eyeranian

Eyeranian. I'm beginning to

Eyeranian. I'm beginning to wonder if this is a sex advice column. Is it? Or do you respond to other questions too, such as, how to I get my mother in law to be less snoopy or how do I get my co worker to eat less garlic. Please let me know, I have some things I need advice on.
But as to what applies to this blog, I have a question. If a woman is in a sexual situation with an Iranian man, should he say "who's your daddy" or "babat kieh". This has always been an issue and I've told my lover to stay away from it. When we say babat...it's so unsexy. It makes me think of my dad watching Price is Right and giving me apple slices. But "who's your daddy", at the right time, can drive me over the edge. What about, things like "are you gonna be my b*ich?" or other things we can say when we pull hair and all of that fun stuff. Are there any Farsi equivalents? This is a very serious question, thanks to anonymity maybe we can all learn a thing or 2.
Please advise.

aucontrarie (sorry about spelling)

You guys are taking it very wrong. You are making it a moral issue. Its kind of like taking medicine all year to avoid a cold in the winter. Some issues are better dealt with symptomatically. If you have allergies to pollen take some antihistamine in the season. Its not a moral issue. Anyway be more with times and stop acting hezbullahi.

To eyeranian

Well, there was a time when Iranian men felt uncomfortable by the idea of strangers hanging around their neighborhood (mahaleh) and checking out the girls. Nowadays, Iranian women are asking them about being "spanked" by kharejis!! and some of them are replying to her that she should keep her Iranian bf/husband on one hand AND find another man to spank her!!

Way to go for gheyrat! (which is of course now a taboo word)

Love It!

LOL, I wish I had thought of the term "shapalakh"!

My advice, The chick

My advice, The chick perspective.

Honey, if you have to ask about this, it's time you leave poindexter and move on. Most Iranian men, from what I've gathered on this site alone, like porn. Which means, they have NOOO problem with a shapalakh now and again.

A Few Replies!

Ali1234: I don't see L&S boasting in her question. If anything, she only asked the question after seeing the topic raised and requested her name to be kept off, both of which suggests to me an element of discretion. Also, maybe the other writer was correct in suggesting that I have been out of Iran for too long, as I also don't see how our "pride and gheyrat" is suddenly under question when an Iranian female asks a frank question about her intimate life but not when millions of them have their every right stumped upon at home.

Alborzi: I believe you wrote that as a justification for yourself and for something you are doing or would like to, as L&S never said anything to make us conclude she "needs both."

Arash5: You are assuming L&S is is in a monogomous and exclusive relationship, when in reality we don't really know that.

Mani321: I don't think I understood much of your note. L&S is not married to anyone and certainly not to an Iranian nerd. Maybe you just needed an excuse to tell us about sex with your ex, or hoped L&S follows up with a note to hook up? Whichever it was, hope things work out!

Proof that Iranians do it

Dear “Leather & Spank”,

I am a middle aged Iranian man. My ex-girlfriend was into spanking, hand cuffs and other minor S&M type thrills. Thrills that I was more than happy to oblige. We are both, outwardly, very conservative individuals. But we did whatever turn us on when we were alone.

Just wanted to share this with you so you don't give up on all Iranian men. I hate to tell you this, but, it seems, you've married an Iranian nerd. There ARE other kinds. In love (& lust) and war, all is fair.

I suggest you open up this dude's eyes. Unless he is a total geek, I bet he'll eventually see the light and drop his middle aged middle eastern hangups.

Good luck

To Alborzi

Stop spreading this kind of sick mentality. Staying into relationship with someone and satisfying perversions with other?!! I am just sorry for you....

You need to be more open

You see the way of finding some person who spanks you, might leave you with a person that is too domineering and bossy. Maybe even too psycho, this would not be a pleasant relation at all. The better way to go is to continue with the current boy friend or even some one who is better and at times relieve that urge by finding some one who is into s&m. In fact you get better
pleasure from a taboo and secret relation that the straight arrow. But you need both.

It's so sad to see that we

It's so sad to see that we have reached a point where Iranian girls are boasting about being "spanked" by "khajeri" men...

Not a shred of pride and gheyrat is left in us.