Why Women Have Sex?


Why Women Have Sex?
by Shazde Asdola Mirza

Men have sex for only one reason … pleasure. But it seems that women's sexual motivations are vastly complex, with no single reason fully dominating the others.

 A lady friend - let’s call her Sheri jon - is very interested in the complexities of women's sexual motivations. Me on the other hand, not as much fascinated by the motivations, as by the end result.

Sheri jon has studied many studies, to better fathom how women can achieve sexual satisfaction, through a deeper understanding of their own sex drives. Based on five sleepless (and sexless) weeks of research, she has … finally … concluded that:

  1. Altruistic sex (feeling sorry for the guy) seems to be common on first dates.
  2. Revengeful sex (to get back at someone) is behind many unexplained cases.
  3. Palliative sex (e.g. as cure for migraine) is often cited on Sunday mornings.
  4. Confidence building sex (yes, I can do him) targets the alpha-males.
  5. Barter sex (for gifts or advancement) can thrive in some malls and offices.
  6. Jealousy sex (to evoke envy in others) is more common than you think.
  7. Drum roll … drum roll … and the foremost reason why women have sex is for peacekeeping … that is to “keep the peace" at home!

For example, Sheri tells me of her experience when she was 27 and met an older guy. She was not physically attracted to him, nor did she want to be romantically involved. But she felt sorry for the guy, all gray hair and vulnerable. So she decided to get him home, and give him “a break”. As she was undressing, she felt powerful and sexy – and that feeling (not the guy himself) turned her on.

 [as for the guy – rest assured that he had the time of his life]

To my question as why she keeps doing it now … Sheri replies that the mystery of why women have sex, and what they want out of it, is an elusive puzzle.  Apparently, Sigmund Freud called it "Ze Great Question". For example, did you know that as many as 50% of women have trouble getting aroused at all?

Thanks god for the other 50%.


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VPK jaan

by Truthseeker9 on

Thanks for the truthful answer. Dont ever believe a woman who tells you they chose their partners on the basis of Orgasms. Who are they kidding?

Veiled Prophet of Khorasan

This is a whole bunch of nonsense about sex

by Veiled Prophet of Khorasan on


I am sorry to see this taken over by "women" vs "men" ***. Sex is not about power; or sympathy or any of the above. Of course Shazdeh has a good sense of humor and that is fine. But I will give the scientific reason.

The real reason is the same for men and women: evolution and reproduction. People who enjoy and love sex reproduce. Those who do not like sex don't reproduce. The more you are into it; the more kids. At least before we had birth control.

Therefore genes for people who like sex got to be passed on. The no sex genes did not. Hence we got a race that mostly loves sex. Of course there are differences all the time. But evolution never stops and routinely selects for sex and fertility. This is not just humans; it runs in all species. 

Sex was very much appreciated and sacred until Judea-Christianity. Ancient Greeks; Celts and Indians celebrated it. Only the joyless "angry God" types hate sex. Rather pretend to hate it and do it behind closed doors. They twisted a beautiful thing into a mockery of what is was meant to be. 

The worst of them were the Shakers who prohibited sex. Guess what happened to that group: pretty much disappeared.

Sex is a normal healthy part of humanity and not a bad thing. Both sexes are able to fully enjoy it. My personal experience requires a deep emotional relation. Without it I get no pleasure. Meaning prostitutes are not for me. Neither are one night stands with strangers. 

I also do not like the idea of "war of sexes". It is very silly and unproductive. I discussed that with my daughter. She told me the same thing. I do not see females as a different "species". My best friend is my daughter. 


A side bar on homosexuality: Gay people are less likely to reproduce but we have plenty of gays: why?

  • we do not know if homosexuality is genetic. I think it may have a genetic part but not 100% genetic.
  • assuming it is; many people are bi-sexual. I personally know gay people with kids where some of the kids are gay.
  • assuming it is: society pressured gay people to get "married" anyway. It just takes a good try to get a child. 

Dr. Mohandes

Mamane Omid

by Dr. Mohandes on

Since we are into reaching definitive and No-need-for-any-proof conclusions and we know for sure that men have sex only to achieve a monumental orgasm, I can assure you that women are only fooling themselves to think that they are faking anything. That is right. 

Women having sex with Machine!! Is only a sign of total insecurity and their various egotistical tendencies.. that is all it comes down to.

It is a good thing that at least you realize some women are actually having sex for the wrong reasons, chief among them being NOT KNOWING WHO THEY ARE!!!

First things first. 


Mamane Omid

by Souri on

Damet garm ,, khaonm! Very smart !

One short "javabe dandan shekan" to all the .....

Thank you.

Shazde Asdola Mirza

M-Omid jon: female orgasm doesn't count ...

by Shazde Asdola Mirza on

Apparently, it is just an urban myth created by the multi-national corporations, in order to sell more batteries.

Anahid Hojjati

Dear Mamane-Omid

by Anahid Hojjati on

but that is so 20th century :). actually your reason is a good one if not the best.



by Albaloo on

I couldn't agree with you more.



by Mamane-Omid on

Shazdeh jon;

None of your 7 reasons or those offered by others appear to be conducive to producing female orgasm. Is having sex for all the wrong reasons (not like men - for acheiving orgasm) why most women only fake orgasm?

In that case, we should look for the reasons why women have sex with their vibrator, since it seems to be almost the only sex that brings them to a climax every time. 




by Truthseeker9 on

Depends how financially independent she is. If she is well off, because he has a symmetrical face (good genes), otherwise they go for the salman rushdies. That's the simple way of putting it!

Veiled Prophet of Khorasan

Women sleeping with young men

by Veiled Prophet of Khorasan on


There is nothing wrong with it if they are both adults. I had the fortune when I was 19 and will always be indebted to her. She was older ~36 nice; pleasant and a great instructor. Without her I would have remained a total novice. It was an honor to give her pleasure and I do not feel used. Not one bit; it was great. We are friends to this day but she is married now. Besides is far away from me.

Tiger Lily

bad girls

by Tiger Lily on

hung over

black out

black coffee


who the hell is this cute guy?


oops, been there, done that, 

is there a videeeeeeeoooooooooooooooooooo ARGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH

tootchoot beepbeep


Shazde GREAT topic! I would like to say all the above!

by P_J on

And, because they like to pleasure us, and GREATLY pleasure themselves, and we love it!   LOL

Shazde Asdola Mirza

Oon Yaroo and Divaneh jan

by Shazde Asdola Mirza on

1. Ball and chain is much better and less expensive than divorce lawyer. The average husband actually looks better in ball and chain.

2. So 50% of the glass is full, eh. I am happy for you ... just leave the other 50% for us vetarans.

Shazde Asdola Mirza

فرامرز جان: هفت تا هفت تا ناقلا ؟

Shazde Asdola Mirza

Had totally forgotten about the V-day!

Any gift ideas for Feb 14?

Can't go wrong with choclate and champaign ... most women take more pleasure from those bad boys, than anything else anyway.

Shazde Asdola Mirza

Mash ghasem jan: healing it is

by Shazde Asdola Mirza on

Ovulation and child bearing are so 20th century, that no self-respecting modern woman would even admit thinking about those "things".

Shazde Asdola Mirza

سوری خانم : فقط دو تا ؟

Shazde Asdola Mirza

Thought that I must have forgotten at least two dozen!

Thanks for reminding.


Thanks Shazde

by divaneh on

I have never met those troubling 50% for some reason. On the contrary every woman that I have ever met has torn my clothes and kicked me to bed in the first night.


Why? Why not?

by Faramarz on


Why do men have sex?

1. Because she is right next to me and I have nothing else to do for the next hour.

2. Her moaning and groaning makes me feel like Tarzan.

3. I am meeting with the guys later on today and I need something to brag about.

4. I like her eye lashes.

5. That's the only time that I actually say great things about her without being forced.

6. I couldn't get Rihana's naked body out of my mind.

7. I can skip the workout this morning.

Why do women have sex?

1. Because she needs a second refrigerator to put in the garage for all the stuff she buys from Costco.

2. He is going on a trip and she doesn't want him to look at other women.

3. It is Valentine and tomorrow she needs to tell her friends that she had a romantic evening.

4. She wants him to fall asleep fast so that she can watch the late show.

5. She likes giving him the guilt trip afterwards.

6. It is too complicated for men to understand.

7. Sex, what sex?

Oon Yaroo

Shazdeh Jaan, Ball & Chain Sex!

by Oon Yaroo on

To trap you until eternity!

Mash Ghasem

Sexual Healing

by Mash Ghasem on


Mirza, would ovulation also be a factor in any of this?

Souri, older women taking on young men is often just to prove to
themselves they're still attractive. Also prostitution has so many
levels it's just incredible. Decades ago I worked in a University
(Workers' Education- Continued Higher Ed) we had some really attractive
female students going for their Master Degree, and doing 'exotic' dance
and ... on the side. Not your average "Sex Worker!"

P.S. Salman had that goddess next to him because he wrote a novel for her:

The ground beneath her feet: a novel



You forgot two cases

by Souri on

1) Women sleeping with the very young boys (35 woman with a 22 boy) or (50 woman with a 30 boy) etc...I think this goes to the same category that the young women with the older men.

2) Women who sleep with men only for their money (not the regular whore, of course) but like the ones who become sigheh....etc