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تجاوز

تجاوز جنسی‌ توسط محارم و نزدیکان از قدیم در ایران وجود داشته، بخصوص در خانواده‌های مذهبی‌ و در مراکز مذهبی‌. سابقا که مکتب خانه در بسیاری از دهات و شهر‌ها رواج داشت، ملا‌ها از هر فرصتی برای تجاوز به کودکانی که برای یادگیری قرآن به مکتب می‌رفتند استفاده میکردند. در طبقات دیگر جامعه هم بدلیل محرومیت‌های جنسی‌ وجود داشت. خانمی  که دکتر زنان و زایمان بود میگفت گاهی‌ مادران دختران کم سنّ و سال خود را که حامله شده بودند پیش او میاوردند برای چاره جویی. وقتی‌ در غیاب مادر از دختر می‌پرسید که پدر بچه کیست، اغلب عمو، دایی، پدر یا برادر خود را نام میبرده است. اکثر آنها برای حفظ آبرو، خواهان سقط جنین بوده اند که در ایران آسان نبوده است. خانمی که در ایران مهد کودک داشت، میگفت دختر جوانی از نزدیکان یکی‌ از ملی‌- مذهبی‌ها حامله شده و نوزاد او را از بدو تولد پیش او گذاشته بودند و مدتها طول کشید تا او را بردند. متأسفانه ا ماری از این‌گونه جنایات در دست نیست و فقط آزمایشات ژنتیکی‌ میتواند تا حدی مسائل را روشن کند که آن هم عملی‌ نیست

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Thanks RW jan for the email. ~ Shaad Zi.

Red Wine aziz: about Aryanpour

speaking of Amir-Hossein Aryan-pour, I met him for the first and last time in 1994, at his home in the company of a psychologist friend who used to be his student. Of course, I had listened to his speeches before from afar, standing at the door among a group of outsiders who were avid fans of his. On that day, when we entered his narrow courtyard, we saw him descending the stairs to greet us while he was suffering from leg pains. He had become very old and had been condemned to House Arrest for reasons nobody knew! But he was feisty as usual.

We sat in his living room and chatted with him for hours. He was most amicable and modest, very knowledgeable (beyond sociology), authentic (which is rare) and an absolute gentleman (more rare in Iran.) For a minute, his only son, a painter, showed up with a large colourful abstract, then disappeared. We continued talking. He told us lots of funny stories about the past and in relation to his students and the SAVAK, and the room was filled with loud laughters.

A funny thing was that that day I went to the washroom at least 4 time - well, we stayed with him for a long time. Every single time I got up to go, be stopped what he was saying or hearing and stood up for me. A man of my father’s age, imagine. The first two times were fine, but he was adamant in being an old-fashioned gentleman and I was begging him not to get up for me.

Anyway, I wrote this episode unrelated to the blog's subject, because you mentioned his name
name and I felt nostalgic :)

Cheers,

Azadeh

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کاش از امثالِ خانمِ آزاد در محافلِ آموزشی ایرانیان استفاده شود تا بشود از عقاید / نظرات / مشاهدات / تجربیاتِ ایشان به صورت علمی‌ بهره برد...به خصوص جوانانِ ایرانی.

از ایشان بسیار سپاسگزاریم .

پ . ن : یادِ امیر حسین خان آریان پور نیز به خیر.

Entitlement to power

In all male-dominated societies, from Western countries to the poorest African regions, men have been told that they are superior to women and entitled to do with them whatever they wish. They have been told that a real man must be powerful. There is a minority of rapists are mentally ill, but the majority are those men who feel inferior or deprived of POWER. Those men with inferiority complex and sense of entitlement to power, choose to rape the close relatives because they know their victim often remains silent for obvious psychological reasons (confusion, betrayal, fear of not being believed or being harmed by the relative).

I heard of a dozen of cases of incest during the Shah. However for the last three decades, the fact that under Sharia Law a woman MUST SUBMIT to her husband, has reinforced the idea that women are born for the pleasure of men, that if a man, any man, cannot get it with sex workers or cannot get married or has enough of his wife and wants more, well, there are plenty of boy and girl children in the extended family available to him.

The element of entitlement to power is the most pernicious aspect of rapes. A real man must have power over someone (and power here means someone being afraid of you).

Rape is much more an exercise of power than seeking sexual pleasure. The real culprit is the masculinist culture of a man must have power over someone to be valued. During the 1990's in Iran, a university professor of Economics boasted to me about his status by stating how much his students were afraid of him. Feeling superior by CREATING FEAR and rendering the "Other" to nothing or by CONTROLLING the OTHERS is the source of thousands of social ills including rape and incest.

Rape and incest are *only one aspect* of the practice of male domination over women and children (boys and girls).

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خاک بر سرشان کنند... اینها را باید تا به ابد حبسِ زندان کرده تا اعمال شاقّه انجام دهند.

ما تعجب می‌کنیم که چرا حضراتِ بزرگواری که دائم دم از آزادی و حقوق زنان در ایران می‌‌زنند،درینجا حاضر نیستند و بساط گرگم به هوا داغِ داغ ! ...‌ای وای .

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نمیدانم آیا باید بخاطر نقل قول بی‌ پرده و صادقانه خود(تا آنجا که حافظه‌ام
اجازه میدهد) ، از شما بخصوص بانوان عزیز عذر‌خواهی‌ کنم یا نه...

زمان: حداقل پونزده، بیست سال پیش

مکان: ایستگاه اتوبوس تیوب

این دختر ایرونی‌ به اون یکی‌: از هشت‌نه‌ سالگیم داییم منو میکرد.

-تا کی‌؟ کسی‌ نفهمید؟

-تا وختی که دیگه به عقل اومدم..

-شانس آوردی حامله نشدی...الان کجاس؟

-توی سپاهه...