we can only do our personal best

bajenaghe naghi
by bajenaghe naghi
10-Jan-2009
 

it seems that some of us no matter how old we get and how successful we become we never grow out of trying to fulfill our parents dreams and expectations. the other day david and me had gone for a quick drink. as we sat talking at a small table in the corner he suddenly started to cry like a little boy. i looked around to see if the other people were looking at us.  i did not want them think that i had beaten the guy or we were lovers arguing because i am totally hetro.  thank god no one was looking.  david is carrying this weight over his shoulders that he did not get a university degree as his parents had wished for and spent so much money to send him to this country. he feels so guilty and he thinks he has let them down big time. Maryam has tried so much to make him undrstand that true happiness is how one feels about oneself and all the things one has achieved and not what other people think you should have accomplished. she says as humans we all go forward and realize things that are attainable by us. some can easily get a phd, some have to work like dogs to get one and some can't even finish a bs or ba. it takes all sorts of us  to make this world as wonderful and interesting and colorful as it is. i just wish david would look at the big picture and see all the great things he has already achieved instead of only looking at the things he was not good at and so did not attain.  his world would look so much prettier if he saw it through his own eyes instead of through his parents eyes.

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This Ticket Valid One Way Only Way Jan. 1 2009

Say whaaaaaaaaaaaaat?

by This Ticket Valid One Way... on Sun Jan 11, 2009 02:25 PM PST

Be NICE to jj???????

jj and I...have our own way of relating...

and I'm VERY nice to him....

tell him to be nice to me for me, would you?

lol

no reply needed, go speak to him!

r


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bajenaghe naghi

rosie jan

by bajenaghe naghi on Sun Jan 11, 2009 02:15 PM PST

ir is good to see you again. NY must be cold this time of the year. keep warm and be nice to jj. i was also doing the same with you about the minority thing. ;-)


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This Ticket Valid One Way Only Way Jan. 1 2009

Oops! Sorry!

by This Ticket Valid One Way... on Sun Jan 11, 2009 02:13 PM PST

T'S ME, rOSIE, AND IT'S A CTUPID AND COMPLICATED STYOTY HOW IY hAPPeNED THAT i WOUNDUP POSTNG IN A WAY YOU COULDN'T KNOW IT'S ME, AND YOU DON'T LIKE MY COMPLICATED STORIES SO i WON'T TELL IT. bUT IT'S ME.

tHE ACTUAL ACCOUNT i AM USING HAS THE LIGHT AVATAR TOO BUT IT'S CALLED rOSIE IS rOXY IS rOSHAN, complicated>>

also i've changed my real name from robin to roxane....

oH AND BTW i WAS REALLY JUST JIVING WITH YOU ABOUY T THE GAY THING


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this ticket valid one way jan

by bajenaghe naghi on Sun Jan 11, 2009 11:42 AM PST

i don't know if you are new or a improved version of a old friend. either way well come and thank you for reading what i had to say. 

you are so right that parents are part of us when they are alive and they stay with us after they are gone. last night i heard on tv that the parents way of life becomes the belief system of their children between the age of 3 and 6 years old. i thought that was profound.

as to my gay comment i must say i am not gay fobic in any way. i am open minded and very accepting of every one. in fact some of my best friends are gays, blacks, women and other minorities. :-)


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This Ticket Valid One Way Only Way Jan. 1 2009

to break with one's parents' expectations of us..

by This Ticket Valid One Way... on Sun Jan 11, 2009 02:21 AM PST

and to become our own person is one of the hardest and most painful things a person has to do in life. i think the trick is to remember that whatever road we choose our parents remain in us always, and in our children, after after they are gone.

and really every parent wants what's best for the child. it's just that some of them don't realize that the best...is to let go..

thx so much,

Roxane

ps why should you care if someone thinks you're gay? you know you're not. and anyway, so what if you were? you're not letting your parents' expectations of you get in the way of your being comfortable with your friend and yourself in public, aaaaaaaaare you?

LOL


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