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December 17, 2001

* What have we done for our homeland?

Dear Katy,

Many of us have similar feelings to yours ["Anaar"]. Unfortunately many Iranians like to just complain about Iran and do nothing else. Of course living in Iran has many limitations, compared to living here in the US. It also has a lot of unique aspects that one can never find here. Instead of complaining about what Iran has done to us, I wish we ask ourselves what have we done for our homeland?

Many immigrants from other countries who come to the US still love their homeland and try to use the wealth and knowledge they have acquired here to help develop their homeland. Many doctors go back to treat patients for a limited time each year, or teach in a university for a few months, or send financial help to build schools. Even if we do not want to go back, we should try to help in any way we can to help our homeland.

God bless you.

Mojgan

* I am going back too

Hurray for the intelligent Iranian girl ["Anaar"]. You are absolutely right that there are so many wonderful things about Iran and Iranians to love. The people who claim they hate Iran have either something to hide or suffer from identity crises.

I have been here since 1978 and tell my 15-year-old repeatedly that as soon as he has his own life, I am going back home.

By the way, he considers himself Iranian and tells people he was born in Iran (he has never been there). Do not be discouraged by hearing some ignorant people's remarks. We do not like the government but the land is still beautiful and filled with wonderful sounds, sites and people.

Azam Nemati

* Bit immature

Altough I admire and appreciate her sentiments and love for Iran, I think that she is a bit immature, and her ideas are somewhat naiive. ["Anaar"]

For example, becoming more religious has nothing to do with becoming more Iranian. And those who "go clubbing 5 times a week" are not necessarily "ignorant" Iranian-Americans. This lady should learn not to generalize, and learn that copying the old dogmas of our grandmothers don't make us any more Iranian.

Being in Iran is fun when you just go for a one month visit and go to back-to-back mehmoonies. But realize what your relatives had to go through to organize them. I want to go back to Iran and help rebuild it too, but that is how we will show our love for Iran, not by just eating anar and going to mehmooni.

HamMihan Irani

* Being Iranian is what YOU believe

Katy Khanoomeh gol, ["Anaar"]

I , like yourself, and probably like many others, have had the same feelings. The love for Iran. I too have been out of Iran for over 20 years, and yet, yearn for that "reality of becoming an Iranian. I have come to the conclusion that I am looking for something that has been in my heart all along. The memories, the smells, the tastes, and everything that reminds me of Iran.

I admire you for trying to become closer to your roots by learning the language, to read and to write in Farsi and even to understand the religion. My obsession originally was with the people (mind you, I still am fascinated by Iranians!). I wanted to find out what the culture of Iran is by looking at the people. I did this by joining many Iranian clubs, and youth organizations. I still didn't find what I was looking for.

One day a friend told me about a 24 hour radio station that was starting up and needed some Iranian people to run the "Javanan" section. I started my own program and for 4 years, I absorbed as much as the Iranian culture as I could. It,s amazing what people tell you over the radio. They open up their hearts and souls.

In conclusion, being Iranian is what YOU believe it is. For me, its everything my parents taught me. From my moms famous cooking to my dads stories about his childhood and neighborhood.

I still get very home sick when I think of Iran, and wish that I could go back and still play with my cousins, but the reality is that my home is now elsewhere. I don,t think I will ever be able to go back and live in Iran. I will always be an Iranian living out of Iran.

Wishing you all the best

Sharareh

* Learn to live in peace

In response to ["Can't forget or forgive"], I'd like to retell a factual story that occurred during India's Independence Movement.

After the Congress Party and Mahatma Gandhi had finally forced the British to leave India, fraternal strife broke between the Indian Moslems and Hindus, leading to Gandhi taking a fast until the Indians, who respected Gandhi immensely, would come to their senses and stop the violence against one another.

Gandhi was already an old man of ill health, yet willing to fast to death, to peacefully force the issue that the Indian Moslems and Hindus have to learn to live in peace in one India. One the third or fourth day of his fast, a Hindu man came to Gandhiji begging him to stop his fasting. The Hindu man begged that he already had lost his 5 years old son to the violence, killed by a Muslim, and could not afford to lose his spiritual leader, Gandhi, as well.

He was angry at Gandhi for asking him to live in peace with Muslims who had killed his son and asked Gandhi what he would do if he had a 5 years old son killed by a Muslim. Would he still call for forgiveness? Gandhi calmly replied:"I would go and find an orphan 5 years old Muslim boy, adopt him and bring him up as my son."

And as the Hindu man was leaving sobbing, Gandhi added "and I would still bring him up a Muslim, in the religion of his fathers."

Enough said.

GeneralConsultants

* Shape your hatred

In response to ["Can't forget or forgive"] and related letters: My two-year-old son knows that fighting is wrong. So we do not need to know anything about politics of war to assess the nature of war. It might be acceptable for one to run out of his or her country because he or she did not believe on politics of war and did not want to kill other human beings. But we cannot criticize people who were there and defeated our country; no matter they were a non-mature Basiji or a soldier who had to serve in the military.

Dear Farid,

your children will be proud of you. You defeated your city and your country. And you treated your enemy in spite of your hatred. Don't forget and forgive, just shape your hatred. Change it to a strong motivation in your life.

Look

* Understand the pain, hatred

I read the comments of two iranians who were obviously NOT from Abadan or Khorramshahr. If they were from there, my appologies in advance.

The citizens of Abadan and Khorramsharh were on the front line of the war. Let's not forget that Iraq invaded Iran through those cities without warning. It is easy to speak philisophically about war, but unless your childhood home has been bombed into oblivion, unless your family had to live for weeks under siege, listening to bombs falling, fearing for their lives and wondering if they would survive, you can not understand the pain and perhaps the hatred. ["Iraqis were forced into war too"]

It is hard to ask someone who has lived this horor - an invasion and of war and - to put it behind him ["Can't forget or forgive"]. He has done something many of us have not - he fought the Iraqis and help drive them out of Iran. The emotional scars are hard to cure without therapy and I, for one, understand how he may feel. If it were so easy, we would never have the same reoccuring conflicts several times a century.

We can't cling to hate, we must be willing to forgive and move on. But for some, it is just not that easy.

Tania Shetabi

* Tell that to the families on the border

Be liberal, be anti-war and promote peace, just mind your bigotry. Folks who whine statements to the effect "Oh, Iraqis were just a bunch of poor innocent youngsters who were forced to fight" should tell that to the families on the border who's homes and towns were burned and cars set aflame. ["Iraqis were forced into war too"]

You tell that to the children of the man in Khorramshahr who was beaten by your "POOR" Iraqi soldiers while they raped his wife 'til her demise. You weren't there, yet you wish to enforce your hippie-oriented, "we all suffered" rhetoric on the generation that is striving to learn about its past and the horrors inflicted upon its motherland.

It's not your place to do the educating, you weren't there. So, let those who fought, served and protected do the honors ["Can't forget or forgive"]. The war was not a political blunder until it became Khomeini's conquest of his holy bullshit dream. Until that point, the war was in defense of our nation and holding on to our forts and those who held on have the right to hate for they witnessed the hell and lived through it.

Reza

* Physicians's oath

In a recent photo essay entitled "Can't forget or forgive", the author, a physician shows his disgust toward a patient who happened to be a former Iraqi soldier and clearly whishes the worst for him when he says "I wish the bullet had gone little to the left".

I would like to ask the author if he truly took the oath of Hypocrotes, as all physicians do, when he became a physician. This oath clearly states that a physician should heal and take care of a patient unconditionally. This means if the patient is a former enemy, a serial killer or even Osama bin Laden he or she must be healed.

M. Etminan

* Be proud of your name

"What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet."

I was amused to read "Do not embarrass your children" by Raha N. What's wrong with the beautiful name of Elaheh? First of all it's pleasing to the ear and secondly (very!) respectful of the owner.

Be proud of your name as it is an important part of your identity. People will mispronounce a name no matter what it is, so if you don't want that to happen you can choose a western name like Sue or Barbara, as many people from choose to Hong-Kong do.

As for those who think the name Elaheh is sacriligeous, tell the to go fix men's names like Yadollah, Roohollah, ... first! If you start changing your name because of what other people say, the next thing you'll have to do is to change the clothes you are wearing, the friends you are seeing, the food you are eating, and so on.

A name like Kobra or Qoli or Gholam can be embarrassing to have, but in my opinion, not Elaheh!

Sam

* Being too hard on mom

Dear Ms. Elahe:

I enjoyed reading your article ["Do not embarrass your children"] and found your story something that I (and almost all Iranians) could personally relate to. Although I agree with you that consideration should be given when naming a child, I think you're being too hard on your mom. She picked a beautiful name for you.

Be proud of it!

Mersedeh Mehrtash

* Names chosen by our parents are gifts

My name is Pari. I am a half Persian girl who when reading your article ["Do not embarrass your children"] felt I had to respond. First of all you have a beautiful name! Please reconsider. My father had chosen my name. However my mother being American shared the same concerns that you are expieriencing right now. As a result I was called Julie. Throughout my youth I was referred to as Julie and infact there are many who continue to refer to me by this name.

It was in 1979 as a result of the crisis in Iran I chose to go back to Pari which was quite the opposite one would expect during these trying times. The reasons were simple I felt proud to be Persian. I was so intriqued and found my father's heritage to be one that I longed for and was was forever connected to. I took pride in sharing the beauty of our culture! As I grow older I grow more proud.

We are a wonderful people. Unfortunately in all the world there are good and bad. We just tend to focus on the negative aspects which certainly has been an injustice too many...

The names chosen by our parents are gifts. Although pronunciation can often be difficult. Here in the U.S. I see other nationalities naming children clearly identifiable names linking them to their heritage, continuing their wonderful traditions. These traditions are the links to who we are where we come from and express our individualism in this wonderful land of opportunity! Anyway, Elahe is a beautiful name it flows from ones lips like a stream to a beautiful flower, a Persian flower...

Be proud ... I know I am!

Pari Amani-Vartanian

* But come on.... ! Elaheh?

I read your story and I can not agree more about what you said ["Do not embarrass your children"]. There are a lot of Iranian parents who do not think when it comes to name their children. However, your name is not as bad as you think. It could be a lot worse... believe me, I have heard names that are really embarrassing for the person.

But come on.... ! Elaheh?... Elaheh is not a bad name although it is Arabic but it really sounds good. Even if you wanna make it a little Americanised you can pronounce it like Elia or Ela. As a matter of fact I have a friend whose name is Ela (Elaheh).

On the other hand my name is Shahram but at work or among my American friends I am known as Sean. Now this doesn't mean that I am embarrassed. I am simply trying to make it convenient for some people who have a rough time pronouncing it every time.

I am proud of my unique name and as a citizen of this country I had the chance to change it to Sean but I didn't. This is the only thing that has left for me from my mother and father who I dearly love.

But let me tell you some thing else, when we came to this country we learned every thing about this country. I remember even before coming to America my geography about the united states and world was great. I was trying to pronounce every thing correctly to be able to communicate with these people and get a lot of friends.

Now if some body from this country who doesn't know where Iran is and what kind of people we are, wants to communicate with us and can't even say our name correctly, I don't think that person is even worth communicating with.

I know I have a nick name too but I am talking in general now. Don't be embarrassed and dont change your name it is ok to have a unique name!

Shahram Tabrizi

* Great talent

How refreshing it was to read the various poet's made-up messages ["Beh jaaye do kalameh khoshk o khaali"]. Great talent, and you need to do the same for other situations. You made my day!

Azam Nemati

* Amazingly splendid

I listened to the tracks from "Earth whisper" with a lot of interest and excitement. Thanks for sharing it with us. Amazingly splendid...

Amirali

* I wish I could go back

I enjoyed the story ["Gorgeous brown eyes"] and I wish I could go back in time to those days of my life. I would probably do things differently and get the best out of those days. Anyway, thanks for the article.

Parastoo

* Nice to see a little variaty

This is the best Iranian site ever. Thank you for working hard. I just hope you update it daily. Keep up the excellent work!

And by the way, Hamid, I think Mr. Javid should put anything he wants on his site ["Are you trying to say there are assholes in the world?"]. It's nice to see a little variaty doesn't matter how stupid it seems to you. And he does not owe anyone an apology, you owe him one.

Someone from Toronto

* Liberal leftist intellectual attitude

I don't know what you are trying to show or prove by posting the article of this fucking asshole ["Roodar of the day"). It is either a joke or if it's the truth, then tell me what you are trying to prove by posting it? It is neither funny nor particularly interesting in any aspect.

Please stop having this so-called liberal leftist intellectual attitude and give any asshole the right to spit on our culture and values. If before posting it, you already know it is gonna hurt the vast majority of the readers, then why do you do it?

This touches our pride, our love for our country and people and our culture, so try to take that into consideration. We already know there are assholes in the world, and we do not want to be constantly reminded.

Our country has greatly suffered at the hands of illetrate butchers, and we are now spread all around this planet but still most of us haven't lost this love for our beautiful country, language, people... That's why I always log on to your web site to get the latest info about Iran, Iranians, and their opinions.

But seeing something like that makes me disgusted and I think you, as the manager of this web site, have a responsibility towards your readers, just like the editor of a newspaper. And in a well-respected newspaper, nobody publishes hate or sex-oriented articles that hurt the majority of readers...

Being free to say and do whatever you want is great, but do not forget, this freedom stops as soon as you hurt others...

Mani

* Either fundamentalists or...

I just want to say that I'm really proud being hamvatan with Azita. I think she is really brave doing this. Iranians have become so conservative and backwardlooking that it amazes me. I'm living in Norway, and here there people are SO much more civilized when it comes too openess towards nudity.

It's just great nudity should not be a taboo, it reflects the true face of humans. people who are against brave acts such as the one Azita has done are 1) Either moslem fundamentalists 2) People who are little overweight and jealous on people who look good such as Azita, a mid 40s woman or man with complexes perhaps?

If someone feels they look great who not do something like Azita? Everybody who wants to pose in artistc pictures are free to do so. Azita is an artist not a whore. This is not pornographic people. WAKE UP IT`S 2001; counting with the calendar Persians SHOULD use, something like 2500.

It's Islam that makes people so backward looking, and sometimes I'm not suprised Iran is in mollas' hands, some posts at the Iranian show how old-fashioned some are. Thank god Iranian.com exists and posts these pictures. Iranian.com keep up the good work, we need you, democracy needs you (loved the Salman Rushdie feature "A good person" too) for Azita and hopefully a civilized Iran.

Armin

* Acceptable level of nudity?

Regarding to the letters about Azita Youssefi's pictures I am really curious to know if there is an acceptable level of nudity in our culture? Is that fine if an Iranian woman puts part of her breast on a show and an Iranian man show off half of his hairy chest in public? Does our Iranian culture have a classified definition for that?

Sometimes I think that Iranians think differently about all aspects of their culture because they have been in different environment at different span of their lives and they have theirs definition of the culture. Many Iranians in Iran believe that women have to have a complete Hejab (even at home) and men should not wear short sleeves clothing.

Some think it is okay to have a bikini and some are comfortable to be naked in private and not to show off in public. I think this is a problem with our culture: feeling uncomfortable about sex and nudity. I don't want to support people who have naked pictures or have a sexy NetMeeting conversation by Internet.

But I would like to encourage Iranians to talk about sex at home and not to scared to see Azita Youssefi's pictures. Not to be clear about these points may result in some physical diseases and mental disorders.

When I read the BBC news "Iran announces jump in HIV figures" suddenly I thought it is not a problem with Iranian officials that put the number of HIV-positive patients at around 2,000 for the last 10 years, it is a wonder in our culture facing to sex issues.

Look

* Iranian playing Arab

Answer to Indian actor playing Iranian: ["Indian actress?", "What the average "man" thinks of Iran"]

Many Hollywood movies I see recently have big flaws that would make a primary school kid call fault. About 1 year ago I saw the movie Insider, with actors like Al Pacino and Russel Crow and Michael Mann as Director I would have thought that the movie would be very well done. And it was beside one glitch that most Americans would not feel, most Americans but Arab-Americans or Iranian-Americans.

In the beginning of the movie Al Pacinos character goes to Beirut during the war to interview a grand Mullah there. The funny thing is though that his interpreter instead of interpreting from English to Arabic, interprets everything to Persian but the funnier thing is that the mullah guy understands everything and answers back everything in Arabic which then again the Iranian guy some how understands and tells back to Al.

You might not know it but Iran's right now most successful actor is called Omid Jalali(hope got his name correct). He has been playing in movies like Gladiator and Spy games. He is tall chubby bald guy (look like a normal human being compared to other actors), who you would have thought to be Iranian when you see him.

He is a very good actor of course. Guess what role he plays in those movies; you got it, an Arab. Interesting thing is that in Gladiator the people of North Africa all talk Arabic which is a bit odd because Islam came about 1000 years after that time and it took couple of hundred years more before Arabs actually conquered all North Africa.

All the American TV-shows dealing with outside USA are full of flaws and you know why; because Americans are mostly ignorant about the rest of the world. They know very little about outside and they don't want to know neither. TV-shows like JAG (even with having an half Iranian as star) and now the Agency has been showing Iran in a very bad and not-recognizable way for us Iranians. I think there should be an action against these misrepresentations of foreigners and foreign countries in American TV. Unfortunately the American TV and cinema has the biggest entertainment power in the World and when misused it has a very bad effect.

Choghok

* More than just oil to export

Interesting to see all these sound documents appear after all these years ["Precious sounds"]. The voice of Mozzafar-el-Din Shah, The work of dubbers on the Sound of music etc... It proves Iran has more than just oil to export.

There is without doubt a rich content in all cultural fields. That after 23 years so much interesting content appear proves that Iranians have not hybernated during all this time and that their attachment to their cultural heritage has not dissapeared. Bravo !

Regards,

Darius Kadivar

* A crazy dream

Last night I had a crazy dream. The year was 2020 AC. President Tony Blair was towards the end of his second term of office at the Government of the World. The past two decades had witnessed enormous changes. For start, I shockingly noticed that Afghanistan,s education minister Ms Milani had proclaimed the end of illiteracy among women in her country.

After all the world community had expended considerable determination and some $20 bn to ensure that peace and stability would reign there so that the horrible events of 11 September 2001 will never happen. The governments of Israel and Palestine had recently signed an economic cooperation agreement... Then I woke-up.

It was still year 2001. War and instability was still continuing in Afghanistan and George W Bush was threatening the other terrorist-harbouring nations, of the world that they could be next in line for the wrath of his enduring or was it infinite justice or was it freedom. I wondered how much this was really about such noble notions as opposed to field testing his brand new set of war armoury to increase its marketability.

Then I realised that politics is still about power: money, guns and knowledge, and whoever controls these. In the streets of Afghanistan cities and its tribal areas, it is the Klashinkovs, US Dollars combined with the information & intelligence machinery supported by satellite phones and reconnaissance planes that still talks.

But of-course the democratic countries need to ensure that their policies and actions are supported by public opinion. They are, however, still guided more by their national interests than altruism. The battle goes on for the hearts and minds of the public world-wide and increasingly this is what will determine where we lead to.

The late Bob Kennedy is quoted as having said: "Some people see things, ask why and then dream. I dream and then ask why not? I had a crazy dream last night but why not?

Sa'id Farzaneh
London

* Adjusting Bin Laden nose

I want to bring to your attention that the Original Ladin I have seen in the TV shows earlier diifer from the one shown in the current video ["Where's the Muslim Mahatma?"]. The nose in this new video is either fake or digitally created and does not fit with the original previous picture. The turban size and width is smaller in this new viedeo compared to the earlier ones.

Further I have seen in the CNN programs earlier how they were trying to adjust Bin Laden's nose digitally in the computer graphics. Until any valid information about who tok the video on what date and time and how it ended up with CIA any neutral person with sound mind cannot accept this story.

I hate the one sided false allegations of the people who come into the media and make judgements. The western world say they are democratic and their legal system is genuine but we are witnessing every day that there are so many innocent people are being punished for crime which they have never done. Once again the Muslim brother has to become closer and closer to avoid disintergration among themselves. One fine day the real truth and Dharma will win.

Rajah Pathmaganth

* I prayed for God to liberate Iranians

My name is Elias. I read your article "From revolution to freedom". It reminded me when I saw it on TV, on Telemundo, when it said, "Students demonstrate for freedoms, but broken up by police". No demonstration has been seen like this since the Islamic Revolution of 1978.

It's time the Iranian people have freedoms, instead of living in a theocracy, run by religios fanatics. True, under the Shah, things were not equal, but women could dress any way they pleased, people could dance to music, and at least for the youth, fashion was acceptable, without the chador.

I'm a Christian, and I prayed two weeks ago for God to liberate Iranians from their oppresive government. I say to you, students, don't give up, because the mullahs' days are numbered. Khatami himself would like more freedom for the people, but is pressured by his close-by members. Be patient, my friends. FREEDOM WILL COME.

Elias J. Caban

* Christian America blessed

Why aren't Muslim's rising up in indignation about the terrorists killing 4000 innocent people in the USA in the name of Allah? ["Where's the Muslim Mahatma?"] I know that I would be outraged if any Christian group did this to a Muslim country. Why are the Muslim leaders or Muslim Clerics around the word not speaking with emotion and support for the capturing of those responsible? My question is it because "birds of a feather flock together"?

Why are there no democracies in country's of Islam? Why no freedom of the press, no tolerance of other religions, women treated as second class citizens and oppression of a different idea? As the Dictators and Kings rule with a big club by not tolerating differences, they use the USA as a scapegoat because they want the outrage of their oppressed society to have at least one outlet of expression hoping to divert the misery of their flock.

This is just my opinion, I believe that the USA has been blessed by God because for the most part is a Christian nation. I believe that the problems of the Muslim countrys is due to their faith in Muhammad. From the people I know that have met people in the Middle East they express how wonderful they are, how polite, kind, friendly, respectful and most important, hospitable. The two girls recently freed in Afghanistan stated the same.

One must understand that Muhammad was from the family tree of the illegetimate child Ishmael whose mother was Hagar and father was Abraham and perhaps his rebellion against Jesus is understandable, however it must one day be reconciled to the truth, the acknowledgement of Jesus being the Son of God and equal part of the trinity with the Holy Spirit and the Father.

BusinesMn9

* Pork rinds vs ghorme sabzee

Took you long enough to realize we rae beautiful and mysterious but forgot one fundamental and important difference ["Accidental Eden"]. I am quoting non-Persian men: Iranian women have class and are incredibly feminine.

How dare you consider yourself admirer of beauty and put the thick lips of black women and the cheap and trashy looks of the Latin women in the same category as the beautiful and mesmerizing looks of an Iranian women?

This reminds me of someone who has eaten pork rinds and now considers ghorme sabzee just as delicious. I hope any Iranian women that crosses your path will know what you are used to being with. I hope she realizes that you deserve those types of women and not Iranian women. The beautiful Persian expression says it all: "khlayegh anche layegh".

Azam Nemati

* Nothing compares to Iranian women

Dear Rouzbeh, ["Accidental Eden"]

You are not alone. I have already felt your exact feeling in Maryland sizdebedar in some other Iranian gatherings (concerts, Noroooz parties,etc.).

I have been living in Europe for 25 years. I have had sentimental and physical relationships with women from the five continents but I admit, without any hesitation, that nothing compares to Iranian women.

I simply love them.

M.A.N.S.

* Does not know what she wants

There are plenty of good looking, young and educated Iranian men looking for hamsar ["The hunt for hamsar "]. More power to the intelligent ones who look for a partner that in addition to having common goals, also have equal income potential.

Why? He does not have to worry whether she is interested in financial security only. The problem with the writer is that she does not know what she wants. You have to recognize who you are and define your life goals then look for a partner with similar goals. You seem to be one of those who just wants any partner with certain age limit so that nobody calls you "torsheedeh".

Regards,

Azam Nemati

* Yes you are asking for too much

Dear Sharbatehalbaloo

I read your article on Iranian.com ["The hunt for hamsar "]. Yes you are asking for too much. Today's house work is not a full time job and it is rather just a hobby and we are living in USA which this hobby has even been turned into joyfull one.

After 18 years of struggle with my first marriage and going counceling after counceling to make it work, I wind up in the divoice court that now I am struggling for 7 years. I have not lived like my father or grandfather and neither have you lived like your mother or grandmomother.

Here in California I have a freind who works 7 days a week 10 hours a day and when he comes home he has to prepare dinner for his housewife until she returns back from shopping. And god forbid if he uses a wrong kitchen utencils which is an ammunition for the fight at home.

You know two of his own sons are telling him, Dad why don't you divorce mom and have a better life?

I don't know why he is staying in that relationship. Maybe family law is not fair in California or even in the USA as much as it was not fair in Iran. Over there it was and is against woman, over here against men. Family law in California closes its eyes and says 50-50 sharing of wealth regardless of how much each individual has contributed to the family. Forget about the 50-50, it is the attorney fees that clobbers you specially if your ex is a little bit irrational and rather vengeful.

I think today's marriage should be equal in every aspect and both housband and wife should have equal education and income and both should contribute to house work. Any man or woman who goes to an unequal relationship is bound for a disaster and may pay dearly.

I saw a meaningful bumper sticker few years ago and I would like to share it with everyone. "I am single because I am not stupid".

Doorod

* Adapting to Western Pop

Regarding the healthy and constructive debate between Bruce Bahmanian and Vahid ["No reason why Iranian music has to stagnate"] on stagnation of Iranian music and particularily iranian Pop music at this tribune I had a few suggestions to make. I am in no way an expert in the musical field but I think what makes the success of Arabic or Buerre (Northafrican Third generation French citizens) music in France is as Vahid points out that they have managed to adapt their music with western Pop Successes.

Actually many classic French songs such as some of "Claude François" success' or "Jacques Brel" have been sung in Arab or Rap. The Rap was certainly what brought many Arab singers to the front wave. Khaled, Cheb Mami (who sang with Sting) and Laam have all been inspired by the traditional French repertoire and given them their personal "oriental" touch. Maybe if Iranian artists singers were more open to their exiled home in terms of music this would certainly contribute in bringing Persian music out of the getho. Rap like Jazz in America has been a great source of integration in France for many North African third generation immigrants. All the more as contrary to Ice-T, MC Solar's lyrics are not anti white or anti-police and so forth it is rebel but respective.

French Rap singers certainly made this music trend sound cool and explains its success. Among todays iranian pop stars Googoosh certainly is an icon. If she could sing in duets with Famous singers like Sting or other pop stars this would certainly open new influences and make westerners aware of the variety of Persian melodies. After all George Harrison introduced the Sitar to the west. I'm sure that many pop stars are keen to learn about Persian music its only a pity that Iranians are shy in this respect or intimidated by their western collegues. I suggest readers of this site to make constructive suggestions to the googoosh.com website or googooshmusic.com

It's quite funny but while I am writing there is a duet between singer Faudel (morrocan or Algerian) and Bernard Lavillier they are singing a traditional french Song together. Strange coincidence.

In any case Its good to finally have a healthy cultural debate on this site.

Regards,

Darius Kadivar

* True humanity

Dear Iranian,

The Renaissance helped the European people out of their Dark Ages. this new discovery in a short period of time with a fast harmonious pace can create the natural evolutionary transformational processes in people's essence of being and it will help the Middle Eastern people out of their Dark Ages.

Today the terrorists have achieved their objective by dictating the 21st century's direction and goal: WAR. They live for death, martyrdom and revenge. The fanatics say, "What better glorious purpose is there than to fight and die with the enemy." Terrorism will escalate to an endless struggle. Fear and insecurity will continue to manipulate and overshadow our freedom. If we look at Timothy McVeigh and children going on a rampage at their schools, over-all we can see that something fundamentally wrong is happening in our world and our way has not been working.

We cannot legislate morality by law or by force. It has to come from within. Fear has robbed our human integrity for generations. Now for the first time in human history there is a cure for it. This new discovery will create the necessary natural evolutionary processes in our essence of being so that we can make an evolutionary transformation of a historical magnitude, from the law of the jungle (fear, darkness and fighting) to true humanity, stability and progress on earth.

When we don't understand a problem, the problem will look complex and confusing and we cannot solve it. But when we understand it, then the problem becomes simple, and we can solve it. This program can be implemented similar to the nuclear atomic Manhattan Project in its scope, but with a positive light of true understanding and bringing integrity, harmony and wealth for mankind.

This is a critical historical time. We can struggle with endless fighting in a vicious circle of violence and we will have the fanatic's chaotic way of fear and uncertainty. Or, with this new discovery of the root of human behavior we can understand the problem therefore we can make a transformation into curing and solving it.

If you want to help and do something real, together we can implement this new powerful, natural evolutionary transformational program, so that we can have a more meaningful purpose in life and live in a safe, rich healthy peaceful world that we deserve. See persian text

Sincerely,

M. Mehrdad

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* Religions are nothing but ...

Your letter from Karachi to Iranian.com ["A Parsi in Pakistan"] indicates that you are a tolerant person, putting up with ignorance surrounding you as some of us living in the US do. Did you know that on a per capita basis, the US is number one in the world with highest number of people believing in God, religion, and going to church?

I personally believe the whole concept of God (Allah?) and all religions are nothing but a bunch of BS, a fairy tale, the cocaine of the poor in the 3rd world, an innocent front for a bunch of real bastard imperialists, pirates and Mafia for most people in the 1st world.

In the US, forcing people to abide by some religion is against the law. I suppose Pakistan, Afghanistan, Iran, Kuwait, Qatar, UAE, Saudi Arabia, Somalia and Lybia do not have similar laws.

I think they force the Santa Claus story (God & religion) down the throat of their populace. As you know, children here are brought up believing in Santa Claus until they become teenagers. Then they are taught to believe in God and religion when they become adults. Children go to Disneyland, adults go to the mosque.

A sign of hope in the US is that centers are appearing to start eradicating ignorance and superstition, treating it like smallpox. How do you guys out there keep on tolerating ignorance, and do you have any plans to start eradicating it.

Sean Amour

* Iranian NGOs

Thank you very much for this complete site. I wonder if you can help me with two informations i need, do you know any iranians non gouvernemental organisation?

and other question, i'm looking for some iranians dancers. Actually i didn't find any dancers on your site.

Looking forward to hearing from you

Best,

Marjaneh Foyouzi

* Farsi bookstore?

I am looking for a Farsi bookstore in the New York city area?

Ralf Ludwig

* Information about Iranian army

Could you please send information about the Iranian army to this e-mail addr

navid610@yahoo.com

* Sedaam ham bad neest

man Lida hastam az India va kheili alaaghe be aavaaz khondan daaram va kheili ham alaaghe daaram email aaddressi peydaa konam taa betavaanam baa honarmandi tamaas begiram taa be man komak kone taa man betavaanam aavaaz bekhonam chon sedaam ham bad nist chon iraan ke boodam chand jalase nazde khaanom pari zangane kelaass raftam, vali khob, chon omadam India natavaanestam edaame daham. pass agar shomaa mitavaanid be man komak konid.

Lida

* Helping people "in many ways"

Salam,

I've heard Mr. Shahram Shabpareh & Mr. Hassan Sattar are going to help Iranian people here in many ways. I would like to help. I will donate my time to teach software programming to Iranians (here) in Orange County or Los Angeles.

Please let me know if you are aware of their efforts.

Thanks

M. Arvan

* Merry Christmas in Farsi

Hello,

I'm looking for a translation of "Merry Christmas and a happy New Year" (knowing very well, that Persian New Year is later in March and Christmas is celebrated only by the Christian minority in Iran) into Farsi. I would like to have also the words written in Persian alphabet (best solution: attachment as an image, eg: .jgp or .gif-file).

Thank you very much,

Michaela

* Ali Reza Pahlavi available?

Would you please telling me if Prince Ali Reza Pahlavi of Iran is engaged or married? With whom and when? Would you send me their pictures & their wedding pictures?

Thanks

Farideh

* Taleb peavastan be deen bahaeeat

ba salam va dorood

ma javanan irani hastim dar indonesia va taleb peavastan be deen bahaeeat.

ba tavagoh be deen bahaeeat ke ba bast va gostaresh mohabat va yeganegi va motabeghat elm va aghl e haghighi ostovar mibashad va havi dastoorat va eateghadaty hast ke lazemeh tosea e jahan emrooz motabegh ba ehtyagat ahl elm dar asr kononi ast be in nateegeh reseedeheem ke :

deen ghabli ma (ke az pedarraneman be ars reseedeh va khodeman dar mored entekhob on hich naghsh aghlani nadashteheem) daray e naghs haee mi bashad ke in navaghes baess e azab va ranghae e faravan dar zendegi shakhsi, seasi, va eghtesadi ma shodeh va ta hata mogodeat mara bean e ashkhos va adyan deegar jahan be mokhotereh andakhteh va baass shodeh edae e sood go az ghabil akhoond ha va... (ke shoghli gher az chapavol mardom ba khorafat dar deen va estefadeh az fetrat khoda goee va taasob ansanha nadarand)soo a estefadeh konand.

mosamam shodeheem ke az deen moroosi khod kharej shodeh va deen bahaeet ke beesh az 150 sal az pedaesh on nemighozarad va akhareen va kameltareen deen alahi mojood dar jahan va monaseb baray e ansan emroozy mibashad ra deen khod va ghavaed ,dastoorat va faramin anra sar loheh zendegi khod gharar dadeh va be aeen bahaeet bepevandeem .

baray e amli kardan in tasmim ba tavagoh be mahdoodeat hay e mojood dar iran khoneh va kashaneh khod ra tark kardeh va az iran khareg shodeheem ta betavaneem bedoon hich moshkeli be aeen bahaeet bepevandeem . vali motasefaneh bad az 3 mah ba tavagoh be inkeh ba tamam e sit hay e mogood dar internet ke marboot be deen bahaeet mibashad tamas gherefteh va e mail fertadeh ta konon hich pasokhi daryaft nakardeheem . taghaza dareem har cheh sareetar ma ra dar in rah moghadas yary va hamrahi farmaeed .

batashakor faravan

habib habibmanesh

babak ghand

saeed fathi

ali shamee

omid hossein ali

marjan maroofi

amir afshari

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