Writing about love

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Writing about love
by Tahirih
23-Aug-2009
 

One hot summer day, to be precise, one Friday the thirteenth of August, at about a quarter to three in the afternoon, I experienced the ultimate love , love of a sick mother.

My mother used to spend 6 months of the year with me , here in exile.Since her only daughter could not travel to Iran. Last time that I was pushing her wheelchair to the Gate of her flight she told me, don't cry  Tahirih, I will come back even if I have to crawl to your city.

She left and within couple of months had a stroke that left her with speech problem and memory loss.Last week on that hot summer day , to be precise Augest 13th at 3 in afternoon , she told me in her new style of talking , that she has decided not to come back to live with me. My heart sank, I was speechless, not able to find anything to say. She filled the silence with her stutter, and said I am happy in my home and country, I want to stay.

I had endless nights of crying and despair , why? why she does not want to see me, or die  in my house? have I been a bad daughter? Nothing made sense.

But couple of days ago as I was sitting on her bed, in her empty room in my house which is filled with her memory and presence,  the answer came to me. She had denied herself dying at her only daughter's house , the daughter that God gave her after  four sons, the daughter that she longed to have ,so her daughter is relieved from stress of care giving when she is alone without  the help of her siblings.

She has always loved me differently and now she has shown it once more by sacrificing herself again.

I will love her every waking moment of my life and to the end of time. I know that we will be united in another place , where there will be no more borders, prejudices, or pain.

Tahirih

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faryarm

Nima Hazini ZulF110 Nur > HATE

by faryarm on

Nima Hazini ZulF110 Nur > HATE

Keep falsely accusing the Bahais of what you in fact practice in your own life as demonstrated by your Blogs that contain nothing but lies, accusations and hateful zeal.

Every single Bahai here speaks independently and from their heart and it shows.

You, Nima Hazini-Wahid Azal-Zulfiqar 110

with your hatred, on the other hand  speak from a very dark place 

and it shows.

Nima, where will you end up?

 

 


Multiple Personality Disorder

Very sad

by Multiple Personality Disorder on

...but full of love.


Souri

Beautiful one, Tahirih jan !

by Souri on

Very nice and great display of  true love!

Thank you.


sadchicagodad

Tahirih

by sadchicagodad on

Thank you for your beautiful and touching story.  While your situation is different from ours, you understand just as we do the complete futility in trying to control a situation that is out of our control.  No matter how much you may want your mother to be by your side for the remainder of her time in this world, you cannot force her.  No matter how we may wish that we still had our son with us, there is nothing we can do to make that happen. 

If you don't mind I would like to close by borrowing your beautiful last line for it sums up how Shirin and I feel about our son:

We will love him every waking moment of our lives and to the end of time.  We KNOW that we will be reunited in another place, where there will be no more bordors, prejudices, or pain. 

May God Always Shine His Countenance Upon You


sadchicagodad

Zulfiqar110

by sadchicagodad on

I don't know you and from the hateful tone you used with this fine lady, I feel fortunate not to know you.  Tahirih's purpose wasn't to "soften people up for Baha'i propoganda; she was writing in response to an invitation by Nazy Kaviani to write about love. 

You may be mentally deficient or perhaps, psychotic, but you definately are not a gentleman to address a lady, who has poured out her heart, her soul and her deepest emotions, with such cold and calculating malice.  I wish I could tell you exactly what I thought of you, but if I did my post would be deleted for violating the rules of decorum which apply to this site.  Let me just say in parting, that you are an absolute disgrace...not only to Iranian men, but to men in general.  Why don't you crawl back into that stinking hole in the ground from whence you came?  Your malodorous stench and feculent manner are soiling this site. 


Anvar

There he goes again…

by Anvar on

*Zulfiqar110* - Must you constantly embarrass yourself and defile every other blog on this site?  Did *Tahirih* even elaborate on the reasons why she wouldn’t or couldn’t travel to Iran that you are making such baseless presumptive accusations?

Those who have a heart, appreciate heartfelt blogs.  

Speaking of softening up people, are you trying to soften up *Anonym* here and on his own blog?
//iranian.com/main/blog/anonym/may-you-ha...

Perhaps you’re trying to soften him up along with your “brothers and sisters”, as you put it, before you share your new religion with them?

I challenge you!  Share and promote your self made/proclaimed religion in every one of your posts.  A link would suffice.

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Zulfiqar110

Give us a break!

by Zulfiqar110 on

Anonym,

 

Iranian Baha'is have been travelling back and forth to Iran without any problems or hindrances for years. If this individual really wanted to see her family - provided the story is genuine - she/he could've visited Iran ten times over by now to see her mother before all hell broke loose this last summer.

Consider that such fluffy stories and contrived tear jerkers are really propaganda attempts in disguise designed to manipulate people into sympathy for a certain narrative the organization this individual belongs to wants to peddle elsewhere.

I have a documented history of organized political opposition to the Islamic republic. I am also an ex-Bahai and a vocal Bayani and defender of Sufism as an alternative Islamic discouse to that of the mullahs. I had not been to Iran since 1979. Yet in 2003 I went there by myself - and NOT with any Iranian passport either - and was left completely alone, totally unmolested. Granted Khatami was still president, but if I could go there without problems in 2003, don't tell me this individual or her fellow Baha'is who have money coming out of their ears would have problems re-connecting with family in Iran. That is utter poppycock!

Also why hasn't this person written this story about herself here before? Don't be duped by these people. This is nothing but a manipulative story to soften people up for the Baha'i propaganda.


Anonym

I hope that one day ...

by Anonym on

you, like other good Iranians in exile could go back and visit Iran in comfort and security.

 

Regards.


Anvar

So Wise…

by Anvar on

*Tahirih* - It is so wise of you to have recognized your mother’s wish as yet another self-sacrifice on her behalf.  Because of your feelings for her, you have also made a sacrifice to be content not to have her by your side as often.  Strong love always transcends long distances and peculiar circumstances.

Anvar


Ali P.

Thank you soooooo much...

by Ali P. on

for sharing this story with us.

 

Yours,

Ali P.