June 7, 2002
* Hell, that was fun
u gave me a great laugh and loved your satire [I
wanna be your king]. I am a young supporter of Reza Pahlavi but hell, that
was fun. Everyone should have the right to make fun of anyone they like adn chritisese
anyone they like.
But what anoyes me is that asshole Javid Jahanshah he is the most tastless SOB
ever. His job is to charachter assasinate RP, but the dumb fool is only assasinating
his own charachter with his discusting and tastless writings about RP, and Moe that
chartoonist have some funny pics about RP but most of them are just bad insults.
Do what ever you want or say what ever you want, but have some class in it.
Siamak you will have my vote for king as I am bored with the situation in Iran, which
I think you will change. Javid Siamak and kune laghe Javid Jahanshah e khatamichi!
* I'm an officer in the Canadian Armed Forces
I'm writing in response to a letter written by some Hezbolla fool who insulted
an Iranian-American lady for joining the U.S. Marine Corp [Iranian
in U.S. Marine Corps?!].
He called her a "fucking disgrace" for choosing to fight under the U.S.
flag (even though she's an American citizen), and hopes to god that "they send
her whorish ass to Afghanistan or the Middle East someday" so that "an
Iranian soldier has the pleasure of putting a bullet in her sorry head."
I'm an officer in the Canadian Armed Forces (a military doctor), and I was a Canadian
soldier years before. As an Iranian-Canadian, I assume the writer's vile excrement
is directed at myself also, to which I tell him this: If you ever see me coming,
run you little Islamic shit. I was trained to kill by the Army of an advanced western
state, and the closest military ally of the U.S.
I trained with the Marines, and any one of us is worth a hundred incompetent Bassijis.
I hope I never have to kill a fellow Iranian, but then you and your kind aren't real
Iranians, so be careful what you hope for. Sarah
Afshar, the Marine you insulted, is a more worthy example of an Iranian than
you and all your vatan-foroosh friends combined.
* If democracy to pro shahi's means...
I could not resist to comment on this article [Popular
for the wrong reasons]. When I was in Iran I used to be proud of the old
Iran we had.
You know these TV stations (mostly NITV and PARS TV) belong to pro shah people
and their main objective is to make their stupid ideology known to the Iranians.
I really can not stand those Iranians that do not use their brains; They say Iran
had the fifth military in the world or we all lived comfortably. Iran's military
today is much stronger than the pathetic military we had in shah's time.
Look in Shah's time our personell were trained in U.S, our guns were made by U.S.
During shah's time for everything we had to get a a green light from the united states.
Don't forget we were called the 52nd state of united states!!!!
Reza pahlavi is good untill he does not want to become the king. I realy do not
understand the argument these pro shahi people are trying to make. They often say
that Iran's legacy is tied with monarchy. Ok i say let's break that $hity legacy
and bring democracy to iran like a modern coutnry and do away with the Shah. If democracy
to pro shahi's means that we have a useless parliment with a uselss prime minister
assigned by the shah, then i say shah my a$$.
The Pro Shahi often want to push iran's economy to break down so that they can
pick up and get the power. I say putting iran's government on the corner does not
help for pursuit democracy in Iran. I say as more engaged iran becomes in the world
the government has to automatically give more power to the people.
* Defeat at the hands of THAT ISLAND NATION
With the start of World Cup, I am again reminded of the deep humiliation we all
felt when Iranian national team, with all its so-called European based stars, lost
to that island nation during qualifying round!! There are no adjectives that can
truly describe this latest fiasco in the annals of Iranian sports.
The past twenty three years have been full of agony and despair for majority of
our brethren in Iran and abroad. Remember when George Bush (the "BOY")
had the audacity to call us members of an axis of evil.
Hey George, where did you get the idea of insulting our beloved nation with its
3000 years of glorious history? Was it something that your daddy or your national
security adviser whispered in your ear? Now back to the original topic: World cup
gives participating countries, both large and small, an opportunity to showcase their
young and talented. It matters not whether you win or lose.
Just being there is a prestige and honor that will forever be bestowed upon the
participating country. Seventy-five percent of earthlings watch it! Can you think
of a better theater to silence all your critics by showing your true character, especially
those who call you EVIL?
Prove to them that even in the worst of times, both economically and politically,
you can overcome obstacles; that you have no fear; that you can compete with the
best. Unfortunately, we will not enjoy such occasion. Habitually, we want to point
fingers and blame certain individuals. Let's see, how about Mr. Farahani, head of
IFF, or Mr. Daei (better yet, lets just call him "KHALEH" instead of Daei
!!!!), or Miroslav Blazevic.
The list goes on and on. In the final analysis, our defeat at the hands of THAT
ISLAND NATION is something we will not soon forget. A painful lesson in incompetence...lack
of national pride.....and another year of discontent for us Iranians
* Majority of Pahlavi supporters are not monarchists or rich
How could someone who writes an article so foolish as Ms. Sana Aryamehr possibly
be fooled any more? [Can't
be fooled again] While there are valid reasons for criticizing Reza Pahlavi
and the Pahlavi Dynasty, this person's piece of writing does not rise above a piece
of garbage that will even be dismissed by the ayatollahs.
First of all, Ms. Aryamehr is completely ignorant of Iranian history; otherwise she
would not claim that 'Pahlavi' is a stolen name! (One wonders how does someone actually
steal a name, which is not a commodity!) Any person with a simple knowledge of Iranian
history will know that our people did not have last names till 1923. At that time,
Reza Khan, who was the prime minister, sanctioned that Iranians obtain last names
and get state certifications. Giving Iranians an identity was only one of his many
reforms to modernize Iran. Himself chose the name Pahlavi to celebrate his devotion
to the pre-Islamic Iran.
Secondly, Sana is wrong to think that majority of Pahlavi supporters are monarchists
who are rich. I do not belong to the elite class of Iranians. Mr. Javid who is an
avid anti-Pahlavist, was a member of pre-revolution elite, according to his own admission.
Both my parents were government employees before the Shah and after.
Ms. Aryamehr has failed to read any news of events in Iran to see that Mr. Pahlavi's
support extends beyond the elite. Secondly, which group of Iranians were the earliest
victims of Mullahs? It was the officers and persons loyal to the Pahlavi regime.
How could you claim that they did not pay with blood for their cause? It was the
same suffered class of Iranians who rushed to defend the nation against Iraqi aggression
when mullahs and their leftist allies were busy killing and destroying the Iranian
culture and too busy trashing nationalism and our glorious past.
The most ridiculous thing I have ever heard is that Palestinians were better off
with the Shah gone! Could you tell us how? If you make a claim at least have one
fact to prove it. You are so naive to think that Israel was surviving with the help
of the Shah. Oh yes, we saw how vulnerable Israel became after 1980! One could claim
that Israel was a backer of Pahlavi regime but the reverse is just plain ignorance.
To think that Iran was a backer of Israel is only an illustration of one's lack of
insight of history and politics.
As for Palestinians, the only benefit they received from the fall of the Shah, Saddam
Hussein, their strongest backer was bugged down in an eight-year war with Iran. Many
Palestinians conveniently forgot their struggle and joined the Iraqi army in its
assault on our land. During the war, Iran became Arafat's enemy number two. And it
was the post revolutionary Iran that bought weapons from Israel. And it has been
the post revolutionary Iran who has continued to support groups who oppose the Palestinians
Authority. Oh, Sana joon, have you ever heard of HAMAZ or Islamic Jihad?
To be fair, I can agree with you on one point, the uselessness of Perspolis celebration.
* We are all together
Regardiing your Noruz message [Heechkas
tanhaa nees], I thought a lot and wondered as to what words I should compose
next to each other to offer you as New Year's Greetings! ....So that it would be
In the early days of Spring my heart throbs for those who pass the New Year in
solitude in their small and dim apartments in distant lands and one of their only
source of joy is to pay a visit to Iranian.com! Iranian.com is a window to me!...so
that from there I could honestly speak my heart to you and listen to the melodious
echo of your words!
I see through this window! I bestow my love and the breeze of my voice singing
the ode to the Spring and to the solitude of your New Year and release it in the
silence of your room! No one is alone!
We are all together!
Happy New Year!
* Farhad's ill health?
I heard Farhad,
the singer, is in a bad health condition. Do you know what is his email or address
in Iran please. I would like to talk to him or may be help If I can.
Please forward my email to the right person to give me his email or address please,
if you don't have it.
* Djalili: Best Comedian
This is just to let you know that last night OMID
DJALILI won 'Best Comedian' at the prestigious EMMA AWARDS in London.
Prior to winning he performed his stand-up show, while music was supplied by Liberty
X and The Lighthouse family. The show will be screened on BBC on Sunday 2nd. June
at 10.45pm GMT.
I do think that this deserves publication on iranian.com.
All the best,
* Promote consensus
I used to be a regular contributor to iranian.com I went a bit quite around the
time I felt the writers were no longer contributing positively to our national debates.
Nowadays, some historical articles like "Helen
of Tus" as well as pieces by Hadi
Khorsandi and Saman
are what brings me back to iranian.com on a regular basis.
From your letters section we can see that there are multitude of views about past
controversies. It will serve little constructive purpose to rehash old arguments.
(In other words "in harfha vaseye Fati tomboon nemisheh") and worse make
many readers switch off. I believe your article "Shah
bee Shah" triggered a round of useless emotional language in the letter
Though I thought I can appreciate your views and concerns about monarchies versus
republics, it is unfortunate to see that the Iranians consider these systems at odds
with each other, despite the fact that in the developed world, both systems are operating
democraticly, and in the middle east both are behaving despotically.
The key ingredients of democracy, secularism, human rights, and popular sovereigty
that seperate Iran and the developed world seem to be lost in debates on your website.
I believe as editor of iranian.com you can direct the articles and dicussions to
promote consensus on these key issues.
If promoting a republic as opposed to presenting a neutral view or continuing
with the system of Shahanshahi is your preference that is fine also. Then the debates
would be about whether the Iranian people should have the right to determine the
form of government in an internationally observed National Referendum or not.
I would like to leave you with an extract from an 18 page article published in
Time Magazine dated June 3, 2002 It says:
European Monarchs are very popular among their own people. Infatuation with Socialism,
communism, Fascism is over. The advent of United Europe & the Euro has turned
the people towards the only Symbol of their nationalism & unity, The Monarchs
with 70% of Brits wanting Monarchy, 80% of Dutch (Netherlands), 90% of Danes (Denmark),
85% of Swedes (Sweden), 80 % of Spanish.
It is only by scrutinising facts such as these numbers that Iranian republicans
can hope to sway Iranian public opinion away from what we consider to be the golden
epoch of economic progress and cultural tolerance under the Shahanshah Aryamehr stewardship,
towards a continuation of an experiment with a republic in Iran, with or without
it's religious component. Foul mouthing the Pahlavi regime with the same arguments
that brought to power the Khomeini, Bani Sadr, Khatami's of this world are counter
productive, and steer away your internet journal from it's noble aim of being a LIFE
magazine for Iranian's.
I attach a photo from the time magazine, with thanks to Mr. Hakimi for scanning
it, in the hope that it will find it's way to the top of your web site, and start
a meaningful debate over the future of the Shahanshahi institution in Iran. After
all, colourful monarchies, like movie stars and football teams are the core elements
of the life of most societies and hence a regular feature LIFE magazine.
Amir Khosrow Sheibany
* You are just gijo-veej
Back to the article -if it may be called so- named "From:
Moe" with the author begging not to ask him why, i would like to ask
YOU why? what is the point of publishing something like that. Someone who might be
in a maniac episode and very active and sleepless writing pointless (though appreciated
for not being rude, although in line with savak) letters to people and sending them
to you and you putting them up on your website? what are you doing? I think this
is the time for you to look back and see how much of a real editorial job you have
been doing over the last few years.
My understanding is that an editor -though cyber editor if you will, but still
shouldn't be a ghost editor- has a JOB to do rather than just putting up everything
that comes his way on a website. This could be done by a high school student these
days not even a webmaster. I am serious, and don't get me wrong your initiative has
been valuable or as they call it your "business model", but I am afraid
you neither turned a millionaire nor a real EDITOR! what a business!
I believe the least an editor is supposed to do is to stop what in english is
called verbal diarrhea. People may not now what is good for publication or what is
offensive or more importantly what is against the law of that land or international
law and so forth. an editor should take care of that part and still after that start
being an editor and use his or her professional skills and knowledge and initiative.
I think you need some more professional training -as you have gained some experience
but seem to be working like a worn out oil filter: leaking constantly OR letting
everything in (don't start that discretion with my letter)! If I were you I would
consider this advice one of the most valuable ones you have received in a while as
I am reviewing your site from the past times. You look like reeling to me between
extremes and might have called this reeling an initiative (no-aavari in persian)
but wrong, you are just gijo-veej and hitting one to naal and one to meekh. This
is not innovation, this is nadaanam-kaari. Hope you won't need to hear from me anymore.
* Give your dinner to your enemy
Hope you and your princess are doing well. I had a chance to read your weight
loss pieces today [Kopol
vs. Topol III]. About two years ago, when I inquired about you, someone mentioned
that you are getting big. I was hoping he meant it in a different way!! Topol reminded
me of an old Persian saying about eating habits.
It goes like this: Eat your breakfast alone, Share your lunch with a friend, Give
your dinner to your enemy.
I am sure you know that putting food in our body during night time will stick
in there for good as compare to food eaten in the early part of the day that will
get digested. Asrar-e Khorakiha and Aajaz-e Khorakiha by Dr. Jazayeri are good sources
of information. (Here is a tip from the latter:
Eating grapes during mornings causes weight loss and during night causes weight
gain). Exercise is fine, but change in life style (in this case in eating habit -
or eating time) is a better solution. (Look who is talking! If my daughter was here,
I would be Topoli too @154lb).
Good luck in your endeavor.
* Ancient Iranian icepit (Yakh Chal)
I'm looking for information on an ancient Iranian icepit,
called a Yakh Chal.I have been searching on the internet for some,but haven't had
any luck,so I decided to write you.I would greatly appreciate any information you
could send me.thanks,
* It appears you guys are carefree and gay
I stumbled on your site and decided to gif a look. It appears you guys are carefree
and gay. Do you prefer to be called persian or iranian? I see you advertise law offices.
Fariba should have a logo. Two arms in the air one missing a hand. The slogan could
be "We win some We lose some".
On the other hand you could be good guys in disguise. But if you went to the berkely
valley be carefull. I hear it is the only part of Lebanon controlled by hezbully.
I have to go now and take my FBI test in Arabic. I hope there are no trick questions
in Farsi. Until we meet again in safer times keep your eyes and your powder dry.
Your best new friend in America.
Abutom Rasuli of the big apple keeper of the
royal flame (mrs.flame) exhaulted himom (high mom!)
Allah Bless America
* Nazak Pahlavi?
I'm a French writer and i am acutally working on Nazak Pahlavi who was the daughter
of hamid Reza Pahlavi, the little brother of the last shah.
I'm searching for photos of her can you help me?
* Betraying Aghdashlou's privacy
Hello Wa-na-be Mr. Pure Aryan, [Warm
You are betraying Miss Aghdashlou by publishing her private images on the internet
without her permission.
This is not professional of an Italian paparazi.
I would like to introduce to you the result of many months of painstaking, professional,
and breathtaking work by a very good friend of mine, Mr. Ahmad Kiarostami. This is
a new site on Iranian culture and arts - Persopedia: http://www.persopedia.org/
In its initial phase, fully Boolean-searachable poetry volumes by Hafez, Sa'adi,
Molavi, Khayyam, and Baba Taher have been put online. All of Hafez's poems even have
voice recitation in realaudio. This site is truly a source of pride for Iranians
everywhere, and I am sure you will agree with me after visiting it.
Thank you and regards,
* Behtar Az Deegaraan
This letter is in response to Ms. Setareh Sabety's invitation in a so called:
[Need a baby
Mc Lane Palace, Virginia
From the Desk of His Imperial Majesty Reza Shah Pahlavi II, King of the Kings and
Behtar az Deegaran.
Dear Ms. Sabety, Ladies and gentlemen, honorable non-paying members of the Iranian.com.
We, Reza Pahlavi, heirs to the Tavoos Thorne and the True Iranian Monarch, wish to
thank you for your invitation to the ceremony held for the Iranian of the Year Awards.
Although we were unable to attend yet our thoughts were with you.
In fact we celebrated our own little party in Mc Lane Palace in Virginia and most
of our subjects were immensely pleased with the outcome and we entertained in a safe
and pleasant quiet and peace of our modest palace.
During the coming year, we hope that with the will of God and under the shadow of
Ahoora Mazda we be able to continue our devotion and unstoppable love for each other
( we mean our immediate and extended family) and at the same time entertain the idea
that someday, God will we may return to our beloved Iran (at least for a two weeks
vacation if not more, where we hear a dollar goes a long way). Our return to Iran
should not imply our wish to become a KING of KINGS, no! we will even settle with
any other title as long as it's the highest position conceivable in Iran then, and
we may even take President Carter with us to observe the democratic election.
On behalf of my family (whom by the way prefer caviar over Pizza) we thank you for
your invitation. Please send your contributions to Pahlavi Foundation, where your
money will be safely invested in NAZDAQ and not a single person beyond our family
will ever know the details and the financial whereabouts of the billions of dollars
we are safekeeping for our beloved Iranian people. And that is why we have not spent
a penny for any Iranian causes so far abroad. Instead, we are saving it all for the
biggest Chelo Kabab Party that mankind has ever seen; with koobideh ezafeh for everyone
and doogheh Arab. Long live Iran. Long live Kababeh Soltanee.
We, Reza Pahlavi, King of the Kings, Behtar Az Deegaraan
Mc Lane Palace, Virginia
* At a time when speaking the truth could be costly
Mansoor Lotfi, [One-way
In your enthusiastic fit of loyalty to your new-found country of citizenship,
you write: "We Iranian(s) have a long history of betraying our own people and
our friends". No amount of anger, no matter how justified, and regardless of
whether it is the result of humiliation and unjust imprisonment you may have suffered
at the hands the anti-democratic regime of Iran -- assuming it is not some fabrication
designed to justify your broadside -- can give you the license to utter such patently
false statements which is an affront to all Iranians and Iranian-Americans including
Setreh Sabety, who stand for justice, decency, peace, and freedom.
What is utterly beyond your comprehension is that people like Setareh Sabety,
even in their mistakes, stand head and shoulder above puny people like you, who view
the world through narrow prism of personal self-interest alone. Setareh's mistake
is the error of passionate conviction in defense of all that is good and just in
America, and which is personified by the generosity of which you are a beneficiary,
and which is being distorted and destroyed in the name of American people by a handful.
Thank God there are still such people around to give voice to all that is good
and decent at a time when speaking the truth could be costly, unconcerned about making
mistakes and, what is more, ready to learn from them. Setareh Sabety may have made
a mistake, but it is a mistake that in no way detracts from her principled stand
on the Arab-Israeli conflict, and unlike you, she will never stoop so low as to condemn
an entire people to win brownie points.
The world according to you can be summed up as -- me and my BMW! I think if you
were a person of principles and convictions, you would write a retraction and an
apology, and show the readership that you are mature enough to learn from your mistakes.
If your were to do that, I am willing to believe that your statement was nothing
more than youthful enthusiasm run amuck.
* Out of conviction and principle
Ms. Sabety, [No
I love you. Well, I should rephrase that. I don't know you personally from Eve,
but I love that you exist. I just stumbled across your Aug 13th column in the Iranian
and felt compelled to write. I'm always interested to read of the experiences of
immigrants to this country since as the grandson of incredibly brave men and women
I was never allowed the gift of choosing America.
I sometimes wonder if I would have had the courage to make your choice. Be thankful
it's a question you don't have to answer. I love America because I was born and raised
here. You chose this chaotic, energetic, argumentative and ultimately civic space
out of conviction and principle. It's something I truly envy.
I urge you to think of this on the next occasion during these turbulent times
that you're tempted to wonder what your adopted country thinks of it's residents
and citizens from another shore.
* This is what democracy is all about
I find it ironic that many especially the so called Americans that responded to
Setareh Sabety's essay regarding her disapproval of US policies pertaining to the
Israeli and Palestanian coflict failed to rebuttle her on her main point and instead
focused on just the title of her essay. [Today,
I am a Palestinian]
What is disappointing is that these Americans whether they were born here or they
were latter on naturalized fail to understand that this is what democracy is all
about, so all of them by offering a one way ticket to Ms. Sabety are telling her
that she has no right to voice out her opinion.
This is a common theme among the neo conservatives such as Bill Bennet. A theme that
is also being adopted by many other Americans that have gotten caught up in this
war fever. Many of them suggest that if you do not support US government policies
you "hate America" which is about the lowest that one can descend to.
The silly suggestion to those citizens that voice out their concern to just forfeit
the taxes, and many other contributions that they have made into the system and walk
away from it by moving out of US is as undemocratic as you can get.
Many of these supposed patriots resort to using labels to define and categorize all
those tax paying citizens that may oppose some of our governments policies. For example
those that question what the government knew prior to 9/11 are labeled as "conspiracy
theorist" that are trying to derail the US just war.
In fact those that question our supposed just war by suggesting that perhaps we
should look at what we could have done or more importantly what we continue to do
that provokes such hatred are labeled as "coward pacifists" or the old
label "liberals". And of course those like Ms. Sabety that oppose our unconditional
support for Israel are labeled as "anti-semitic" or "anti-democratic",
not too mention even "Anti-American" by some of the readers in this site.
Fellow Americans may I respectfully and highly suggest reading the Bill of Rights
and see what each American including Ms. Sabety has in this country.
* We need to become real "Iranian Americans"
I read Mr. Lofti's response to Ms Sabeti's article [One-way
ticket ] about Palestine [Today,
I am a Palestinian] and I think he makes several fine points. I think that
the events of 9/11 and the backlash towards Iranians may have affected our views
about the country in which many of us now live -- America.
Many of us came here as refugees. If you feel better about being called an immigrant
- fine. But we were escaping something. Whether it was the revolution, the war (in
my case) or religious or political persecution, we left a country that we loved because
for some reason or another, we could no longer fulfill our dreams and plans for ourselves
or our families. We are allowed to live here and to assimilate in this society. Of
course, assimilating in LA these days is a piece of cake, but that was not the case
for those of us who came here in the early 80s at the height of the hostage crisis.
I knew that I should not be telling people I was Iranian because we were hated. However,
in the 20 years that I have now lived here, I mostly experienced the good of the
American people. We may not agree with their politics - some of them do not either
- but it is country that has opened its arm and has accepted us. It has allowed us
to fullfill our dreams. Come on, how many of your parents are using Medicare, Medi-Cal
and Social Security income????
If we want to change the way we are viewed, then it is up to us to do that. To get
involved with the local politics and our communities. The American people are basically
good people. Don't forget that they are not necessarly sophisticated in world events.
To this day I am shocked to see that 50 year old men and women who make a fortune
have NEVER left this country. That, I think, is more the norm that the well traveled
American - and I don't mean the ones who went to Western Europe. In my book, that
only exposes them to what they are comfortable with because in many cases inbsp their
heritage - you have all heard them say "My great grandmother was Italian"
but of course other than knowing the recipe for a mean spagetti, they know squat
about the country.
I come from a small town called Khorramshahr in Southern Iran. We left because of
the war. When we arrived in Tehran, everyone thought people from Khorramshahr, or
all of Khuzestan were typical shahrestani. But we were not. There were many foreigers
in our small town. The US Consulate was there, for one. The Ambassador rented his
house from my Grandfather. There were the British, German, Korean, Italians and various
Arabs living there. All socio-economic levels were exposed to the foreigners and
their culture. If you found a small town in the US, you'd be hard pressed to find
the Americans there as exposed to the world as our small town was. Being a port helped,
of course. Our butcher's son was going to university in the States in the 70s for
heaven's sake. I was floored when I met a client who had been to Khorramshahr! And
loved our culture. To know us, is to love us Iranians - I believe that (as does my
American husband) But these same Americans, do not necessarily love our government!
Americans, as a whole, are a good people. Many are not sophisticated in world events.
George Bush is as big a hick as they come. He probably has never been anywhere either!
They have also never really been exposed to the political, economic, religious stife
as we (and the rest of the world, for that matter) have. They are isolated here and
perhaps we can't expect them to view the world the way we do. If we want them to
change their views of Iranians, then we NEED to do it.
I went to my local greek festival last weekend. There were almost more Iranians there
than Greeks. It would be great to have an Iranian festival - our dancing, clothes,
songs, and the Iranian joi de vivre is so fantastic, it's go to be contagious! Not
to mention our culture! It is an amazing one we should expose the Americans to. They'd
We need to become real "Iranian Americans" and work the system like other
immigrant groups have.We need to get involved in local, government and national issues
and cultural issues. We need to really expose them to the Iran we love.
The Americans have accepted us here. Now we need to accept ourselves here.
* Teach me Farsi
Would you recommend a teacher in new York City who would be able to come to my
home and teach me to speak Farsi. If you do not know one, could you suggest where
I might look to find one.
* Who "bred and raised" bin Laden?
Mr. Zahedi, [Muy
FYI, Osama is persona non-grata in Saudi Arabia because he has called for the
overthrow of the Saudi monarchy. If you're really interested in knowing who "bred
and raised" Osama Bin Laden and the Taliban, the answer is: the CIA.
* Reform first, Arab/Israeli issue later
Dear Iranian, and Mr. Lotfi, [One-way
In short thank you for your wonderful reply to those ungrateful Iranians, Middle
Easterners, Muslims etc.... who take advantage of the great resources here and then
sit back complain, never contribute and like back stabbers put a knife in the back
of this great land America by spreading hate and distrust of the system.... I have
one thing to say to them all: "Namak Nashnaasi ham hadi daare"
Dear Ms. Sabety, [Today,
I am a Palestinian]
I respect your opinion and would stand by your right to freely express your thoughts
and yes I do not like what I see in Israel and Palestine also... however both parties
are to blame here and some one like Arafat who has proved over and over not to be
worthy of leadership is far more too blame than the US ever could be.
Many Israelis and Jews in the world too dislike the fanatics like Sharon but at
least Sharon is correct that some one or some groups are training young innocent
and frustrated Palestinian youths with the methods needed for blowing themselves
up, this may be a political tool but honestly what kind of extreme fringe madness
of a roadmap is this....Can this be a viable solution? I mean to destroy the lives
of these innocent kids and the lives of the many innocent Israeli bystanders to score
This martyr mentality encouraged by the likes of the Iranian Islamic regime/ Hizbullah
and Al-Qaidah and Hamas in the end fails to score any points. One can fight for freedom
through legitimate protest, struggle and dialogue not by barbaric self-destruction
and killing. And when Arafat and the PA are willing to expend their children and
the lives of any human it becomes very clear that greed and self interest is the
primary objective not the Palestinian cause.
And by the way I feel that Palestinian cause is a legitimate one and Israel needs
to recognize that as well. So as Iranian-Americans we can repay our debt to our new
home the United States of America by mobilizing, educating and encouraging policy
change like other immigrant groups and not by giving up, name calling and harboring
hate for the US. We like any other group in the US can make an impact. And first
of all let's fight for reform and moderation in Iran and worry about the Arab/Israeli
issue and other problems through the grass roots groups and organizations that are
already in place and active in the US.
* Did he stop by?
Dear Setareh, [Need
a baby sitter?]
I reed the RP and Banoo and loved it :) Did he stop by or
Keep up with good work :)
* Is this any way for a civilized nation to behave?
Can the virtuous mullahs of Iran ever make any foreign policy statements that
don't drip with hypocrisy? Here's Khatami's latest regarding Iran's "axis of
evil" status. "When a big power uses a militant, humiliating and threatening
tone to speak to us, our nation will refuse to negotiate or show any flexibility."
Excuse me, but America has endured 20 years of being labeled "The Great Satan",
repeated calls for our destruction, and our flag burned on the streets of Iran. I
don't agree with the "axis of evil" comment, but is this any way for a
civilized nation to behave? Why would any U.S. politician want to have anything to
do with a country that continually insults us? The label did expose the Achilles
heel of the mullahs though: criticism.
They absolutely cannot stand the tables being turned on them, and despite their
public bellowing, they've privately made a lot of moves to reign in Hezbollah and
proceed with caution.
* If Israel has transformed into Nazi Germany...
In reference to Ms. Sabety's 3 May editorial "Today,
I am a Palestinian":
Ms. Sabety should be aware if her citizenship oath "is not worth the paper
it is written on" and if she indeed "wish[es she] had never become an American",
her oath is not irrevocable. She can and should renounce her American citizenship
under the circumstances. Directions on doing so can be located at: http://travel.state.gov/pr_renun.html.
Ms. Sabety should also contemplate why it is that if Israel has transformed into
Nazi Germany, as she claims, that the Israelis have made a regular practice of releasing
the vast majority of detained Palestinians within a few hours or days of arrest.
She should be aware that the usual Nazi approach for dealing with Jews did not involve
any effort to identify those engaged in resistance.
The Nazis favored a mix of systematic slaughter with slave labor camps where inmates
typically died or were killed within months.
* Farsi teacher in Chicago
Is it possible to post this? I'm looking for a Farsi teacher in Chicago or Northwest
Indiana, to meet once a week or several times a month.
Thanks very much,
Do you know who this person is and if she is Iranian?
* Lighten up
As a matter of habit I do not send my replies to individuals who have attacked
my writings to Iranian.com's comment section [Taa
abad]. However, to be perfectly honest the mischievous part of me was accounting
on Mr. Najdi and a few others to blast me. [So-called poem fails
to be a poem]
Let me explain why. I had memorized a few e-mails from people who had blasted
me a few months ago in response to my comments that "my man has teeth like emeralds"
or "I wish I was a cab and got picked up with bunch of women in it" was
not poetry. They called me names and said I did not understand the concept of modern
artistry and used foul language to scare me.
I happened to find out that they had done the same to a few other readers who
had criticized the lady's poem. So those gang members fail to get the best of me
and I simply ignored their comments such as "you suck".
I do not know what language Mr. Najdi speaks but to the best of my recollection
as a person who attends many Iranian cultural functions the words mazhar aramesh
is used all the time. Mazhar symbolizes the ultimate expression.
Also, tamana is a widely used word in Persian language as well. Perhaps he does
not use the word "raze eshgh" and instead prefers to use "secret of
my loving". I also find it fascinating that some of us Iranian just analyze
and draw a complete conclusion about a person without knowing them personally.
If this gentleman knew anything about me (I am well known in the community that
I live because of my dedication to work on behalf of many Iranian cause or organizations)
he would never assume that I "attempted" to write this piece.
I am one of the most natural and spontaneous human beings and therefore, only
write or do things that do not require effort on my part. I truly believe in the
Persian expression that "har anche keh azz dell bar ayad barr dell nesheenad".
I do not try to use my educational background to use the correct technique. I simply
write what is on my mind and that goes for the articles or stories I write as well.
I am not looking for seal of approval from anybody. I simply wanted to share my
feelings and have received many beautiful and encouraging comments form readers.
I have tremendous respect for contrasting point of views and find them quite refreshing
and challenging. However, let's keep our personal frustrations out of what we write
and genuinely address what we do not like instead of resorting to such idiotic remarks
like "off the wall attempts".
If Mr. Najdi is ever fortunate enough to get out of his castle of empty intellectual
words, he may discover as one American who happens to have a degree in English Literature
wrote to me (in response to one of my articles):The best writings are those that
are inspired by true feelings. You can feel their pain and joy.
Lighten up Mr. Najdi and simply enjoy a person's expression of her feelings. I
am not your student and for your information in my college days in Iran many of my
professors thought my poems were from the heart and encouraged me to write more.
Your opinion does not matter but I did not want to ignore you because, I did not
want you to think that you or you kind can scare me easily.
* So-called poem fails to be a poem
I would like to say a few words about a poem I ran into tonight by Azam Nemati,
abad". I usually read your poetry and literature section and consider
myself to be a Persian literary enthusiast. I was astounded to find such an insult
to our literature after centuries of the highest quality poetry.
Ms. Nemati's so-called poem fails to be a poem at all for several reasons... it
doesn't even fit the "Classical" or "No-ghodamaaii" category.
It obviously lacks imagination and creativity, there are out-dated expressions that
have literally vanished or should vanish from the face of modern poetry:
"Mazhare Aramesh", "Tamannaye Daroon", "Raaze Eshgh",
"Sher-e masti", and etc. These ultra-sentimental and superficial expressions
weigh nothing on the reader's mind and even worse they do not trigger an ounce of
emotion! Additionally, this piece does not belong to any poetic genre, it's not classical
or traditional, there are off the wall attemps to create rhymes which are just pathetic
such as "nahayat" and "hasrat"... and no "mizane arouzi"
or harmony of verses in terms of rythme and number of syllabi....and it's obviously
not a modern or contemporary piece due to it being devoid of a language, theme, or
form that would resonate with this century or even the previous one...
In all sincerity, I would ask of all poetry enthusiasts not to mistake their appreciation
of literature with actual "talent".
Best Regards to you all,
* Very original
Dear Moe, [From:
One of the most brilliant and unique ideas I have seen here was your article. Most
of us, while reading the letter section, only murmur a word or two about the comments
people send to the magazine and might agree with or get upset, but sitting behind
the computer and writing what comes to your mind after reading the comments ( all
63 of them published in one issue, mind you) was to me very original.
I was already a fan of your cartoons
and now am looking forward to see more of your writings as well.
* God knows what they would do if they actually had any power
Mansoor Jan, I read your article "One-way
ticket". I can't help wonder if you are going to buy the one-way ticket
from your own pocket or do they allow you to expense it. It seems to me that the
hospitality and refuge that has been offered to you by the American government has
not been all that free and from the goodness of their heart after all, if you are
willing to ride off an individual who simply feels differently from you about the
US foreign policies. With this kind of attitude, we don't need Jews or Arabs to be
our enemy we are doing a pretty good job at it ourselves.
But on a more serious notes, I wonder why is it that so many of us are so quick
to resort to insult or wish to eliminate the other side just because they have a
different view points on things. I read so many articles by Iranians on this site
by that is either full of insult or they want to kick the opposition out of this
country. God knows what they would do if they actually had any power. As a person
who has been subjected to torture and imprisonment by a dictator regime, I would
have hoped that at least you would have more appreciation for an open dialog and
Also, I often wonder why is it that so many of us (and perhaps you) hate Arabs
so passionately. Is it because of Palestinians cheering during Iraqi invasion of
Iran, or perhaps we blame the current regime on them? And then I wonder how many
of these "Arab haters" took arms and fought in that war (I did and there
is not one ounce in me that was pro regime) or how do they feel about the US role
in that conflict and all the support that the US government gave to Iraq (I have
a coworker/friend here that flew reconnaissance flight for Iraqis during the Iran-Iraq
war). And about the current regime in Iran, I feel so many of us are sitting here
in the comfort of our homes in broad and we say "lengesh kon" what happened
to take responsibility for our own action, wasn't it us that allowed the "Akhonda"
to become so powerful?
So, I know that our hate for Arabs has a deeper root, however I don't think hate
is the answer. So I like to ask, does the cheering of Palestinians some 10 years
ago, justify the humiliation, murder and occupation that is being brought to them
by Israelis? And finally, in your article you claim to be Iranian yet a devoted US
citizen, and I can't help wonder, which side are you going to be on if and when US
attacks Iran? After all, you swear to take arms for US during your ceremony, didn't
* Passing the buck
Ms. Nedjat, [There are many philanthropists around]
As I was skimming over your letter to iranian.com, somehow i read it as "you
are a geda" and "you are begging like a geda." How could this be,
I thought?! esp. coming from a sociologist. I was so outraged, and upon reading it
more carefully, I was happily surprised at my mistake. :) [Dear
One point though about philanthropists - they certainly have their place. I don't
know about JJ, but if i were in his (semi-desparate!) place, i think $10 from a 100
readers would be worth a lot more than a lot more from a few deep-pocketed people.
Traditionally we've always looked to others to do our bidding -- passing the buck,
as it were. It's a damning attribute of our collective character, i'm afraid. ...
in many aspects of our culture.
Glad you'll be chipping in your $ check along with your "$0.02". And i
promise to take JJ for a beer one of these days -- my treat, of course.
* Befamaayid maatahteshoono bezarand tooye aab sard!
Merci baraaye website binazir, baa vojood inhameh moshkelaate maali, site shomaa
har rouz behtar va behtar mishavad, marhabaa va dast khodaa be hamraah. [Dear
Lotfan az taraf man be aghaaye Hassan Farzin (ke az dast shomaa,
PBS, Mossadegh va aaghaye Hamid Akbari fogholaadeh asabaani
hastand) befamaayid maatahteshoono bezarand tooye aab sard!
* All my PBS donations
Hi there, [Dear
I just want to extend my appreciation for the great job and service you guys have
been doing for our community. I have decided to send all my donations (not a whole
lot) that typically goes to PBS and NPR.
I will also make a donation each time Mrs. Setareh
Sabaty publishes a politically or socially motivated article. I enjoy her
work tremendously, wheatear I agree with it or not.
So many thanks to all of you.
* For that fact alone
I just finished reading Mr. Hamid Akbari's "Icon
of democracy". Simply put Dr. Mossadegh helped Iran a lot. The
Pahlavi Dynasty will go down in history as the most barbaric family in the history
Both Reza Shah and Mohammed Reza Shah arrested Mossadegh. For that fact alone
the Pahlavi family should never be able to return to Iran.
Peyman Allen Alagheband
New York, New York
* That is my choice
I am a little bit disapointed with the people who use the cause and effect logical
reasoning to prove their own point of view but fail to follow the rule completely
in regards to someone elses opinon [One-way
If a person has been granted visa or permission to stay in the United States it
is reasonable for that person to admire the United States for giving him/her a refuge.
This follows the cause and effect rule.
But, the same person gives himself/herself the right to tell someone else to obtain
a one way ticket and leave this place if she/he is not happy with being an American.
First of all, if a person chooses not be an American for one day, that is her/his
choice, it does not mean she/he has to leave the states. If U.S is the place were
there is a freedom of experssion, then every person has the right to say what they
If I am unhappy with the U.S foreign policy, I will choose to say I am not proud
to be an American. May be, the poor foreign policy practices of the U.S has caused
me to express my displeasure with being an American. That is my choice. I may or
may not want to leave and who the heck is anyone to tell me to get a one way ticket.
As long as I shall live, I will try my best to influence a change through peacefull
BTW, the reason most of us Iranian-American are here in the U.S can be traced
to the fact that our nationalist prime minister whom by the way wanted monrachy to
remain but not rule was overthrown by then again wrong foreign policy of U.S. Dr.
Mosadegh was not able to continue with his reforms to build a democratic society
for Iran, where most of us would like to have stayed if we had the choice.
So, I will say this once, just because you get a paycheck here, it doesn't mean
you have to kiss their ass.
P.S: MS. Sabety [Today,
I am a Palestinian] does not need my defence but I am a little bit upset
with the person writing and telling her to get a one way ticket to palestine. May
be she doens't want to.
* 'Icon of Democracy' he is not
Scrolling down the page reading Mr. Akbari's article [Icon
of democracy], I thought here we go again. Yet another person blinded by
hero worship and blessed with wilful ignorance. When I got to the end of the article
I was surprised (only mildly) that the writer is apprently an academic.
I have no quarrel with Mosaddegh being portrayed as a patriot fighting for Iranian
independence. But an 'Icon of Democracy' he is not.
Mr. Akbari's reference to documents demonstrating Mossadegh to have been the most
popularly elected Iranian leader stems either from ignorance or wishful thinking.
Mossadegh was not elected democratically to the post of Prime Minister. He was appointed
by the Shah. Mossadegh probably had a great deal of support in the Majlis but that
would hardly make him a democratically elected leader.
A person does not become an icon of democracy just because we admire him. Especially
a person like Mossadegh who proceeded to suspend the Majlis when it no longer was
as cooperative as necessary. And really, comparing Mossadegh with the likes of Mandela
and Gandhi or Martin Luther King is just plain stupid. Perhaps this is testament
to the dearth of great political and moral figures in the recent history of Iran.
Mossadegh was much closer to Nasser of Egypt or numerous Third World nationalists
who came after him in that period of time. Mossadegh's fight was on a much more limited
moral landscape than the personalities mentioned by Mr. Akbari. The likes of Mandela
and Martin Luther King Jr. fought on a scale of morality much more vast than the
standard nationalistic, at times cynical, 'liberation movement' type of struggle
led by Dr. Mossadegh. I would still call him a patriot, but never a democrat.
* Lunch on me
Dear Iranian.com (I mean, of course, you the person, but I know you more as iranian.com....if
you know what I mean...), [Dear
What to say or do in response to your editorial? I cannot follow the example of
the person who went to Tashkent, because the second or third or fourth cannot be
the first. That is, he who takes the first step, alone, cannot gather other first-steppers
around him, only (perhaps courageous) followers.
I cannot trump her gesture by being incredibly magnanimous, because my wife and
I have decided those groups and causes that need our help the most right now, and
(forgive me) you don't quite "make the cut". I cannot offer my services
pro bono on a regular basis, as I am trying to serve my family, an international
charity, a local facility our church built, a national non-profit that is just getting
off the ground...oh, and my regular job (almost forgot). All that
I can do is to offer the following:
1. The assurance that there are MANY who feel that the website you run is of truly
superb quality -- informative, bold, varied, and comprehensive, and who await each
edition with real anticipation, even if other demands mean that we can only glance
at it quickly and then move on.
2. A standing offer that if you are ever in my neighborhood (downtown DC weekdays,
Columbia, MD the rest of the time), lunch is on me.
* If it were not for your site
It was very nice of you to thank the person who contributes to your site monthly
Solitary Donor]. Even I was touched by it!!!! It shows your soft side. :o)
As for the guilt trip...yes...I did feel guilty for a moment, but then realized
that I, like you have money problems. Hopefully one day I can afford to contribute
to your site, but for now, I thought atleast a Thank You is in order.
I have to say that I never would have met such interesting people and learned
so much about our culture if it were not for your site. I may not agree with everything
posted on your site, but that's the beauty of it. It makes it that much more interesting.
We Iranians are a rainbow. :o)
* Readers cannot (and should not) fund your wishes
Dear Mr. Javid, [Dear
For many many years, I used to contribute much to our local PBS station every
year. I liked many of the programs they had on the air, and I thought I owed the
funds to them as my share of the enjoyment and information I was getting from that
operation. What I have recently found is rather disheartening. The PBS system as
a whole, and our local station, have been spending money like a "drunken sailor."
They must be paying outrageous sums to themselves and people who were performing
What I had considered a public supported organization for public's good, has turned
into an organization supporting Hollywood characters' lifestyles that no one else
is willing to pay for, and who think they have access to a deep pocket. I wised up,
and I concluded that every business has, and must operate, in two sides of the balance
sheet: Revenues, and Expenses. These people at the local PBS station (and the national
PBS operations) only wanted us, the viewers, as participants in the revenue side;
and they would tell us nothing about the expense side.
What happens to the funds that the viewers voluntarily contribute, such as how
they are spent, was never discussed and no detail was provided to the viewers (i.e.,
the people who would paying the bills.) In addition, it looked like the PBS system
was doing as much advertising, albeit in a different form, as the commercial stations.
After viewing a couple of terrible programs (with a lot of advertising, in a no
commercial station) which were based on some stupid reporter's ideas and conclusions
(all factually wrong, in my learned opinion), I concluded that I wanted no part of
a partnership between PBS and myself in which I am only a "patsy;" you
know, "give me your money, and I will do good with it" type of operation.
After reading your piece in iranian.com [Dear
Solitary Donor], I remembered the same experience. Contribution of a few
dollars a month, as far as I am concerned, is a small change, provided that the readers
are not categorized as the "patsies" for your or your organization's goals,
who are only good to give money, and you do your thing, whatever that is.
I suggest that if you want to receive donations of cash from readers as your supporters
and partners to operate iranian.com, you should be frank and honest with them and
give the readers (me as an example) the exact detail of the operations, on both sides
of the equation. Readers cannot (and should not) fund your wishes, aspirations, and
your political ideals and or ambitions. It does not work that way.
Good luck to you.
* I will have his ass kicked -- if I find him
You need to call the men in the white coat to take this imbecile away and lock
him up for good. [What
are men made of?] What hole has he been living in? If that is his idea of
a joke then, it is a very stupid one. What girl in the right mind will want to talk
to a looser that will settle with "e-mails"? This is an insult to Iranian
women and God is my witness if I find out his identity I will have his ass kicked
for being so stupid. Iranian men are too intelligent (even the uneducated ones) to
come up with such absurd request.
* You should be proud
That was a nice gesture on your part [Dear
Solitary Donor]. Humbleness is the best quality in any person. You showed
how humble you are. That is indeed commendable. You are doing a fantastic job &
you deserve some kind of a reward. If it takes place with a cash, so much the better.
How else one can show his/her appreciation to your dedication & hard work, from
You should be proud of your work. Ok. you get some criticism once in a while,
but that is a part of the game. Nobody is immune to criticism, even GOD him/her self.
Wish you long life, good health & success in keeping up the Iranian on the
* Right words in right times
I read another short story of a new writer in Iranian.com called "Nima".
The first story by him that I read in Iranian.com was "Sarhangaane
This is to let you know that I really enjoy reading this new writer short stories.
His stories are well structured, short and effective. Mr. Payam Rafighi knows how
to use right words in right times in his short stories. Although he seems to be a
young man, but he has some deep roots in the Iranian culture. I hope we see more
of him in Iranian.com
* Mossadegh was a disgrace
Dear Dr. Akbari, [Icon
I do not know who you are, and if you have first hand knowledge of who Mossadegh
really was and what he did (actually, what he did not do). But calling Mossadegh
an "icon of democracy" is a slap in the face of the entire democratic movement
in the world. This guy's entire period of prime minister-ship was done under "marshal
law," and consisted of beating, intimidating and killing opposition; his own
street demonstrations with the support of "club holding" street gangs (ask
Shaaban!), and finally closing of Majles, the same Majles that he himself had organized
its elections, and the same Majles that had voted for his prime minister-ship, and
without whose vote he could not gain that position. Even Shaaban Jafari in his recent
book confesses that he was originally one of Mossadegh's thugs to beat up his political
Mossadegh was a disgrace, and was responsible for not only the demise of the great
nation of Iran, but perhaps the entire unfortunate outcome of the middle east politics
over the past five decades. He was the first one who founded the politics of "blame
some one else for your mistakes" in Iran, and it was spread to other Middle
East politicians who took it to heart. He is the one, I argue, who taught the Nasser
of Egypt, and the rest of the rising Arab politicians, the politics of demagoguery,
and in turn caused the entire Palestine to go down the drain because of Nasser's
stupidity. Nasser, like Mossadegh, did not understand that demagoguery could not
last forever, and the lies and exaggerations hidden in them would finally surface.
Fortunately for Iran, Mossadegh's outside "enemies" were nations who
had better sense and understandings of the world than to hold the entire population
responsible for acts of a "nut" as prime minister. Egypt, and the rest
of the Arab world, were not that lucky: Nasser's outside enemy was Israel.
You have called Mossadegh an "exemplary leader," I assume because you
do not understand the meaning of leadership. Otherwise, how is it that an exemplary
leader pushes an ancient and wealthy country into bankruptcy in less than two years
taking office, and at a time that most Iranians did not have enough food to eat,
and were dying from all sorts of diseases in thousands, including Malaria?
Your comparison of Mossadegh with Thomas Jefferson is the most outrageous, and
shows your lack of knowledge of personality of neither men. You must not know who
Thomas Jefferson was, otherwise you could not possibly compare him with Mossadegh.
As I indicated earlier, and the history has recorded, Mossadegh's 27 month rule was
accompanied by Marshal Law, closing of Majles, and beating and killings of opposition,
among many other non democratic initiatives he and his cohorts made. May be you can
clarify how these acts compare with similar Jeffersonian actions?
Regarding Nationalization of the Oil Industry, I remind you that Mossadegh was
the one who ONLY cut off the flow of oil, while speaking of nationalization; the
real nationalization of oil industry did not come until later, when the stable government
in Tehran took some control of the oil flow, and entered into reasonable contracts
with oil companies. It was after that initiatives that formation of OPEC was possible,
and nationalization of oil reserves in the rest of the Middle East and elsewhere
took place. I sure hope that you are better prepared in your subject of teaching
than you are in writing historic pieces for inter-net magazines.
It is disheartening to see that Chairman of a Management Department of a U.S.
University cannot separate real democratic activity and statesmanship from a fraud
like Mossadegh. Talk of management reminds me that Mossadegh's management style (if
you could call sleeping in his bed under a blanket all the time a management style!)
was so bad that he could not even pay government workers and state obligations for
months at a time. Regarding Mossadegh's leadership capabilities: it is suffice to
say that he could not select and keep coworkers with even slightest knowledge and
understanding of what they are supposed to do.
I am sure you know some of his political partners by now: his "closest"
political partners were the politicians who delivered Iran to a bunch of illiterate
mullahs in 1979, including Bazargan, Sahabi, Sanjabi, Foruhar, etc., etc. These,
and their new help, are the same people who are still fighting for recognition, 23
years after being given the government in "silver plate". These people
are not even convinced that they did anything wrong; they do not understand the magnitude
of the damage they have inflicted on this ancient country. These are things that
I know for a fact; what do you know for a fact? I suggest that you write only about
subjects that you know!
* Abuse is not an Iranian speciality
Dear S.M., [What
are men made of?]
Abuse is not an Iranian speciality. Many western men and women indulge in domestic
abuse. The reasons are extremely complex and you would do well to read a few books
on the subject rather than rely on the t.v to provide scenarios.
Abusers generally do not admit to their wrongdoing and therefore I doubt you will
hear from true abusers. Many abusers watched their mothers get beaten up by their
fathers. It is the only model they ever saw for conflict resolution.
* I also don't feel sorry for them
You do hang out with the wrong crowd. [What
are men made of?]
This has nothing to do with the nationality of the individuals who abuse their spouses.
Please don't generalize. I lived in Tennessee for 11 years. I can write a book about
the cases that I witnessed or heard about similar to this case when the abusers were
non-Iranians. You would not believe how many times I asked myself "why is this
girl staying with him when he treats her this badly?"
For a while, I even thought that American women loved to be treated badly. I do
not want to blame it on the women. I just have to tell you that I have had some really
nice male friends who were single for a long time and could not find a mate due to
their non-aggressive personalities, inability to earn large sum of money, or their
average physical appearances. Again, I don't blame these women but I also don't feel
sorry for them either. They chose to marry these psycos for whatever reason. Be careful
in finding your mate.
Learn from these people's mistakes and make a right choice.
* Another extremist
I am an Iranian man, who is proud not only to be a man but also to be an Iranian.
You never know how did I feel when I red your letter on Iranian.com "What
are men made of?"
Dear friend it's very hard for some one like me, who has never cheated any women
or abused any creatures in his life to read article about people who still practice
those barbaric behaviors. I felt sorry for your and for your friends. Why for you,
because you have a very bad stereotypic view toward men, especially Iranian men.
Have you ever happened to take a look at other cultures and see how do they behave
with their wives and children? I bet you never did. You belong to those groups of
people, who only interacts with Iranian but after all don't keep the faith with them.
You are one of those "Iranian-Americans", who from being Iranian only knows
how to go to "Chelo Kababi" and Iranian music concerts.
Those people you saw are not Iranian, they are Iranian-American and there is a
great distance to be Iranian like me, and being Iranian-American like them. I don't
want to say that there are no abusive men in today's' Iran; yes there are plenty
of them but beside those we have got so many nice men, family men. It is not right
to stereotype people. Being Iranian does not mean to be abusive. We are a nation
of roughly 80 million people and among as there are goods as well as bad ones.
I am an Iranian man, simple and pure. Being in long distance relationship for over
2 years now with my girlfriend. I have not even thought about cheating on her and
people around me think I am a gay, who can stands 2 years without his girlfriend
.The destiny separated us 2 years ago but I refused to give up. Since then I have
done nothing to be consider cheating. I went with no other girls and refused to have
any relationship what so ever. Also I have never ever raised hand to hit or abuse
any one. So how was that, am I still in your black list, or made you change your
mind about Iranians! I really hope so.
* There are many philanthropists around
You are not "geda" my dear Jahanshah ["Dear
Solitary Donor"]. Since you signed to your readers, "Love, Jahanshah."
I allow myself to call you "my dear." You are not begging like a "geda,"
you are "Fundraising." We must somehow adapt to this new culture of civil
society, campaigning, and fundraising. I know it's hard when it comes into acting
Do you remember the old days? What the wonderful meaningful gesture of the Iranian
saying used to be expressed by people who had a lot of dignity? I used to hear about
someone who had a lot of pride to become aggressive enough to ask for his promotion
rights from the boss. Migoftand, "Baa sili sourate khodesho sorkh negah midaare."
Well my dear those days are over. We read your page that you have made available
to us, working 12 to 15 hours a day. I know you must enjoy it very much. But, who
is going to pay for the bills? You either have to keep making us feel guilty not
to be the "free riders" or you have to apply for a big chunk of grant so
you can at least pay yourself. I hope you read my essay report that I wrote about
"How to own your NGO." There are many philanthropists around. Why don't
you ask Mr. Pier Omidyar?
I remember when I was living in the East Coast there were many articles written
in the "Iranian" publication that he likes to help out the Iranian community.
I You should not feel guilty asking our fellow Iranian-American to help the community,
after all, we are a recent immigrants and it will take a while before we adapt and
assimilate into this new culture. I am a sociologist and I truly believe in consciousness
raising among the local community. Our locality pertains to be the reader of your
And, you are doing a great job. I as an Iranian-American am proud of you bright
dedicated education lovers. Well, I guess praising you with words doesn't work. My
check is on its way.
Your Dedicated Reader --
Fatima Farideh Nedjat, M.A.
* Ask the women
Dear S.M., ["What
are men made of?"]
Let me introduce myself. I am Behnam 23(almost 24) and it has been 1 year that
I have been here pursuing my studies here in UCLA. Sorry if there are mistakes in
my English. I read your article in Iranian.com and telling the truth I was very offended.
I think that in analyzing any problem or question especially the ones related to
social relationships it is very bad to make zero one decisions or statements. although
as you say it is a very common and shameful act among men to beat their partner but
you should never look at things black and white. first of all I think that more than
education family that a person is grown is more important and more than that the
way that a person develops his/her mind and thoughts. Among my many friends that
I have had in Iran and here in US I see very few that even let themselves to think
about using force against their partner.
Adding to all this I think that if not half of the problem a large portion of
the problem goes back to women themselves if you don't fight for your own rights
and if you don't value them men won't! if you were in Iran you could say that the
rules are again women and that is true the rules in Iran are extremely biased toward
men. but here in states. I think giving reasons like he would follow me or my son
are not good enough.
As a person if I am in relationship with someone the first minute that I see any
acts from her (in case of women this can be him) that I feel is inappropriate I wouldn't
bear it. I think that as parents and specially mothers you should teach your children
to be powerful and don't let others force them anything. this others can be parents
friends boyfriend, classmate anything. although I am completely against these acts
by men and I am partly ashamed of their act but I also blame women who are victims
of those acts.
So I think that at the end of your next article not only ask for men who beat
their wives for their comments but ask the women who are beaten by their partner
to explain the reasons I think that this way a whole new prospective would arise.
* I could not have put it better
I just wanted to say "Thank You" to Saman
and his cute and witty (and so true!) cartoon called "Tell your stupid kids
the stupid truth!" I am not Irani, but an Irani friend e-mailed me the cartoon.
I could not have put it better.
Keep up the good work, and thanks!
* Hang on to your culture
If I looked very hard in the whole world I could not find bigger lies. [Response
to what article?]
This is written by an asshoile jew looking for his whore mother under the banner
of freedom. Choosing the right mate is the first principle of happiness.
Under the banner of freedom, the White man killed all the Americannatives,demolished
their culture, stole all their land, stripped them of any human rights (forced treaties),
enslaved all the Blacks , put all Japanese(American born) in prison camps (of cource
we are fighting the Germans, but no German was arrested or put in prison like the
In Mexico all the native where totaly smashed and they were robbed of every thing
( land, culture, heritage, religionand history) ,and in south Ameria and Africa the
CRIMES are unspeakable. Is this what you want a world Westernman justice, it is only
for the WASPs not for you stupid. Get wise hang on to your culture and make it better.
Mr Hot Chemist
* Rethink your dating strategies
That was a great piece! ["What
are men made of?"] It's sad how some Iranians just seem to feel obligated
to ruining the image of other Iranians and men who don't have enough integrity to
keep their fists to themselves when it comes to their loved ones or women in general.
But you must also realize a few things. One of them being that most women who
end up in abusive relationships, have some sort of psychological issues themselves.
It's not like they saw the guy get angry and were afraid to leave. Most of the time,
they're attracted to that sort of attitude. It's sad, but very true.
Most men surely don't hit their women on the first date or within the first few
weeks or months of knowing them. If these women end up with abusive men, that shows
that they have a problem with analyzing people's personalities and they have a hard
time finding or attracting decent men. Which in and of itself could mean that mabye
they need to make certain improvements to their way of life or the places where they
go to meet guys.
Now, if all of you are having that problem then all of you need to really do some
soul-searching and think about the places where you go and why you've gotten attracted
to those men in the first place.
But, to deny yourself of the right to analyze and simply feel sorry for yourself
and your friends, and choose to run from any Iranian man you meet, is a very weak
solution. That's just running away from the issue. See what the problem is? Has it
ever occured to you that maybe your friends find some strange sick comfort in being
abused? It's true, many abused women do feel that way. They automatically get attracted
to guys who abuse them.
So, you don't want an abuse husband, boyfriend, then rethink your dating strategies
and where you go to meet guys.
* Hard to remember every month
Ba salam, ["Dear
I think we should absolutely support Iranian. com just as PBS listeners and Salon.com
reader etc do. Not because we are helping YOU, but because we want to support what
we believe in, and enjoy. SO first of all don't feel personal about it. like you
are begging . You are doing all of us a huge favor for putting this site together
day in and day out.
I help the Child foundation every month. They make it very easy for me. They send
me a bill and I pay it along with others. Your web site donation link (if I am not
mistaken) is a one time thing . It is hard to remember to go to it every month. I
suggest you think of a way we could help every month by receiving a bill, a reminder,
whatever. It is all about ease of use in minimum amount of time.
Please keep on doing the great job, we HAVE to find a way to support this site.
* Bug the bejeeberz out of me
You know what? It was about time for you to start complaining! ["Dear
You are right! We--all 159,999 of us--are full of hot air! I for one have been
reading this publication quite a bit. I do find it a free forum of expression, which
for any Iranian affiliated entity is quite a mouthful.
On occasion I have written in response to things I have read here, and eerily
you published an article I wrote about Afghanistan on Aug. 30, 2001 ["Too
much time to think"], only twelve days before it was ominously the day
when the chickens unattended since Bush seniors days, came back home to roost and
lay that big ugly egg in New York!
I feel it matters what we think. I think it matters that you publish our expressions
and thoughts. I think in all this time I made one donation to this publication. So,
it is time for us to not just pretend we are a community and become one. I pay my
local public radio on time, why not do the same with the one place that has given
my desperate Iranian side a voice!
If I do not start contributing regularly, please feel free to bug the bejeeberz
out of me to get on the ball! We can not and should not lose our voice. Do not let
it go to you head, but you have given a lot of us a voice. Do not publish my name.
It depletes all the sincerely from my comments. I will just pay my dues! Take care
and remember, sometime begging is the noblest way of existence. Gothama Buddha did
it, why not JJ?...
* Nagging can be much worse
Mrs. S.M., ["What
are men made of?"]
You are the one who things "Western-educated husbands are broad minded men".
Be careful, you are capable of being decieved by them.
Nagging can be much worse than beating. Are you listening to me? NAGGING CAN BE MUCH
WORSE THAN BEATING. What's the difference between a physical and a mental tortures.
If you are really worry about them you should ask them to divorce because this is
the hell that they are making for each other. I don't think that their kids deserve
to live in that fucking family.
* Republic of Kashmir
This in response to your newspaper's recent coverage of the South Asian conflict
[They are coming]:
In the conflict between India and Pakistan we have been hearing a lot about Pakistan's
support of the Kashmiri militants.
Militarily weak separatist movements do once in a while need outside help to throw
off the subjugators. How else are you supposed to get yourself free when the party
enslaving you is not letting you have any power to fight?
Didn't the US seek France's help in getting rid of the British? The core of the
problem is not cross-border terrorism (as Indians would like the world to believe)
but India's suppression of the Kashmiris that in turn has resulted in widespread
Is the world willing to address the underlying problem of this conflict? Am I
ever going back to an independent Republic of Kashmir?