Advice: How to three-some!

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Advice: How to three-some!
by eyeranian
10-Jul-2008
 

This is my advice column. You can submit your questions about relationship, sex, marriage, society or any other topic you want and I will answer from my (Iranian, male, 40's, too few hairs on the head, few too many pounds on the body) most candid but often unique perspective.

BK has asked: "How do I make my GF have a three-some?"

Dear BK; since you didn't provide more details, I will need to make some assumptions to get a complete picture: A – you are looking for another guy to join the two of you or B – you are looking for a girl. In some ways it really doesn't make a difference as long as you aren't really "making" your GF do it for your pleasure alone, with no regards to her feelings or desires. One other thing you may seriously want to consider is how this is going to affect your relationship afterwards. I know watching some porn actor do it turns you on but that's on the screen, no emotions vested and your skin or hers aren't touching another human being. It'll be very different in real life. Now if you have considered all of the above and still want to do it, I suggest being honest about it. I don't mean going up to her and saying "hey how about a threesome?" but maybe you can suggest sharing a fantasy or better yet, tell her you had a dream last night and start telling her about how you were in the midst of making incredible love with her when you noticed this strange woman walked in on you. Watch for her sign of excitement to hear more or disgust at the suggestion. If you get the first, keep going on. If the second comes up, end it by saying thankfully you woke up! Damn that was a strange dream! Think about it, if she wanted to tell you the same thing, you would minimize the risk of hurting the relationship by being a bit creative, not deceptive. Last thing you want to consider is if she's really into it and want to expand it to the other gender or even multiple partners, etc. But that's another question for another time. Good luck!

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Its not good to force it

by Alborzi (not verified) on Fri Jul 11, 2008 07:36 AM PDT

Generally these become very fantastic experiences when they happen naturally. You do not have to have your girl friend be the partner, in fact some people may have major problems with it while others are willing to try it.
You will like it, if its a evolutionary activity by people who are not going to be in you life daily.


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javaneh29

Sometimes fantasy is best

by javaneh29 on Fri Jul 11, 2008 03:04 AM PDT

Sometimes fantasy is best kept as fantasy! Threesomes frequently destroy otherwise good relationships.

Khobra Khanoom ... you find the problems you get sent are boring? Great incentive for those who might have thought about seeking your advice.

And by the way, use of dreams/ fantasy is one of the 'safe'  methods  used by those of us  who practice psychological 'babble' professionaly.

Javaneh


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Men want to have fun!

by Ali reza (not verified) on Fri Jul 11, 2008 12:57 AM PDT

I was reading somewhere that in Tehran this is done among married couples but with a women who work the street.Live,Love(but be safe),laugh:)


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Kobra Khanoom

great!

by Kobra Khanoom on Fri Jul 11, 2008 12:17 AM PDT

Dear eyeranian,

I loved the dream trick. It is so smart. I couldn't have come up with a better way of approaching it! Also it is great advice about the fact that it may not be as fun in real life as in a porn video. Penises have a way of reacting contrary to one's wishes sometimes. But the porn industry is catering to a real fantasy. Many men have fantasies of their woman being fucked by another man. I suppose there is vicarious pleasure in it.  But it is so much against the whole darwinian evolutionary equation that in a way it is mind boggling that it is so widespread.  Could it be that we fantasize about things we most fear: having a whore for a partner for example?  

Here is a question for you: why is there so much gang-banging and multpile partner sex in porn? Why do men like it so much?

Most women are much more possessive and much less likely to enjoy sharing their partner. I wish I would get more questions like yours rather than my boring "relationship" ones!

Keep up the good job!

Kobra Khanoom


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Nadias

Sure that is what they always say programmer craig

by Nadias on Thu Jul 10, 2008 11:45 PM PDT

I am selfish when it comes to sharing my man. No way in hell,  I would share him with another

solh va doosti/paz a vosotros/paix et amitié

ناتاليا

 

 


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programmer craig

cowards

by programmer craig on Thu Jul 10, 2008 09:50 PM PDT

Everyone is too chicken to comment on this one! Seems like good advice... not that I would know.


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