There is a difference between a spouse and a lover

Soosan Khanoom
by Soosan Khanoom
02-Aug-2011
 

There is a difference between a spouse and a lover
and no one can be both
oh … no never

When you are with your spouse
life is just paying the bills
it's fighting over the kids
life is a promotion you get at work
by working late and caring no more

Life is the urge of feeding the ego
the only God that you’ve ever come to know

Life is this constant fighting
over who is right
it is I hate you and I want you out
life is nothing but being stuck
like a donkey in the mud

But...
when you are with your lover..

Oh ... when you ARE with your lover
life is a flower
a dream with mesmerizing  streams
a poem
a soothing ghazal of desire.....

Life becomes nothing but a Love logo
it is I die if you ever go

There is a difference between
a spouse and a lover
and no one can be both

Oh … no never

 

HSK

aka Darya 

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Faramarz

Looking for Mr. Goodbar

by Faramarz on

Nice poem Soosan Khanoom. I can tell that it's coming from the heart!

It reminded me of Don't Ask to Stay Until Tomorrow by Marlena Shaw from the movie Looking for Mr. Goodbar

 

//www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6_Wufy5ZjY&feature...


Monda

Way to go Bavafa!

by Monda on

Enjoyed your poem and the thread, Soosan khanom.


Mehrban

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by Mehrban on

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Mash Ghasem

نه مى‌‏دانيم عشق چيست.

Mash Ghasem


 ترانه: ژاک پره ور


 

- امروز چه روزى است؟
- ما خود تمامىِ روزهاييم اى دوست
ما خود زند‌گى‏ايم به تمامى اى يار،
يكديگر را دوست مى‌‏داريم و زند‌گى مى‏‌كنيم
زند‌گى مى‏‌كنيم و يكديگر را دوست مى‌‏داريم و
نه مى‌‏دانيم زند‏گى چيست و
نه مى‏‌دانيم روز چيست و
نه مى‌‏دانيم عشق چيست.

//www.shamlou.org/index.php?q=node/535

* شعرهای پره‌ور را در این آدرس بخوانید.


Mash Ghasem

Oh Mamy Blue, Oh Mamy...

by Mash Ghasem on

Well, poetry has all different levels and altitudes, below the surface, above the surface, below the sheets, above the sheets, no sheets at all, sometimes it's as subterranean as it gets. Once a year is a pretty good arrangement though..

I leave you with this oldie of mine.

Mamy Blue- Pop Tops

//www.youtube.com/watch?v=nwVfci-YtMM

 


Soosan Khanoom

MG..... oh là là

by Soosan Khanoom on

Indeed it sounds too tempting !!

I haven't seen the movie and never heard of it but I will have it on my to watch list   ... thanks for the link  

You and me may not politically get along but poetically we can get along pretty well   ; ) 

 

 

 

 

 


Bavafa

SK: amen to that

by Bavafa on

 

'Hambastegi' is the main key to victory 

Mehrdad


Mash Ghasem

...

by Mash Ghasem on

Tis begining to sound like this movie:

Same time, next year

//www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqpWAiLJZOw

//en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Same_Time,_Next_Year

Story of two lovers that meet once a year, and make poetry, under the sheets. Same time, next year: pretty simple plot.

Now, a once a year commitment: that  is very tempting.

 


Soosan Khanoom

LOL ... Divaneh

by Soosan Khanoom on

You know it has been said that the secret to a good marriage is in its secrets ... 

  : ) 


divaneh

Conclusion

by divaneh on

Every person needs a spouse and a lover.

Thanks for the good poem.


Soosan Khanoom

truthseeker

by Soosan Khanoom on

That was really a good article...I agree with many things he said especally if I look at it with my western eyes ....   I, however, have the opposite in mind and  that is because in  the Iranian culture you get married for diferent reasons other that what he stated. ...I will write more later...

but thanks I really liked the article especially this statement which is so true and the sad thing is that these types of affairs are going unnoticed and there is no punishment for it .... 

"But "affairs" don't always happen in the form of "marital infidelity." Many times people find extramarital fulfillment in activities outside of marriage such as work, a profession, church, religion, a hobby, a friendship, substance abuse, social life or "traveling for business."




Truthseeker9

dear SK,

by Truthseeker9 on

I didn't know you wrote the poem! But rhymes and poetry aside, this might be some interesting reading. Perhaps there is no right person after all, just the right attitude and emotional growth.

I Married the Wrong Person!


Soosan Khanoom

Bavafa jan

by Soosan Khanoom on

I hope this lovey dovey marriage of yours last for a long time .....   There is always an exception to the rules ..... You probably have picked your lover to spend the rest of your life with rather than just an spouse.

:  ) 


Soosan Khanoom

Truthseeker9 thanks for stopping by

by Soosan Khanoom on

Poor reader he thinks he is married to the right person.  : ) 

PS ... this poem may well be non-personal .. i will take the 5th on that but i had fun writing and rhyming ....

And it speaks of many marriages that are doomed to fail ....   


Soosan Khanoom

Anahid ....

by Soosan Khanoom on

I agree forever is a long time ....

Why should we wait till death do us apart ?   

 LOL  


Soosan Khanoom

Dear Yolanda

by Soosan Khanoom on

You brought up a very good question and a great point .... I will write about in much more detail and will sate my opinion on this issue ... 

Thanks

 


Soosan Khanoom

Also

by Soosan Khanoom on

Women do not need Viagra but men do .... You see for men  as much as they talk sex thay can not do it as they age ... yes talk is cheap...... but for women, however, it is completely the opposite ...That is why older men and younger women are sexually more able to satisfy themselves and the same is true for older women with younger men .... I am speaking about the Hormonal levels which has been scientifically proven...


Soosan Khanoom

Rea

by Soosan Khanoom on

How can you say there is no difference ??? 

LOL .....  


Rea

When they both need viagra

by Rea on

..... the only difference is in the pocket.

Me down to earth. ;o)

//youtu.be/WCkOmcIl79s

Late here, nite. 


yolanda

..........

by yolanda on

So who doomed the relationship and the love? The kid(s)?


Truthseeker9

Poor poet

by Truthseeker9 on

I think she married the wrong person.


Anahid Hojjati

Nice poem Soosan Khanoom.

by Anahid Hojjati on

It does look like that some married couples are not enjoying their married life. I think in this time and age, may be the idea that two people stay together 40/50/60 years, it is a bit scary. But if you look at a marriage and it lasted some years and some good came out of it, may be it is good enough. When it gets to the point when people are not enjoying it, they should get divorce and find another relationship that makes them happy.


Rea

Ten years ago, I would've said ...

by Rea on

.... yeah. But not now.

Unless he pays the bills, there is no difference except for the virtual blah, blah. 


Bavafa

For some one that is not into poetry

by Bavafa on

I really enjoyed this one.

And it may sound corny, but my lover is my spouse and no…we are not newly wed :)

Thanks for sharing it.

'Hambastegi' is the main key to victory 

Mehrdad