless same-sex marriages;
a lot of people who know the Bible a whole lot better than you
two have different ideas about who can and cannot get married.
Your debate about the intrinsic nature of marriage is misinformed,
more the product of your dogmatic religious beliefs than your actual
amount of knowledge concerning the matter.
Nowadays, in most societies where women are on more equal footing
with men in terms of civil rights, mutual love plays a much larger
role in who gets married to whom. This, again, is a relatively
recent development in the ever-changing institution of marriage.
Since love has become the keyword for why two people would get
married in this day and age, the institution of marriage has become
relevant to some gay people. So how relevant are gay people themselves?
There has been statistical research compiled, such as in the
well-known 1993 Janus Report, which reinforces the estimate made
in 1948 by Alfred Kinsey: close to 10% of the human population
is gay. This is no mere minority, and certainly cannot be compared
statistically with brother-brother and son-mother couples. This
is an issue that must be looked at as a matter of civil rights,
not special rights; gay citizens comprise a huge segment of the
I personally believe that gay people have as much a
right to marry as straight people like me and you. This is because
I endorse the new definition of marriage, which is a commitment
by two people in love to officially build a life together. Canada
is not Eden; times have changed.
As far as your appraisal of homosexuality and bisexuality goes,
I would be very careful before telling the rest of the world what
makes a person gay, straight, or bisexual. Maybe the conclusion
you came to is the result of your own sexual inexperience, but
people don't simply choose whether or not whether they want to
be gay or straight; an inherent sexual attraction has to exist.
I'll quote a
source from WebMD, a resource I think you should definitely
check out: "studies in male twins have suggested that between
40%-60% of the variability in sexual orientation is due to genes."
The reasons behind why someone becomes gay or bisexual are not
fully understood, but that doesn't mean that you should jump to
your own conclusions without educating yourself about the matter
In any event, way to put your ideas out there.
Maziar Shirazi is a junior at Rutgers University, New Brunswick,
New Jersey. Features in iranian.com