I met maryam's family

bajenaghe naghi
by bajenaghe naghi

Last night maryam took me to her uncles house. A nice and large house on a big hill you should see the views. There were six other people invited. For the first time I met Maryam's second cousin who with his expensive suit kept looking me up and down and ask me all kinds of sensitive questions, like how much I make a month or why I did not continue my education and become a doctor or engineer instead of a shopkeeper and things like that. He was really making me upset and little in front of everyone. I pulled him aside and looked into his face and told him i don't care what education you got, how much money you make or how much your suit costs but I am better man than you since I judge people for who they are not how much money they make or what license they have. I also hinted that I am bigger than he is and I would injure more than just his ego if he goes on making me look little. The jerk stopped bothering me from then on. Maryam was upset with me for doing this.


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OMG .. I cant believe some

by javaneh29 on

OMG .. I cant believe some of the things I have read here! Read the blog 'shame on us all' !!

Leave bajenaghe naghi alone and stop this bulling behaviour. He can write about what ever he wants to .. and quite honestly it makes a pleasant change from from all the heavy duty stuff here. There is a place for everything.

Bajenaghe naghi's  business is his own and what he wants to share with us is up to him.

For God's sake ppl try to show some dignity and have some respect for yourself and for others. What you write here is a representation of  how you think and who you are.

bajenaghe naghi agah keep writting and let us know the outcome please.



Dear Police :0)

by IRANdokht on

I read your comments on this blog and enjoy your style of writing. I find your input very interesting and well composed.

BN has been pleasant, friendly and non-political, bringing up small issues for discussion. I don't see any harm in that. He's engaging people who are interested in the subject matter and has even taken advice and shown appreciation for all inputs. To me, that is a strong point.

Anyway, whether we have a fish avatar or a registered ID picture, we're mostly anonymous to each other. Does it really matter what we call ourselves? BN could be anyone else on this site, expressing the simple ideas he finds interesting, under another ID he might be blogging about Iran's history or the world of arts or music... we may have different reactions to the different sides of the same person, but that's what this virtual world is allowing us to do.

I am not saying BN is definitely one of the other users here, I am just explaining why it doesn't matter to me. I see what he writes and if the subject is interesting to me, I comment on it. Why should I be puzzled by his command of the language? why should it bother me if he's not who he says he is? Do I know everybody who blogs here? Do I need to know them to respond and comment on their blog?

Cheers my dear C&P police :0)


ebi amirhosseini

Dear B.Naghi

by ebi amirhosseini on

I follow your posts;very interesting!!Are you in LOVE!?,if yes,then:


keep up the good work.




I agree with n.zanincada

by Chert-o-Pert Police (not verified) on

The reason he appears fake is because he is. Here's a perfectly articulate and educated man who is pretending to be a simpleton! In the process of pretending to be a simpleton, he says things he would never dare say where he is required to be civil, articulate and accountable. I think he should come out and speak for himself like a real modern man and hear what others have to say to him. He could be a much more real and credible blogger and a dialogue can eusue with more intelligence. If he has issues with women he can bring those up, too, and we can talk about them.

IRANdokht and Ali P.: Do you really approve of this strange character? You seem really kind to him and Ali P. even congratulates him on his post, like his new friend here has scored in a game or something (I like and respect the two of you a lot. I am confused that you are so supportive of this man. Take a look--this guy has left 10 further chert-o-pert comments on his own post so far!). How about if you two talk him into becoming real so that we can talk to him? It's a good thing none of us are simpletons! I will have to keep coming back until this guy's chert-o-pert stops!


Unfortunately, most of your

by n.zanincanadai1 (not verified) on

Unfortunately, most of your stories appear fake to me. Mostly because they are all naseehat peices. Which is totally fine. And you do it well, with a hint of simplicity, honestly and chit chat. Keep at it. But more often than not, I just can't believe that the story is real! sorry
nazicanadai too tired to log in

bajenaghe naghi

Dear Ali jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

Dastet dard nakone.


i love the quote you and irandokht made up so much ( "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent")  that I have been trying to memorize it in the last two hours. I have memorized the first half pretty good but now I need to memorize the second half. It is a beautiful thing you wrote and it is very meaningful and very true too.  

Ali P.

Look at you...!

by Ali P. on

We turn our back for a second and bajenaghe naghi is a big hit!

 Welcome to the 'scene' my man...



Ali P.

bajenaghe naghi

Dear chertopert POLICE jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

Please stop treatening me that you'll be back!! You scare me! You are worse than my last psychologist. He used to analyse me like this and I hated it.

I am what I am. It is not any body's business here if I am educated or not or if I have money or not. I have never said anything about these things. In the same way, I don't want to know how many classes you studied or how much money you have in your bank account. I am trying to make a living and I do it honestly and under the guideance of god. I cheat no one and I won't let anyone cheat me either. I know that I lose my temper every now and then and I need to work on that. mayam says the same thing. and I will even go back to my old loony psychologist again if I have to to.


I don't like to tell people I don't know how I feel about maryam. it is not your business to know, is it? I don't think she likes it if I talk about her to strangers. 



bajenaghe naghi

Dear tolerance jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

Thank you for your advise. I will try to calm down a little in the future. Khoone Irani daram che karesh konam ghorban.

bajenaghe naghi

Dear Honest Hassan jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

I always read your writing and laugh myself into a hysteria. Thank you very much for being so clever and funny (and modest).


Your advise is excellent and Ali P and irandokht's quotes are also very good. Point taken. In the future I will be more careful.  

bajenaghe naghi

Dear Dr sheikhi jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

You are right, I should have kept my mouth shut but I didn't. I will buy the jerk a present or something. Az delesh darmiyaram.

bajenaghe naghi

Dear irandokht jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

If the opposite of type A personality is type z, then I am type y. It takes a lot to upset me.  you are very observant.

Natalia Alvarado-Alvarez

Hassan........right on the money..

by Natalia Alvarado-Alvarez on


 "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"

               -Eleanor Roosevelt

 It is very true. Whenever,  you loose your temper then you have given them power over you.

Solh va Doosti (paz a vosotros)

Nadia (AKA)

Honest Hassan

That's how I do it...

by Honest Hassan on

BN john:

 Everyone of us has a spot we are sensitive about. Take me for example: I am handsome, educated,  charming, funny, awesome in bed,...and have money. But I am also 'kachal'.

   But do I go break the nose of everyone who says "kachal kachal kalaacheh..."? Of course not.

  People are idiots and say those things about you all the time; some times in front of you, and some times behind your back. You just should have developed some kind of rationale for yourself to brush these stupid comments off.

 I think I read this somewhere, a quote by Ali P. or Irandokht or Eleanor Roosevelt, or someone else, and I believe it applies here very appropiately:

 No one can make you feel inferior, without your consent.


He is concerned

by Dr. Sheikhi (not verified) on

Being an Iranian, he allows himself to question you for the sake of Maryam. He just wants to make sure that Maryam's future is not in jeopardy and she is not going to tie the knot with a nut. What you have responded and threatened him with physical injury put you in position that offended eve Maryam. I am suggesting to you not to behave as if you are in a tavern ready to pick up a fight.


Dear BN

by IRANdokht on

It sure sounds like it takes a lot to get you upset. I can see how calm you reply to everyone here, and it can be an indication of how much it would really take to get you to react the way you did.

Don't worry, in-laws can warm up to you later on after they get to know you. Concentrate on making Maryam happy and the rest of the family will take care of itself.



Audit Results

by Chert-o-Pert Police (not verified) on


So, here are your Chert-o-Pert meter results. Funny how they are longer than your post!:

1. You are not an uneducated man. You are only pretending to be one. Your intelligence shows sometimes, and your simpler Iranian man side, the one because of which you started blogging under this persona, shows the rest of the time.

2. Decide once and for all if B.N. is a handsome, Ph.D., millionaire in disguise as a shopkeeper, or stay a simple shopkeeper with simple philosophies in life. You can't have it both ways. (of course you CAN, but you will be caught on the Chert-o-Pert radar, sorry!)

3. Let's assume you were a shopkeeper as you say. Let's also assume that you are also educated as you allude, though your prose and reasoning in this persona does not support it.

4. The (incognito Ph.D. millionaire) shopkeeper B.N. goes to visit his girlfriend's family. There is a spoilt cousin in attendance who pokes fun at him and belittles him, because of his lack of education and money. All of a sudden B.N. assumes the, "Me, Tarzan, you Jane..." role, beating on his chest and threatening the cousin. That's what you did at that family affair. It would have been infinitely cooler if you told the cousin: "So, what's your hobby? I blog about social issues under a pen name." How do you think the cousin would have treated you?

5. Why would Maryam take you to her family affair? It's not obvious that you love her from your writings, and look at what you did when you showed up there! You made a fool of yourself and of her. It would be nice to see what Maryam sees in you to stay in the picture--that might help us like you more.

6. B.N. You need to try harder. Come on. Develop B.N.'s character to have some real dimensions, give him an education if you want, or take it away, but don't keep alternating in each post and comment between a simple man or a man who could be a lot more than a simple shopkeeper. Give him money or take it away. Same thing goes with B.N.'s other attributes--he is either a simple and ordinary man from Iran whose English isn't good, or he is a sophisticated, politically correct man who is an aggressive environmentalist and health nut!

I'll be back.

bajenaghe naghi

Dear Tahirih jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

You are so correct. May be I should have taken all his abuse and let him spit on my face all night and push me down like poonez just for Maryam's sake. 


I too have met very educated people and very wealthy people who lie, cheat on their wives, do not spend time with their children, look down on others, etc.  what is the point of all that education or money if they are not used in positive ways?  Thank you for your very wise and diplomatic reply.  


Agha jaan, chera inghadr

by tolerance (not verified) on

Agha jaan, chera inghadr jangi hasti?
Tolerance my man... tolerance!

You keep on posting events where you try either to correct people or junp down their throat for what they are saying or doing!

Shoma zood asabani mishid. Hamin asabaniat mitooneh kaar dast-e adam bedeh. Hala che to business che to zendegi!
Yek kami khodetoon ra aram konid va yek
rizeh (sar-e soozan) Gandhi* vaar raftaar konid!

*Gandhi of India


My advice!!!

by Tahirih on

First of all being educated means nothing ,and says nothing about the character of the person. In My life I have seen soooooooooooooooo many idiots with PhD ,that if I had a dollar for each I would have been very well off!!

Education brings money and job security not wisdom and character.one should be educated about humanity,not X<Y<and Z.

that guy had no right to be little you ,BUT, my advice would have been to stay calm and ignore him ,he wanted to make you upset in front of Maryam.

And Maryam is right to be upset about the events of that night. All they saw was an angry man , not real you.

Both my husband and me are educated but when it comes to judging someone ,I go with the amount of human virtues in that person i.e. kindness, thruthfulness, generosity and so on....



bajenaghe naghi

Dear not maryam khodaro shokr

by bajenaghe naghi on

you cannot beat on a man and keep on belittling him without some kind of bad reaction. He could have asked me all the questions in a more civilized way and I would have answered him all he wanted to know. I am not ashamed of who or what I am. You should have seen him going on and pointing at me and spitting as he talked and going all red in his face. I could not take it any more.

bajenaghe naghi

Dear chertopert POLICE jan

by bajenaghe naghi on


maryam is a nurse. 

bajenaghe naghi

Dear Anonynoushere jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

Education is very important to gain prestige and money. You are assuming that I have no education or money. You may be right or you may be wrong.


If I had a daughter I would like her to marry an educated and wealthy man too.  I would also ask him about these, but I would also try to find out about his ideas, beliefs, integrity, honesty, etc.  There are so many things that make a man and we should not only concentrate of how many Phds he has or how much money he makes. 


Run Maryam...run!

by united to save Maryam (not verified) on

Poor Maryam...or maybe not! At least she saw your real face and she will get rid of you soon, unless she has no job, no brain, and no pride herself.
And you proved the exact points that Maryam's rich second cousin was trying to make.


nafas kesh?

by not maryam-khodaro shokr (not verified) on

you said: "also hinted that I am bigger than he is and I would injure more than just his ego if he goes on making me look little."

I think you proved his point!


Need more information

by Chert-o-Pert Police (not verified) on


What is Maryam's education and job?


I would ask the same questions

by Anonymoushere (not verified) on

Dear bajenaghe naghi,
If Maryam was my daughter, sister, cousin, I would ask the same questions. I would prefer her to get married to someone who is financially well off and educated. Being a Doctor, Engineer, Lawyer is not just about a license, It is the experience you gain through higher education. It is about having a higher IQ, it is about thinking and planning about future.

best of luck,
Maryam's brother!