Passover

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by IranWrites
28-Mar-2009
 

Among the Jewish holidays, Passover is my favorite; it has something to do with its occurring around the Iranian New Year as well as something about its meaning which reminds me of most of our holidays: cleaning, preparing special foods, bringing symbolism into life, referring and pointing to one thing which stands for something else.

In our first Passover, my husband gave me a little brochure regarding what should be done. I do not remember how much of it I understood, but I never forget the hot taste of the horseradish on my pallet. I learned about chametz and cleaning the house in certain fashion. It was years later that I learned Passover is not just getting rid of chametz.

We spent the first Passover with my husband’s family, who were not very kosher about it. They zip through the little Maxwell House Haggadah and rushed over the roasted lamb. My husband’s grandfather, rest in peace, after the first page would announce, “Let’s assume we read it.” 

Little by little I learned more about this holiday as we occasionally attended the Seders where the Haggadah was read through more faithfully. As we moved to a more orthodox neighborhood and time passed by, I noticed that things were becoming more elaborate than what it was in Park Avenue and New Rochelle. Little by little the list of forbidden items became longer. The leavened bread ban was extended not only to other grains but to the green beans, green peas, sesame seeds and tahini sauce, mustard, and others which I had not idea what for. One Jewish friend explained many of these extensions was to build a fence around the law and to avoid whatever is doubtful, whatever could possibly be mistaken for wheat. Even mustard? I wondered.

As for the history of the tradition, it is told that Hebrew slaves were leaving Egypt towards the Promised Land, a hard and troubled trip through the desert full of hazards, which they succeeded in doing eventually. There are reference symbolically to all the hardship and pain that the Jews went through and many Haggadah have illustrated them beautifully and even humorously. Four questions are raised, always the same: why we eat matzo, why… and why… any why…? And the Table of the Covenant? I once asked, but guess what, I asked in the wrong place! No one knew the answer.

Several years ago we were invited to Rabbi Fund for a Seder. I did not dare ask any question in room full of rabbis. However, as if he read my mind, in a very elegant speech, the rabbi answered all my questions and said nothing about matzo, God bless him.

The rabbi explained that the Jews made a pact and committed themselves to this exodus. They knew they had a very hard and difficult road ahead, but they still accepted it full-heartedly. They were not forced but walked into it willingly and knowingly. Why? Why should anyone willingly accept hardship and danger? Is that not against human nature, to avoid what possibly would bring harm? Are we not supposed to prefer safety and survival? Why should our ancestor endanger their lives as such? The answer, of course, is “freedom.” They were willing to pass through the unknown desert from slavery to freedom. But was that all? Is this commemoration of one of a kind incident? And was this “freedom” found in Jerusalem? Was this freedom just an end? Rabbi Fund answered this very eloquently. No, freedom was not an end, it was not “there, in Jerusalem.” Freedom was in that “covenants,” in the “commitment” and in “choosing,” freedom comes when we choose one and commit ourselves to it, when we “make a pact,” when we accepted a way of life, no matter how difficult and hard it might be and when we let go of others possible choices; it was by “choosing” that we liberate ourselves from running astray.

Once more I felt how close we are, this notion of “choice” as a liberating factor which is celebrated in our life again and again, when we are named, when we become Bar Mitzvah, when we choose a partner, when we accept the citizenship of a country, or when we cast our votes. Is that not the same for all of us?

It is years since I, a goy, have lived among the believers. To my dismay, I found very little of any sort of these essentials we share together being acknowledged. On the contrary, efforts are made to distinguish us as much as possible. It seems there a competition to show how different we all are from each others. You think it is hard? Not at all. When we forget about the meaning, the cornerstone of humanity, and stick to the structure and forms, and there we are: the valley of differences and “otherness.”

Last night in the rows of “Kosher for Passover” products I was amazed at the variety of pastas in all forms and shapes (made with potato or matzo), the variety of cakes and cookies, covered and uncovered with chocolates or whatever else, which had filled the supermarket shelves. I wondered what would have happened if we did not eat cake or pasta for a week? What would happen if we deprived ourselves of certain things that we like? What would happened if we restricted ourselves for one week to a tiny flat matzo and cheese and spinach and eggplant and yoghurt and potatoes and tons of other vegetables and call it a week of deprivation for the sake of practicing “choice” and “commitment?” And what would happen if we repeated it every year? Nothing would happen, except that we just might grasp the meaning of these rituals, we might learn that committing ourselves is a virtue that would bring us more freedom, we might learn that a little restrain wouldn’t do us any harm, it might just give us a very satisfying feeling of achievement. We might learn that, after all, limiting our lives a little bit is not the end of the world; it just gives us more room to concentrate on our life and achieve our goals better. We might learn to celebrate “choice” as a real “freedom.” And then what? Nothing. We might learn almost that all religions share this in one way or another. Is it that so bad?

Have a happy Passover.

 

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Happy Passover!

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The scallion fight was very interesting, thanks. This weekend, I was the direct beneficiary of my jewsih friends clean up of their house from leavened bread. As she was cleaning her house of any trace of it, I got to take the most delicious homemade bread cakes. Although she occasionally makes those for me since she knows how much I love them, but I wished them a Passover evey month ;-)


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What a waste of food?? this

by maximaxi (not verified) on

What a waste of food??

this is so weird.. it doesnt look like anyone is remembering the 'jewish sufferings' and food is getting wasted.


Abarmard

Happy Passover

by Abarmard on

Thanks for sharing everyone. Happy Passover


Mona 19

Happy Passover :)

by Mona 19 on

Wishing all my Jewish hamvatan a joyful Passover season and happiness all through the year.

Respectfully,Mona 


Javad Yassari

Dear IranWrites

by Javad Yassari on

Thank you for your great blog.  Happy Passover to you and your family.

I think this is the ceremony Artificial Intelligence is talking about!  See this Iranian Jewish family in action.  It's great fun!


Artificial Intelligence

You are my favorite "goy" on Iranian.com

by Artificial Intelligence on

Thank you for this piece. It was very beautiful and reminded me of my childhood experiences in Iran with Passover and Norouz as they would come at the same time. Passover is also my favorite Jewish holiday.

The year that Diajan Napoleon came on tv in Iran- it fell on Norouz and passover at the same time. I remember going to my grandfather's house in Esfahan for over two weeks and watching the show on tv every night. It was all of the family, all the cousines, uncles and my aunts.... It was truly the funnest time of my life (I may have been 8 years old I think) and I really miss those times as you never feel the same family closness as families had in Iran.  Everything changed when we moved to the US. The bothers and sitsters, the cousins and the entire family is not as tight any more... the bonds are not as strong as they were for me in Iran- especially during passover and Norouz in Iran.

If you have not been to a persian Seder yet, Persian Jews have a custom that I have yet to see amongst any other Jews aroud the world. During the Dayenou ("dayenou" means enough) segment of the Seder, we hit each other with scalions (I guess its a reminder to being wipped as slaves in Egypt). Imagine 20 kids alowed to hit each other and their parents with scalions. World war 3 and lots of fun. To this day, its the most wondefull part of the seder for me as my kids enjoy hitting me with scallions as well. 

Thank you!