An eye for an eye would make the whole world blind. -- Mahatma Gandhi
I am deeply disturbed by the thought that Ameneh Bahrami might be personally partaking in a retribution culture that Ghandi spoke against. In 2004 Ameneh suffered a very vicious acid attack in Iran by a suitor whom she had turned down multiple times. She lost both eyes, and much of her face as a result of this horrific attack and has spent the last 6 years of her life in hospitals where she has undergone 19 reconstructive surgeries. I cannot begin to imagine the magnitude of physical and psychological pain and suffering caused by such an this experience that alters one's life forever. I admire her will to live and bravely undergo multiple procedures to restore and reconstruct her face in Iran and Spain, given the many financial challenges of living abroad while seeking very expensive medical treatment.
It is for all the mentioned attributes in her that I am in a state of shock after hearing her in an interview expressing that she wishes to "first give it a try herself before the doctor". This chilling sentence was of course with regard to an act of qisas, an Arabic term for the Islamic jurisprudence meaning retribution based on the principle of an eye for an eye dated back to the old testament. In 2008, Ameneh's request for qisas was granted by a court in Iran and today this sentence is to be carried out.
Many International Human Rights Organizations have pleaded with Ameneh to reconsider this decision to no avail. Her response has been that she will not be able to forgive herself if this crime is repeated to someone else which in itself is ironic given that she will be inflicting the same pain upon someone else herself by dropping five drops of acid in the eyes of her attacker as sited in the court proceedings. This of course suggests an underlying deep disconnect and lack of empathy on her behalf. She then adds that the act of qisas would not bring any inner peace to her or restore her eyes but that it would prevent others from repeating the same crime when knowing the punishment for such an act would be equal retribution. There are many angles from which I can analyse her decision and prove that it is in contradiction of what she claims to be her moral ground on this matter but perhaps it is my human connection to her and her story above all that compels me to write on the matter. A realist outlook would argue that it is never possible to know the thoughts of others and frankly there is no way for us to know whether or not from here on every person who is thinking of committing a crime of acid throwing will think of her case before doing so. This general assumption requires that we first believe all communities or peoples she wishes to know of her case will have heard about it and second learned a lesson from it, which is completely implausible in actuality.
Acid throwing is not a new phenomena nor is the idea of punishment, whether it be capital punishment, equal retribution, a 12 year prison sentence, a few hours of community service, or sadly in many cases no punishment at all. We must realise that when an individual is disturbed enough to actually think of and later carry out such a crime they are least capable of the kind of cognitive reasoning Ameneh naively believes will take place as a result of her case.
On the issue of acting in the interest of civil society whom she feels the need to protect from the likes of her attacker, I wish she would consult with us or at least take into consideration the many pleas the international community has made with regard to reconsidering her decision before making such a judgment on our behalf. Because if I am ever attacked in such a way, I reserve the right to decide how I wish to seek justice just as she feels entitled to seeking justice her way today and I can assure you that my idea of justice differs very much from hers. Which brings me to the reason for which I resent her way of justifying her decision by hijacking societal interest and speaking on my behalf instead of simply saying that doing this would make her feel good and it's no body's business. But since that is not her argument and she has decided to make this about me and the many others she is trying to protect from such an event I would like to extend my had to her in partnership and ask that we work together to prevent this from happening to someone else in a much different manner.
If Ameneh really cares about the rest of society who is still at risk of such violent crimes in Iran she would realise that the same Sharia law she has called to her rescue when in search of justice is the one that has granted the likes of her attacker Majid Movahedi the plat form from which they carry out these unjust acts. Since the 1979 Islamic Revolution in Iran, discriminatory and degrading notions rooted in arbitrary interpretations of sharia law regarding the treatment of women are in ingrained in the minds of young boys in schools and society. We need to abolish the existing sharia laws and cultural structures that allow for violent and inhumane manifestations of acid throwing and stoning to exist against women in Iran instead of practising them to seek justice. We must educate the mind and heart of our children from within against the unacceptable norms set out by the Islamic Republic regime. We need not to make the Majids of this world blind for they already are blinded and brainwashed from an early age, but rather open their eyes.
It is only appropriate that I end with another profound quote in hopes that Ameneh finds the strength within to forgive her attacker before she commits to an act she may truly not be able to forgive herself for: "Returning violence for violence multiplies violence, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that." -- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
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I can't speak as to what I would I would if I
by babalu on Wed May 18, 2011 07:50 PM PDTWere in the same situation. It's hard to say...the pain she endured physically, emotionally, and psychologically is unfathomable. I also find the retribution-based (and late!) punishment to be barbaric and inhumane..yet so was his act. I guess this comment doesn't add much to the discussion in that I can take neither side. I only wish Ameneh peace and closure no matter how this ends.
About forgiveness
by statira on Tue May 17, 2011 07:37 PM PDTSuppose they blind this angry man who already demonstrated impulsive behavior, and release him. He will be more of a danger to the society and may harm others out of his uncontrolabe anger. But if he gets life in prison, there is no way for him to harm others.Plus being in prison esp the Islamic Republic type of a jail is worse than any type of Gesas.
Ditto :-)
by Shepesh on Mon May 16, 2011 11:39 AM PDT.
Shepesh. Thanks for the info.
by Anahid Hojjati on Mon May 16, 2011 11:36 AM PDTthanks for your comment exchange.
Anahid
by Shepesh on Mon May 16, 2011 11:28 AM PDTThere are women who have contacted the killers of their child, to me a more horrendous crime than having a disfigurement inflicted upon myself. These women have managed to make peace with what happened, unload emotional baggage, and perhaps even make some good flow from evil. Some I have read have gone on to become Counsellors and do a lot of inspiring work. I view these type of individuals as inspiring and a positive reaction to a negative event. I am not excusing the barbarity of the crime. I think on this occasion I agree more with Statira.
Thanks Shepesh but I don't see it as bitterness
by Anahid Hojjati on Mon May 16, 2011 11:31 AM PDTBitterness would be when one never forgives but if one has standards and does not think that blinding and disfiguring people is forgivable, I don't call it bitterness.
OK Anahid
by Shepesh on Mon May 16, 2011 11:01 AM PDTJust giving my opinion. I dont know who said this, but I remember it stuck in my mind.
“Bitterness is to the soul as cancer is to the body.”
If people know that they are always forgiven
by Anahid Hojjati on Mon May 16, 2011 10:22 AM PDTno matter what wrong they do, they have less incentive to become better people. Besides, some wrongs are forgivable and some are not. Throwing acid on someone's face, disfiguring them and blinding them in my book is not forgivable.
We forgive in order to heal and avoid becoming bitter
by Shepesh on Mon May 16, 2011 11:19 AM PDTBut harboring bad feelings and seeking revenge against another person is like a cancer that kills. It does not bring justice or peace. Enforcing the law is not revenge, but it is a payback in that it inflicts punishment in return for a violation.
They Should've ...
by Harpi-Eagle on Mon May 16, 2011 09:51 AM PDTExecuted the S.O.B.
Islam = Death of Civility
Payandeh Iran, our Ahuraie Fatherland
what is this nonsense about forgiving?
by Anahid Hojjati on Mon May 16, 2011 08:31 AM PDTI am not saying that she should throw acid into the jerk's eyes but you guys are so off to ask the victim to forgive the criminal.
Revenge
by statira on Tue May 17, 2011 07:36 PM PDTis not a good thing. I hope she will find the courage to forgive him and not to do the same act. He needs to get life in prison. And she needs to get whatever he has, house, land & money.