Souri

تا لحظه مرگ به زندگ بینیش

چرا مرگ خود را رقم میزنی

تو اینطور بر خود قلم میزنی

بیا و چو خیام بنگر به خود

که تا حط بطلان بر غم زنی

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اگر من بمیرم بگوید اوی

بمردست از خوردن لنگ قوی

و با اینکه با چند پیاله شراب

در آغوش یارش بگردید خواب

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مگر اینکه این رهبران جهان

بدوزند لبهای من بر زبان

ویا اینکه این کله ام را برند

واز آن کمی کله پاچه خورند

چه گویم اگر این سزای من است

زبان و سرم طعمه دشمن است

Dear Souri and Jaleho...

Dear Souri and Jaleho,

Thank you for your comments. Souri jan let me clarify this: I am a woman.
Jaleh jan I don't see myself as anything out of the ordinary... perhaps if anyone here had had to deal with severe illness since the age of 4 and had coped with the numerous ups and downs of living my kind of life.... I really think most others would turn the other check for the unpredicted more to come too... The last major surgery I had I was almost sure I would not survive. The survival rates were not that promising. I had put all my papers in order and had told a close friend of how I want everyone not to mourn and not to wear black -- I left a letter to my aunt on the details of how to take care of my mom.......
I had said goodbye to everyone big and small in my heart......
I went under anesthesia with a smile .... lo and behold... I woke up quite astonished at still being here!!

The truth is I do love life... but if it's my time to go... well then so be it. The only thing is I wish I could do more of the things that I enjoy...
But you never know... there is always something new popping up on this horizon of ours!!

My Best to all.

PS. Sometimes people tend not to believe what they read, let me assure you this is my true story.

Dear 7--, GREAT POST!!

I have a feeling that after each of the 4 times, you managed to appreciate the rest of your life 4-times more than usual. Now count how many times more than the near-death-free individual you've appreciated your life; subtract the pain that you went through each time, and I am sure in the final analysis, you're ahead. one never enjoys things which are taken for granted as much. Why am sure that you're ahead?

IT JUST JUMPS OUT OF THE SCREEN!

Live long and happy, and remember to go for my style of end of life, the other you've already learned how to beat.

Thanks

Dariush-Kabir: What a peaceful death! May his soul rest in peace, what a strong man was your father.

7--: You ar a vary strong man. I admire your positive outlook.

Abaramard jan: Thank you (but you didn't answer the question :-))

Mehman aziz: You left us with irrevocable decision! You never show up. Then you blame us for having forgotten you? You are always in my mind dear. (How would you like to die? :-))

Dear souri

I think i would like to die like my father,he was good and healthy and one early morning he wake up and asked my mom can you bring my box he had a wooden box for his paper and his belongings,so he gave a few documents and other things to my mom then locked the box again and ask my mother to send some one for my older brother to come here he was about 5 minutes away from our house when he came my father gave him the key for the wooden box and start saying ashhad,all takes about 20 minutes.he was 83 when he passed away.

سوریا !

سوریا از مرگ می پرسی گل خندان شاد

می کشی مهمان و زو هیچت نمی آید به یاد

Souri jan

I am not afraid

Thank goodness none of you present here seem to have Major medical problems that you've been dealing with almost all of your life...
If that were the case, your thoughts would perhaps be entirely different. I am 41 and have "almost" died a number of times(4)... I hate to see my loved ones suffer the way they have so far; I think especially my mother has suffered more than anyone else....
As for me I am not afraid and I will go when my time arrives. Some family and friends much younger than me, and quite healthy have passed on and often I wonder at the hekmat of life and death. I truly do not feel sorry for myself nor do I regret a moment of its extremely tough times. I sometimes wonder... well if not me, then who? At least I've been able to handle it not too badly so far!
Love and the best to all.

Just a thought!!

Mr. Reza 41,

 I was thinking that it will be nice to see that you and Hazrate NUR (PBUH) and couple of your other pals get together and have a “Mobahele” on this subject matter.

P.S. Sorry Souri khanom! I always ruin your blogs.

dear All

I'm at work now, so trying to abbreviate my comment here.

Dears : Darius, Orang jan, Redwine, Sara jan and Mr Reza41;

Thank you all for your input. Very nice of you.

Farshadjon: You made me Sharmandeh again! Baba jan, doust aziz, between friends, there's no such things as apologies. The more I appreciate someone, the more I'm critical of them !! Paradox! Look how harsh I am with JJ sometimes :-) while God knows I love him so much....Don't worry about that. The past is past.

Ali jan: You are too good with me. How can I thank you ? Yes, there was something happening in my mind. I'm so glad now that I did post this blog and got the confirmation of that good feeling. The feeling of being surrounded by so many good people with so much positive attitude toward life!!

Life is something precious!!

I will talk about that later, longer.

Looking forward to see more input from all friends.

You guys are fabulous!

مرگ خوابیست با دوام

من آخوند ٢زاری هر وقت فکر میکنم میخوام بمیرم ندایی یکتومنی به گوشم می رسه که ای بچه عرب بادمجون بم آفت(عافت) نداره...

Thanks S.J.

Souri Khanom jaan,

I was shocked when I read your blog, but I was reluctant to believe a lady of your status with such a positive algebraic sum of charater would be serious and I delayed my response. Of course we all have up and down days-that is life. So,, you either wroe that blog in one of your down moments or your unusual wisdom asked you to write it to bring up the good sides of so many people as you always do in your blogs. I am happy to see that you succeeded in doing the latter without saying for sure that was your intention. I was really happy to see so many positive attitudes stirred up. A very clever stimulating package!

With the permission from our beloved Saadi I tell you what he would respond to you if he was not so busy. Remember he is not Dead, just too busy!

سوریا زن نکو نام نمیرد هرگز   مرده آنستکه نامش بنکویی نبرند

I am sure that a wise, well-versed and above all human like you knows all the means of coping with death which is nothing, but a pause in the ever-continuing cycle of life. 

khody

در خواب ...

مرسی سوری جون از مطلب جالبی که مطرح کردی .من دوست دارم در ایران و درخواب از دنیا برم.اصلا بیماری و گرفتاری برای اطرافیان نداشته باشم.

Baba, you are so young!!

Souri khanom:

I started this week with your blog on how you would like to die. Personally, I don’t like to be sick or have any kind of accident.

To be honest with you, I don’t want to think that much about death as I have lots of plans for future. You may say, this guy is so selfish but I believe that instead of thinking how and when we are going to die, let’s think how well we can use the remaining time we have to better serve the world.  It sounds like a slogan but really it is better to concentrate on what we left to do instead of thinking negatively.

BTW, I owe you an apology for your last blog.

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دلم می‌خواد در ایران بمیرم... در همان خانه قدیمی‌... شمیران،نیاوران...طبقه بالا،کنار ایوان،پائین هشتی،پهلویه گلدان‌های قدیمی‌ نیلوفر آبی بمیرم.

مرگم از غم نباشه،از دوری نباشه،از جدایی نباشه،از عشق و عذاب نباشه...دلم می‌خواد از دنیا شاد برم،آرام برم،لبخند زنان برم،بی‌ قرض و بی‌ ریا برم... دلم می‌خواد در ایران بمیرم.

Quick

I remeber this post and I wrote this one after : //iranian.com/main/blog/orang-gholikhani-28

I'd like it quick too.

Cheers.

What's the Hurry Souri Jaan ;0)

Souri Jaan

Live Long and Prosper ...

But Do count your Fingers First ... ;0)

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Oh My goodness!

I can't believe so many people have already subscribed themselves!!

Thank you all for giving your ideas.

Monda jan: I added the name of the poet. It is a very well known poem of Frough Farrokhzad.

Dear Mammad: I will tell you the story of my uncle who died exactly the same way, when he was teaching Nuclear Physic at Tehran University.

Khar: Thanks for remembering Samad.

Nazy jaan: Here in Quebec, we have health insurance system. At the back of our health insurance card, there's a question: Are you willing to give your organs after you die?

Once, I sent my husband to get the renewal of the card. He had signed it for me!! I didn't know it. The next day, I told him, oh, my God, I should go get the card by myself, because I must sign for the acceptance of giving my organs. My husband replied: Don't worry, I just singed it for you!! Knowing you, I knew what I should have to do!

 Majid agha: Great idea, please invite me too as a friend :-))

Manouchehr jaan: I don't wish for you die here. I'm sure you will be back home to die over there, my dear.

سوری جان؛

عرقه را به خورد ما دادی و خودت فکر های فلسفی می کنی دختر.  من که بیست و دو سال و چند ماه است که اضافه زندگی می کنم.  بقول زندانیان سیاسی ملی کشی می کنم.  اگر در حال کنونی بروم مرگ زیبایی خواهم داشت.  راه مانده راباید رفت.  هیچگاه نمی خواهم جوان بشوم که به نظر من زمان بلاهت است.

Souri jan, you too?!

That is one of my favorite questions of all times! I mean I have asked myself at different stages of my life and I got to the same answer each and every time: I want to die in my own bed, without knowing when exactly I'd die but having enought time to say my goodbyes and ghorboonet berams. I also have a whole list of favorite scenarios leading to that quiet death, which I won't get into the goary details here.

I have given long thoughts to euthanasia as well as indicated on my will: I have requested 3 closest to me to pull the so called plug, when 2 out of 3 is convinced that it's too much to bear.

I have also requested, to be cremated although the Zoroastrian way of feading to the oghaabs is my second favorite.

BTW whose is that poem at the opening of your blog? I really like it.

I'm ready!

I have lived a full and rich life, without too many regrets. If I learn that this is the day and the moment for me to go, I feel I have done a pretty good job of living, loving life and all those in it to the best of my ability and desire. I have no unsaid "I love you's."

I hope I die a fast death when I’m still independent and capable of laughing out loud and celebrating life. If there is a window of opportunity, just before they pull the plug, I wish all my usable body organs to be given to those who need them (I know my lungs won’t be any good, but I am already happy for the person who receives my heart—it has served me as my best body part yet! A word of caution: my brains won’t be terribly useful, I’m afraid!). I want people to have one hell of a party in lieu of a funeral for me, to dance and sing and play music, to drink multiple shots of Patron (mandatory), and if they can still manage it, I would like them to read Hafez poems at the top of their lungs for me.

The day I die wasn’t today, so until further notice, music, dancing, talking, writing, kissing, hugging, and all means of confessing my love and affection continue on my part—I live everyday as if there is no tomorrow. Bring out the patron and don't forget the lime and the salt!

Jaleh jan

No correction was needed my lady! I laughed so hard when I saw your comment, I seriously agreed with your first sentence!  ;-)

I think we all want to think we made a difference in other people's lives and that they would miss us when we're gone. Or then again maybe that's Mahi Siah koochooloo's words still echoing in my head. Mr Prez quoted him down below.(of course at the time I didn't know what Samad Behrangi meant)

IRANdokht

نوع رفتن خیلی فرق نمیکنه

فقط با درد و رنج طولانی و همینطور با اخم و تَخم اطرافیان همراه نباشه کلّی غنیمته.

والله اگه بخواست من باشه من ترجیح میدم بجای گریه و زاری و چُسناله و روضه و انکرالاصوات و مرده خوری و شیافِ روز قیامت « ببخشید....شفیع روز قیامت» و ...........ازاین جور شامورتی بازی ها.................

یه مشت رفقای با حال جمع بشن و بساط کباب، عرق، ورق، تخته نرد، علوفه جات و داریه و دومبک رو فراهم کنن و بذارن آخرین منظره ای که من میبینم شادی اطرافیان باشه، میدونین چرا؟

مُرده که مُرد و خاک شد    گوزید و حسابش پاک شد

بقیهء وقایع  بعد از مرگ  داستان بی بی گوزَکه...................

Irandokht, I made a correction

by quoting you, so people know which part of your advice they should reverse, not in general what you say ;-)

How do I want to die?

Firsat, I would like to die when my young children are grown up and on their own.

But, how do I want to die? Behind my desk at work or at home, as a result of a massive heart attack or stroke. Just like that. That way, I'll go without any pain, without any worries or pain for my survivors, and with the knowledge that my life was productive until the last moment.

Leon Lapidous was one of the most famous professors of chemical engineering whose work is still used over 32 years after his death. He was at Princeton University. He died the way I described above at Princeton behind his desk. I will envy him in my old age (that is, if I am still around).

Mammad

قصه...

"The little black fish was swimming on the surface of the sea and thinking, "Death could come upon me very easily now. But as long as I'm able to live, I shouldn't go out to meet death. Of course, if someday I should be forced to face death--as I shall--it doesn't matter. What does matter is the influence that my life or death will have on the lives of others . . ."

ماهی سیاه کوچولو - صمد بهرنگی

LOL dashtim Jaleh khanoom?

Do the opposite of what ID tells you?

LOL  that's usually a great advice though ;-)

IRANdokht

Souri jan, do exactly opposite of what

Irandokht tells you to do! Have mercy for the "bazmandegan," adam khodesh ke mimireh, at least make the bazmandegan not feel so sorry for a nice one gone. she said:

"tell your sisters/brothers you love them, tell your kids that you're proud of them, tell your parents you appreciate them, don't break anyone's heart and don't leave good things unsaid. Make sure every one has something nice to remember you by and don't worry about death anymore... "

dear friends

Thanks for giving your views.

Tahirih jan: Knowing your philosophy and spiritual belief, I'm not surprised of your answer. I envoy your strength, honey.

JJ jan: That's also a very important matter, I wish one day you would blog about it. Euthanasia, what people think about that? Wish your aunt get over with this (one way or another)

Jaleho: That's how my grand grand father died. I never knew him. Just heard that he slept one night for not waking up the next day.

Not so bad ;P)  

Gave me an idea !

Irandokht: You will find me very pretentious (I know) but honestly, I feel like I am so much loved by all the people around me (family, friends and even co-workers sometimes!!) which scare me!

Sometimes I ask myself "what will they do if I should die tomorrow?"

You know, it's so good to be good to everyone and feel that everybody loves you, but it's also very scary. I don't know if you see what I mean?

Life's too short

Souri jan

Although it was a well written blog, you got me worried!!

Life's too short to think about death.

We know it's inevitable, we all die some day. Enjoy every minute of every day!

The way I have figured it out for myself: tell your sisters/brothers you love them, tell your kids that you're proud of them, tell your parents you appreciate them, don't break anyone's heart and don't leave good things unsaid. Make sure every one has something nice to remember you by and don't worry about death anymore...

I think we all should think about ghormeh sabzi, ash reshteh and bastani akbar mashti instead :o) 

be gholeh Mr Spock: Live long and prosper

be gholeh Bobby McFerrin: Don't worry be happy! :o)   now keep singing that tune in your head, it's a catchy one!

IRANdokht